I dont know what to do.
my youngest daughter is being picked on at school. there's a bunch of girls who call them selves the S.L.A.G. crew. and for some reason they've decided to pick on my danielle.
i know its jealousy but i'm sooo peed off with it. i'm even thinking of taking her out of school till it stops..

they got her surrounded yesterday and luckily a teacher came so she got away.
what i really want to do is kill them all but i'll end up inside lol.
the arkward thing is,, I do the nails of the mum of one of them and she's lovely.

what would you do???

Go straight up to the school and speak to her teacher to make sure someone is looking out for her during the school day. Then ask the school to speak to the parents of the kids concerned. If my kid was calling herself a member of the S.L.A.G crew...I would want to know!!!!!
It makes my blood boil.....I too was bullied in school.

talk to the mum !!!!!!!

if i was told one of my girls was being a bully i would be mortified....i would drag there backside to this girls house and make her apologise to the whole family.....

i have just been though this with my eldest daughter....her best mate (who's mum is my close friend) and group of about 6 fell out with her...she was so upset as they didn't bother to say why.....i don't mind them falling out...its just the nasty stuff i don't like...playing football with her packed lunch....tripping her up....punching her....name calling....i kept telling my daughter to stand up to them...but she was left with only 2 mates at play time and none in her class and just wanted it to go back to the way it was.....i gave it a few days and then told my friend...she was amazing about it and just as we where talking about what to do...they came out of school handing hands...sods law. xx

I would talk to her mum, Id go crazy with my daughter if i found out she was bullying, as I think most parents would. Also a good idea to speak to the school, bullying isnt tolerated nowadays. Hlope you get this sorted, its awful being bullied.

My daughter was bullied at school nearly all of last year and the beginning of this. Its' a terrible thing for a child and the family to go through as it is always brought home.

Talk to the school, headmaster/mistress, make your concerns known to the school governors aswell they have alot of clout. Also you can let the education authority know too. Be relentless as I was, fortunately it has stopped now but only because I am one of those mothers' thats like a rottweiller and will not let go once my teeth are sunken in.

Also get your daughter a diary, tell her to write down every incident that occurs even if it is sticking their tongues out at her (which I'm sure it probably isn't), this will work to her advantage.

Make sure she also has somebody at the school whom she has formed a good relationship with (mentor, teacher, teaching assistant) so she can go and talk to them whenever she may feel down or threatened.

Stay strong and don't do as I did in the beginning and turn into a fishwife and screamed at the girl.

Good Luck, pm me if you want.

Lots of hugs

Teri x

You need to go to the school give them a chance to sort it out and if there any good they will.Iv just had it all with my son who is 13 school have been great has been tough but hopefully getting there

This site is great people are fantastic took my lad to the one day workshop in london really worth it and believe me its an eye opener to what goes on out there.
Kidscape - Preventing Bullying and Child Abuse

I forgot to say aswell to get a copy of the schools' anti-bullying policy. Every school has one and you are entitled to see it. That way you can make sure that the school is doing everything within their powers that they should be.

Failing that I'll come and sort the little sh**s out.
A massive bug bearer of mine this bullying lark!

Teri x

I've been through all this for the past couple of years with my 13 year old daughter and it's awful.

I focussed on teaching my daughter how to deal with it, the school tried to help but really, they can't do much, so it was up to my daughter to work around it.

She found other groups of friends, older ones, younger ones, boys and even spent alot of time helping out in the Disabled Unit of the school in her lunch breaks.

This helped her because no matter what was going on, she always felt she could walk away and find another group to hang out with, even it was just for that day until the other's all forgot about what they were fighting for and they were all friend's again.

Hope this helps.x

We would live in a much better place if all partents were like that,but some just aren't.

Go to the school hun,i think that will be the best place to start

pet hate of mine

i was bullied very badly at school made my life a friggin misery.

It was a different girl every other day that wanted to kick my head in (no one ever did oddly enough!)

Talk to the school, if you can talk to the parents (they maybe just as bad they maybe mortified you wont know unless you speak to them!)

NIP IT IN THE BUD before it gets out of hand mate, if anyone did to my daughter what they did to me at school i would be FURIOUS.

Good luck let us know how you get on with this babes

amb x

My daughter now 15 was bullied for most of last year. The ringleader was a girl from a ruff family in the area so there was no hope talking to her mom. The school were not very helpful at first until we wrote to the head governor , then the head master ask my daughter to keep a diary of events and every time she was bullied I went to the school to complain. Some of the girls were suspended and there parents were informed.
My daughter had to see the school councilor and had self estem lessons, which help loads.
After the summer holidays thing have been much better and she only gets a few snide remarks from the ring leader which she ignors all the other girls havent said or done any bullying since.

Keeping a diary was very usefull and also getting witneses,luckly she had some very good freinds who backed her up.
KEEP ON TO THE SCHOOL!!!
Hope you little girls bullyng stops soon.

Hi
It depends how friendly you are with the other girl's mum and how you think she would take it. Might be an idea to involve her before you approach the school. I would definately make an appointment with the Head and let him/her know what is going on and what the school propose to do about it. A diary is also a good idea, with your daughter taking down the names of anyone who saw the event. If you don't get any joy with the school, approach the education authority and make an appointment with the Director of Education (that's the title in Scotland, presume it will be the same in England). Parent power is what counts and they will take notice of you.
Good luck and I hope you get a happy outcome!

I really feel for you daughter, bullies are mindless t***s. I don't think schools do much these days, keeping diaries etc only serves to remind the poor kid what he/she's going through on a daily basis. You have to tell her to be strong, school days should be great fun.

My friends daughter was bullied a few years ago - one day, she really had enough of being bullied and talked down to/belittled and ended up slapping the bully so hard - it never happened again. She found the inner strength to stand up to them. She was 14 at the time, and now is happy, still at the same school and has not had problems since.

Please don't think I am condoning violence, but I hope your girl can find the inner strength to stand up for herself and not be treated like this. School is a place to learn, above all, and if anyone is not getting that chance to learn then the school should removed the bully(ies) - sadly they don't. I've even heard of the bullies getting counselling for THEIR Inner problems - wtf?! I see the theory behind it... but anyway, I would just keep telling your girl school is not forever and as you say, it is probably jealousy.

Our neighbours girl moved schools recently - have you considered that?

I hope this will help ,my little boy brought a flyer home for anti bullying week,next week,here are the websites listed wich may be of some assistance to you

www.anti-bullyingalliance.org.uk
www.there4me.com
ChildLine Home
Bullying Online - School bullying help, advice and support

Hth hun x