If you have an argument or tiff with your partner or hubby, do you resolve it before you go to bed, not speak for days, do his meals, or agree to disagree??
Do you apologise if you know were wrong....!!
Most of our tiff are because he's forgotten what I've said, or he say's that I never said something when I know I damn well did!!
I spent a week once virtually writing down everything I said- and that wasn't much I tell you!!!lol

Good thread

we're both leo and we are both stubborn!! very very rare that we go to bed on an argument!!

we both sort of give in because we always need to chat about the baby and she keeps us smiling and reminding us that we love each other!

Cadie, if I didn't know you better, I'd think you were being yucky in love hun!!!

lmao... trust me... my yucky in love days are well over and done with! he used to get butties for work at the beginning..

Me and hubs dont tend to go to bed on an arguement and one or the other usually makes the first move - to be honest it varies. If i know im in the wrong/ started it/ was being plain bitchy etc then il apologise, and its the same for him i think.

When we first got together our arguements were more extreme - and now we just tend to laugh at eachother in the end - i can never keep a straight face when he comes over thats my problem!!! (im like 'come on sulking face'!!)

Ive have been in past relationships when i feel like i could just sulk forever (and am not too bothered about making up!!!) and that was not a good feeling. Now i HATE not talking to eachother (but will still sulk if necessary!)

LOL relationships - you gotta laugh!xxx

I win.
Just about all the time LOL 'Sometimes' on the rarest of occasions, I'll concede to him so that his poor little masculine ego will get a boost ROFL
But the fact is: I'm the rooster in this house and just about everyone knows it.
Honestly, he prefers it that way. He prefers that I take charge and make the decisions. Probably because if it's the wrong one, then he's not responsible for it LOL
I find it exhausting sometimes cuase sometimes I really don't want to take charge and just want a break.
But usually I prefer to be the boss LOL

And when he's in the wrong.. he's the one that apologizes (of course, it's usually cause he gets heated with his opinions and I tell him I won't tolerate that kind of talk and if he can't act adult, then get out ROFL)
I can debate, he can't.. he just gets frustrated or mad LOL

Although, he does get annoyed about not making more of the decisions regarding the girls. And i told him flat out: spend more time with them, read parenting books as I do, talk to other parents like I do for advice/ideas, etc etc THEN you can make more decisions.

Now I am more 'mature' I will appolgise quite happily if it means that the argument is got over with quickly. when I am really mad I might go into a 'quiet' mode for a couple of hours.. but the majority of the time I find life is a lot easier when one can back down. When I was younger I couldnt back down .. cut my nose to spite my face on two relationships... but I feel I am too long in the tooth to destroy a good thing just over one little word 'sorry' even if I am not at fault! My hubby has been known (on occation) to actually appologise to me too ... must be catching lol!!!

Yeah, my hubby says sorry too, didn't mean it and all that.
WHY BLOODY SAY IT IN THE FIRST PLACE THEN, THATS WHAT I WANNA KNOW!!!!

im a typical scorpio and my hubby is a gemini, we not supposed to get on at all, rubbish, but when we argue, he is normally the one to say sorry first, as he is the one to start the trival argument, i will only say sorry if i know im wrong, which aint often i might add and no other time. i have gone to bed and not spoke to hubby for days, if he dont say sorry - but i will also add that i do forgive pretty fast too, just so that the original argument doesnt fester

we always make up before bed..i will apologise if i was off the mark and vice versa. i hate arguing and so does he..we keep it to the point and dont go off track..more a loud discussion,lol. and never any name calling..i respect my man and he does me. no one ever consistently has the same opinion, we all see things differently at times..IMO it shouldnt always come down to who was right or wrong..been there in previous relationship and its too draining

your just kidding right?

When I was reading these posts it made me think back to what my Late Father always said jokingly...

"There was a time when I was wrong,
That was the time, I thought I was wrong.... But I wasn't"



The Nail Fairy

Actually, NO.
And when we do argue, he's the one that ends up getting mad and saying something stupid or insulting, soooo he gets the silent treatment till he apologizes.
There's arguing/debating an issue, and then there's acting like an idiot.
NOW when I'm wrong, YES I do apologize (I missed answering part of the question). However, usually it's him simply because he can't "discuss" and ends up saying something rude or insulting because he can't argue his point, he resorts to being nasty.

And if you ask him, he'll tell you "she's the boss". He honestly does NOT want to make decisions. I have actually had fights with him on some issues BECAUSE he won't tell me his own thoughts. It's "whatevers fine with you" "you decide".. well, that's not the answer. I NEED input, HELLO?
And, for stuff that is totally unrelated to me, does not affect me, he'll want my opinion.
Example: buying a car. I dont drive. I dont have a license. What the F*** do I know about cars and what's a good deal or whatever? Diddly squat, that's what I know. But in 8yrs, for 2 different cars, he absolutely insisted that I decide which car, no matter how much I told him "I DON'T KNOW". In fact, for the first car, the salesman kept looking to me for an answer since hubby wouldn't answer him and looked to me for an answer.. I DONT DRIVE!!!
Like I said, more often than not, I prefer to be the boss. However, it does get tiring sometimes, and aggravating that when I do want DESPERATELY to have his input, he won't give it to me. It's been like this since day 1.
And according to his mom, since the day he popped out of the womb.