What a cheek..... .

I can empathise.
My daughter is also a red head . She has been bullied throughout junior school because of her hair!!
In the end( 18 months ago) we had to take her out of the school because the bullying became a real problem!
She settled nicely into the new school , and she was much happier, but still there are certain kids who tease .

I have told her to ignore them , but i'm not the one on the recieving end of it, and I feel so sorry for her, and frustrated , and angry at times.
On the other hand its a beautiful colour and really suits her. I couldn't imagine her with dark hair, or any other colour. I wish she could see it, and chill out a bit!!!

She is 11 now and is going into secondary school in September, and I suspect things will be the same there.
Kids can be so cruel and don't realise the impact this kind of bullying has on others lives. It has really affected her self confidence, and she hates her hair with a passion.

I personally LOVE red hair, and wish mine was the same colour as my daughter's.
Its such a beautiful colour, but I have been summoned to put loads of blonde foil highlights in her hair before she starts the new school.

We live in a very cruel world. I dont think that schools take this type of bullying serious enough.

We have had many many nights of sobbing and avoiding school because of this. Such a shame.

xxElaine xx

I think its horrible to hear all these stories about bullying!!! Realy sad I have a positive one for people that are worried that their kids will be bullied...my brother is bright ginger and he never got teased even in comp!!! He had a lovely girlfiend and nice mates all through school!! My mates girl is twelve and very bright ginger the brightest you would see plus loads of freckles she confident and happy and has loads friends I think alot of the time the nasty kids will find something to pick on and its so tight!!!!!

I was formelly known at school as ginger nut or duracell,and you know what it didnt bother me one jot, i fact I used to just answer to them without even thinking about it.

I only changed my hair colour in my thirties, because the red started to fade so I thought why not.

I guess the thing was I didnt mind standing out and strangely enough I was never bullied either.

I do still stand up for gingers - because just because your hair is ginger it doesnt make you John Merrick.

In fact I loved my ginger hair so much I even bought a cd about it. David Devant and his spirit wife - Ginger and Free!

All I can say is...all these children must be pretty cool, if the only thing someone can find to pick on them about is the colour of their hair.

Well we bit the bullet last night.... whilst my husband took my youngest to watch football, my eldest and I had some fun... You can all cringe if you want.. but we highlighted his hair.. we used a cap (which I know is not the best but it gave me a good excuse to poke him and tell him to stop whinging) whilst the hightlights were taking we sat and played the xbox (boring) Well they have not turned out too bad.. My son just turned around and said "if it looks cra* you can always use the trimmers mum" (bless him)

We had an Hr (no thats not how long i kept them in for) of fun and laughter.. and at the end he really likes them yippeeeeee.

I am highligting my sons tomorrow........we are both looking forward to it !!

I think it's a real shame that kids feel they have to dye their hair. Ginger hair is beautiful and very rare! I actually dye my blonde hair auburn and only wish I could make it grow this colour

The parents of children who bully in this way disgust me - they have obviously never taught their children any respect or compassion for other people. Yes, all kids will tease, but they should react when the object of teasing is obviously upset and be shamed into stopping.

its so bad that people tease others becasue they have ginger hair my mate 's brother has shocking ginger hair but the ladies love him i think if he had blonde he wouldent have half the attention .
i love redheads i thinkthe tasingis about jealously really cos they know that gingers get all the attention when they are older xxxxxxxxxx
look at ginger actors can;t bloomin remember names but some of them are gorgous ooohhh name is on the tip of my tongue
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hello
my 2 children have beautiful red hair, my son is 9 and my daughter is nearly 5, my son billy gets upset sometimes because some people take the micky out of him and then he says he want to dye his hair, i tell him his hair is a beautiful colour and ok as it is, last year i did put a blonde streak in because all his friend were having it done and he loved it, my daughter has very long hair and always people say hoe nice her hair is, im very proud that they have red hair and wouldnt change it for the world
Tracy x x

I just have to reply to this thread

My son is 12 and has bright ginger hair, freckles.. and.is tall for his age....and is always, always , always the first to be picked out in class.......I have said to the school to please look before casting the blame because he is saying to me all the time...why am I always getting the blame......higlights may be a good idea! I will see what he says

I do think girls have it easier than boys......however, there are always exceptions and kids are so cruel.....

it sucks people get bullied for something like hair colour. . i LOVE naturally red hair. . even the orangy ginger kind, my big sis has like UUBER ginger course hair and i think it is just the most amazing hair ever, she hates it tho. . but i mean i have had folk into the salon tryin to get their hair coloured ginger. . . i think we shud personally start a revolution. . . all salongeeks ROAR GINGER ALL THE WAY RAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWR. . . X

I just had to post on this thread as I understand what you mothers of red head kid's go through. I am a natural red head, went through all the demoralising taunts at school but I feel it made me stronger inside after time. I am also the only red head in my household with my mum, dad, sister and brother all dark. So I got the usual taunts of 'milkman, ginger nut' etc.
When I went home in tears because of the taunts which made me hate my hair, my mum and dad and whole family always enforced in me that I had lovely hair. They pointed out other attributes I had rather than focusing on the colour of my hair.
I soon learned to retaliate and when my so called freinds and I fell out and they called me ginger nut, I retaliated with, ok I have red hair and you don't like it but I'm thinner, smarter and far prettier than you. Yes I spoke up for myself, never had any problems when dating and was always the first to be asked out when clubbing with my mates, the same mates who taunted me about my hair, I had great satisfaction as a teenager when one of my mates fancied one of the boy's and that boy in turn asked me out, I used to say 'so who wishes they had red hair now then'! Teenage stuff.
Then I married and had my baby who is just past 22, 6ft 5in with bright red hair, much brighter than mine was and I cried for him when he was born because I knew how he would be slated.
Jordan hated his hair from about the age of 6 and always wanted it dyed, he had a much worse time than me at school because of his hair, always picked out as the one to start a fight etc. Then at 11 we went to Canada where they love red hair and he was so popular with the girls and never mentioned his hair. We returned back home when he was nearly 17 and the same thing started again, loss of confidence and low self esteem caused by his very healthy interest in girls and when he asked them out they would say 'I like you but could never go out with someone with ginger hair'. I think it is much harder for boys than girls as girls can be so cruel by saying 'yuck he's got red hair'.
So he went from being popular with the girls in Canada to very unpopular with the girls here and according to my son just because he had red hair. So he went dead short and dyed it blonde (which made me so sad) for a while - it was the only way he could cope with it at that time and the truth is once he went blonde he was again the popular guy with the ladies. He eventually had to stop bleaching it as he took a reaction. I tried all the same tactics that my family had done with me but nothing worked. I said things like 'someday you will be sad that you spent so much time worrying about the colour of your hair', that these people that say things like this are not worth knowing and everyone has something they don't like about themselves. To accept the colour of his hair and move on and find a determination to not let them get you down. Instead of worrying about his hair to show them that he has lots of other attributes. So eventually he got used to it, stopped wanting to dye it, stopped worrying about it but still hates it. Jordan is the youngest ever to work on the Tornado for the Saudi Airforce in Saudi, £50,000 a year tax free, plus a 4 bedroom villa, cleaner, washing allowance, food allowance, 9 weeks full paid holidays a year with free flights. Now listen you mothers of red head kids, I can't help wondering how much of the bullying, taunts and disappointment about his red hair succeeded in giving him a determination and strength of character to become what he is today.

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Highligts will only take away some of ginger hair . I recomend to use nan-ammonia color to change the tone.