Hi geeks

Just had a lovely couple round to view the house. They really liked it and want a second viewing and have gone away to crunch some figures so fingers crossed they will come back with the right offer.

Whilst I am very pleased, I am also feeling very overwhelmed by the whole emigration thing at the mo. I have spent the last week rushing around trying to organise things and haven't really had time to stop and think about things.

Alan is off to Calgary on the 11th Dec for some job interviews and to have another look round maybe look as some rentals and stuff and the whole thing is beggining to feel a little scary - i guess that is not unusual and I am not changing my mind for one single minute as we have already done that once and really regretted and have been lucky to get a second chance.

I think it has just has dawned on me what is involved, leaving people behind and my fab new salon job. The house is just begining to look nice and Alan's business is booming. Why are all these great things happening when we are going to be moving abroad?

Or, to look on it from a different angle, why are you moving abroad with all of that happening?

You need to seriously ask yourself if it's what you both want.
This is reality kicking in sweetheart, it happened to us too. We sold our house the week before Christmas 2003, we moved in with hubby's parents, 4 of us and the 2 of them in a 3 bed house, it was mayhem for a while until we'd all got used to the idea and settled in.
We found our house (the one we eventually bought) in January 2004, we viewed it, fell in love with it and went back to the b&b to mull it all over. We made for's and against's for buying the house, talked about it in depth and left it at that, we were going to put a deposit on it... that night hubby didn't sleep a bloomin' wink, he was tossing and turning all night long, when I woke up the next morning he told me that he wasn't sure that we were doing the right thing and he didn't know if he wanted to move aborad I was gobsmacked as it was him that had the drive and enthusiasm as our move got closer and closer. What had happened was reality had kicked in BIG TIME and he was now wondering if we'd made the right decision.
We had a big talk and decided that if it all went wrong we'd sell up and move back to England, no guilt, no worries, no problem. Having that to fall back on was what encouraged him to say 'yes'.
I can honestly tell you that none of us regret it at all... yes we did get homesick for a while, but that's normal when you leave family behind, it doesn't mean you won't see them again, it just means that the time you spend together when you do see them will be mega quality time and you'll learn to appreciate it more than you might do now.

I think that these types of things are going through your head right now, you're wondering if it's the right thing, even though on the outside you're telling yourself (and everyone else) that you definitely want to move.

hugs to you, you're about to embark on a new life, if it doesn't go to plan then make a pact with your partner that you can return back to England with no guilt.

sandi - flowerpot - why is it you always talk sense - must be why i bloody love ya to death

i know u must be scared hun but you have been here before and regrettted not going, it scarey but you gotta at least try or you will doubt yourself forever xxx