I think growing old together is a beautiful thing, we can remember how we were (or our husbands were) when we first met and that's great but we will all change as we get older its the 'law' (of gravity!!) better to love each other through it. Yes, encourage a healthy lifestyle but be comfortable in our own skin, I'm much happier and more relaxed and fun in our 16th year of marriage than I was in the first. My husband and I are pathetic in our nonsense groping when the kids aren't looking but its fun and keeps us laughing, which is the best medicine.
and act willing, even when you're not in the mood - you might surprise yourself - whether he or you has a paunch or not.

Both hubby and i have gained weight since we first got together.... still fancy the very bones of him and vice versa. But actually what makes me fancy him more is actually who he is

We help each other out if one of us wants to diet or live a healthier lifestyle, dont judge if one of us has indulged and giggle about our wobbly bits.... anyone remember the truffle shuffle?!? We both get a giggle on if one if us does it.

Love yourself honey, even your jiggly bits. Imho weight shouldnt be an issue between hubby and wife what should matter is the time you spend with one another, how you look after each other and how you help each other.

Ive said it once ill say it again lovely your avatar is that of pretty lady

If you accept yourself as beautiful and sensual, that will emanate through every pore of your skin. You will literally drip beauty and sensuality. Believe it with every bit of your being and he will see it in you.

I've said it on the forums before. I'm not young, nor thin and I'm no beauty, but I'll make a man stop in his tracks because I think I'm all that. You need to feel that, too.

Get your groove back and watch him reconnect.