So the comment "i do feel for her being ginger" is just a statement......if so,why say it??. If no one is saying not a problem with ginger ...why say that statement??....

The topic maybe about how to repair the hair....but the statement about "i feel for her being ginger " IS there.

probably because she empathises with her, knowing how hard it is to be different . . it wasnt meant in a derogatory manner, but i think WE ALL know how cruel kids can be if u are not prototype A material. . anything different in school is picked on and i can personally say i feel sorry for any kid who gets picked on for any reason, whether it be ginger hair, spots, braces etc etc etc. . i think it was taken out of context. .

I think it best left to the thread poster to clarify what she meant if she chooses to do so.

Discussing how "we read" a certain statement won't acheive anything and as the mods have said in the past,if you find something offensive,report it !Let's keep the hair geek a pro forum peeps

So back to the thread.

What course of action did you take in the end six ????

I doubt i could explain it better than the above quotes (thank you) i'd be very surprised if any member here came on being hurtful about anybody's hair or skin colour & am saddened that anyone here would think that of another member here.
I still havent heard from them Beki, i think they may be sulking, the truth (no matter how nicely put) is not something people often like hearing is it?

My friend died her hair with permanent black hair dye (she can't remember what she used) against my advice (I said use semi-perm darkest brown), and then decided it was too dark and wanted me to fix it.

I was sooooo reluctant to take her on - I've never done cleansing as I'm a stylist rather than a technician and only do simple colours now I don't work in a salon.

It was shining red, so I used an olive brown over the top, but I can't bear doing it again and again, as I'm not confident of the results and don't want a client who will deliberately go against my advice as she's too impatient to wait a week for me to colour her hair...

Some friends aren't worth taking on as home clients, if you want to keep the friendship - and I had to work up the courage to tell her that.

.... I took it as the potential client obviously didn't like being a redhead and was trying her best to change, and that the poster felt for her and wanted to help, not that the poster was passing judgment on redheads... we Hair Geeks love every colour and shade!!

I am NOT a hair geek this is simply an opinion.
I used to have a babysitter many years ago that was a redhead.
I thought she looked very striking tbh but she detested it.
She went down many different ways to be rid of it and now is actually a hairdresser but has very dark hair which I must admit is in lovely condition and does suit her.
Regardless of our natural colour I think we always want to change it at some point and the girl being at school will probably get the usual mockery about her hair.
Kids will find ANY way to get at other kids...sad but true.
Look at some of the stars with gorgeous red hair.....but if you don't feel happy about it then I think the best way to go is to see a pro.
Messing about at home isn't the way to go....remember Sun In?

I'm a natural dark blonde. I personally detest it... ON MYSELF (lots of other peeps look great with blonde) and have been dying my hair varying shades of red and auburn since I was 18.
Recently, more auburn than red.
I shall NEVER return to blonde hair if I can help it, and frankly I think I make a better redhead (even got natural green eyes to match)

I dont think she was poking at redheads or gingerheads.
I think it's a 'slip-up' like is common on forums where our thoughts don't translate well to the written word.
I think she was simply sympathizing with the girl's unhappiness, and not "dissing" her natural hair colour.

As for not wanting to get involved.. I understand too.
One of my friends wanted me to fix "her mess" that she had done to herself and couldn't accept that no matter how I explained, that it couldn't be "fixed" and she was looking to me for a miracle.
I don't have a magic wand.
Cut it off and grow it out, I told her. There really was NO alternative.

Sometimes friends/family look to us for miracles and when we don't deliver NO MATTER HOW MUCH WE EXPLAIN IN ADVANCE, they become annoyed that we don't meet their expectations.
those sorts of peeps, I avoid like the plague.