We live miles apart but I thought the long dist thing was working....But....he never wanted to come down to see me. I was doing all the travelling. I knew it was not right but I kept hanging on in there. We spoke the other night on the phone. I asked where things were going and I needed him to come to see me more too as its only fair. He said he did not want to do that. I said I did not know where I stood and he replied that he was 'Very Fond Of Me'

I asked if he wanted to be with me and he said 'I would not ask you to come see me if I didnt didnt want to be with you' when I asked if he was happy with me he said 'Yes at the moment' I said that is a weird thing to say, he said that he did not know what the future held he could go off me,I could go off him ' I found that really hurtfull

He did ring me all the time everyday so Im confused by what his feelings for me were??

He told me a while ago he loved me,missed me,wanted me to move in with him and I asked why he had said all that.
He said that when I was with him he felt very close to me and wanted me there but when I came home it didnt really bother him and he just got on with his life. (Hurtful or what)

Im so confused because when we were together we got on fine never had bad words and Im finding it hard to forget all the good times but we never went out anywhere as he wanted to save his money.

I just need to know I have done the right thing by finishing this now and not being over sensative. We were together 5 months.

Im just scared of being on my own again as my self asteem is rock bottom.........

Sorry for long message but I just need some advise

Thanks

xx

Oh hun, I know its horrible when you split from somebody, but it sounds like you were putting in al the effort and he wasn't, thats not fair. Keep your head up hun, things will turn out alright in the end. Holl x x x

I just need to know I have done the right thing by finishing this now and not being over sensative. We were together 5 months.


only you can say if you have done the right thing! Have you spoken to him since??? x x x

Like Hollie said it sounds as though it was only YOU putting the effort in. Remember there are plenty more men out there and from your avatar pic I'd say you were a really good looking lass (if that's you ) So pick yourself up and get out with all them men!!

Enjoy yourself! Things will come right for you in the end

Break ups are always hard but I can bet you in a few months you'll be laughing about this, so chin up

He has made no contact with me since the split. If he wanted to make it work I think he would have made an effort but he hasnt.
I also found out he was talking to other girls on dating sites too.......so trust went completely out of the window. He denied it and lied to my face and tried to make out I was going crazy. He promised he was on the site but not talking to anyone....Im not THAT stupid!!
Im just really hurt and disappointed thought I had finally found THE ONE but turned out to be the usual tosser. Feel a fool

aw hunnio.... long distance relationships can be v hard.... how far away was he?
plus men can be rite gits (thats me being polite..lol)
i was in a long dis relationship for a few yrs and in the end the distance did split us up... but i now realise it wasnt just that it was many things and unless you are both giving it your all then its nt fair and you cant carry it all yourself do all the 'running'
i did go up to see my ex more than he came here but i was workign and he was a student... plus it was always like a wee holiday even tho going home was crappy
ive come to the concluesion now... that us breaking up was the best thing and he wasnt the guy for me (im still looking tho....lol) i could list all his faults... but at the time it didnt matter as i was in love...and just didnt really see it!.....lol
life does move on and id hate for you to waste your time like i did... it hurt me too much over the yrs and ivelearnt from it

try to llook towards the future hunnio... thats what i do... go out with your girly mates... sod the blokes,...enjoy your freedon for a while....im sure youll meet someone else who will want to give up everything for you

Jess
xox

Pick yourself up.. dust yourself down ... and hold your head high!

Don't feel like a fool.. he's miles away.. think of all that money you've saved - wasting it travelling to his.

There is better out there, don't settle for second best because you feel you have to. You don't.

Don't feel a fool, I think if we are all honest we have all been in a sitruationsimilar to this at some pointin our lives. You will take time to get over it, but you are a beautiful lady and when the time is right the right person will come long and treat you as you should be treated.

Hang in there, regain your self esteem and try and forget about him, after all he was the one that made the mistakes by sounds of things not you.

Here's a to make you feel better x

It's hard when a relationship breaks down, so I'm sending you lots of these

Life's too short and you deserve so much better!

Thank you....my friends keep saying I should be feeling Angry about it and not feeling sad but I believed alot of the things he told me as it just did not seem in his nature.....I could not work it out.......

I keep making excuses for him too which I know is stupid but he was the first man I loved so Im just a bit lost really.......whay would he want to be with me and then go and do that???

I also dont think he expected me to finish things as he knew how much I loved him

Sorry
I need a good slap!!!!

But your comments are lifting my spirits!! Thank you soooo much

I live in Norfolk he lived in South Wales............5 hour drives. He only came to see me once in 5 months!!!

Don't question it.. hard as it is.. put it behind you.. get dressed up, do your nails... go out with the girls.. and you may meet someone who will knock spots off the Divi you've been seeing!

Don't bother with him at all... don't waste any more time, energy, money or thought on such a selfish loser....

.. we often meet people who seem great.. and they are, and will be to someone else... he just wasn't right for you.

A one-sided relationship is no fun and will knock your self-esteem repeatedly - don't be angry with him or hate him - be grateful that he has now let you free and made you realise that you are wasting your time.

thats not fair hun. we have all been in these situations were we thought they were fab how ever horrid they may have been, and like you said making excuses for them!! thats not right. put yor head up. keep your spirits high it will work out it always does. find a nice norfolk lad! theres loads out there.
just changing the subject where abouts on norfolk do ou live?
x

hollie22 : I live in Great Yarmouth...Bradwell.......

not far from then!
hope it all works out for you. i'm sure it will.