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Trolls beware of the Cyber Bullies Part One!
Snugglepuss
14-08-07
I have been looking into the world of online communities recently and found some really interesting stuff!
Online communities like to believe they are in Utopia! This is mainly because everything is done by the written word and behind the...
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By Snugglepuss on 15-08-07, 03:28 PM
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Very interstesting read Debs, have to say, as you said, I haven't seen much of it here, well maybe a wee bit over that past couple of weeks...perchance some of these people don't realise they are doing it, or is that part of the psychology?

Some people don't always realise that they may be unintentionally bully, they get an idea in their head and it all comes spilling out. Once pointed out they will almost apologise publically and feel ashamed of what they have done. Proper, bullies be it cyber or in person are relentless and would never think of apologising

Also does this include the moral highgrounders as in people who believe they should set the moral standing of what is right or wrong for the board and tell others how they should be thinking, speaking, writing?

In itself taking the moral high ground isn't wrong especially if it is in the best interests of the board and is debated and accepted by all of the members in the community.

However, when the people who take the moral high ground IMPOSE their views and opinions without any flexibility, then yes it can be classed as cyber bullying!

OMG does that mean I have just done it or am asking a legitimate question! I was, honest!

Bless ya Cathie YES it is a legitimate question and in all truth it also shows everyone how complex the whole thing is but in the end these people all want to achieve power status etc.

Glad you're having a great hol, even if the weather is a bit pants!
Thank you

We are having a fantastic time, in the main the weather has been fantastic - I have the tomato head to prove it there has just been the odd afternoon/evening where it has rained!

A huge thank you for your comments geeky ones - the psycholgy of the stalker is interesting - well IMHO so hope you will all look forward to that

BTW, I know that there are a few typos in the article and I will get around to amending them asap and also a huge THANK YOU to Sandi for putting the piccie in the correct place and splitting it into two pages

Rightio Geeky ones I'm off to have a bottle of bud and take in the breathtaking view
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By blossom on 17-08-07, 11:24 PM
Brilliant article Snuggs, you have done your homework! Really interesting. Looking forward to the next installment. xxx
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By selmarose on 22-12-08, 02:59 AM
This is a great article.
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By Snugglepuss on 31-12-08, 02:12 AM
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This is a great article.
Thank you for the comment - it really does mean a lot

It is really interesting that The cyber troll always does so much damage emotionally - I don't "write" on the board much any more - the trolls saw to that BUT I believe that at the end, they show themselves to be how daft they really are!

Note to Lucia - hope it is all sorted - AND remember ANYONE who has been affected by cyber trolls, that it will take some time to come to terms with it BUT eventually you will over come it!

Take care all - you know where I am if you need me
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By Kim Lawless on 31-12-08, 10:52 AM
What a brilliant thread....I really enjoyed reading this. Thanks.

You know what always amazes me? How do they know that someone has started a thread on their particular subject? For example, we had some nuter trol destroy an interesting thread this year on whther people believe in the spirit world.

How on earth did they see that thread and then join salongeek just to start trouble?
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By tonilee on 31-12-08, 11:18 AM
What a fab and iteresting article, well done and thankyou!! I have usually got a bit muddled up with new fanglled termanology, trolls etc but now I totally understand!!! Thank you!! xxxxxx
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By Snugglepuss on 31-12-08, 11:24 PM
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What a brilliant thread....I really enjoyed reading this. Thanks.

You know what always amazes me? How do they know that someone has started a thread on their particular subject? For example, we had some nuter trol destroy an interesting thread this year on whther people believe in the spirit world.

How on earth did they see that thread and then join salongeek just to start trouble?
Well Kim, what I believe happens is that they search the internet using certain key words and then go through a list of search results - Salon Geek has a high rating in the internet search engines (such as google,yahoo, ask, live search etc.) a lot of foroums require you to join before posting and hey within a few moments they are a member!!!!

It's funny, another of the reasons I haven't been online much is that I broke my collar bone back in September, it hasn't healed one bit and eventually they will have to pin it, by the end of the night my hand,arm and shoulder aches - now, if I put broken right collar bone, nails used, hand, arm and shoulder aches, in one of the search engines, then I can bet your bottom dollar, that Salon Geek will appear quite near the top of my results!

Many things happen to us in our life but I honestly believe that emotional abuse inflicted, firstly by other people, then because of those people, the way that the emotional abuse makes us feel about ourselves and how we deal with it, can make it be the worst pain ever!

It can make us feel worthless, have no confidence, but in many cases it is the unjustness of the situation that makes us feel the worst!

Honestly it can take you a long time to start to feel better about the situation, but eventually it does become easier - you don't forget but it does become easier

Thank you all for you lovely comments and like I have said before keep on doing what you do best - whether it be nails, hair or beauty
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By ris on 15-08-09, 10:17 AM

You know I’ve come across those cyber bullies - really frustrating and upsetting.
But the worst thing about cyber-bullying is that in some internet communities there are sort of ‘official’ bullies with certain agendas.
Try posting a dissenting opinion, still worse try defending it and you will have them all over you trying to make you doubt your very existence, bulling and mocking you and even assailing you verbally.

The worst thing is that in a couple of similar situation those who call themselves moderators seemed to be virtually non-existent and didn’t react even when I was directly called names!
The biggest thing I appreciate about the www is that it is free and uncensored – meant to be that is – but sometimes I wish there were some moderator’s code and a place you could complain to. It is the worst thing imaginable when moderators pretend not to notice.
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By naturalnails on 15-08-09, 10:22 AM
On here we have a group of 8 moderators who you can approach directly or if there is a post you are unhappy about then click the red square in the post to report it and all the moderators get sent an email to alert us to a potential problem.

Moderators are: The Geek, Mrs Geek, Geeg, Naturalnails, Valenciannails, Bagpuss, Adelekeegan1, Nailsinlondon1
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By ris on 15-08-09, 10:42 AM
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On here we have a group of 8 moderators who you can approach directly or if there is a post you are unhappy about then click the red square in the post to report it and all the moderators get sent an email to alert us to a potential problem.

Moderators are: The Geek, Mrs Geek, Geeg, Naturalnails, Valenciannails, Bagpuss, Adelekeegan1, Nailsinlondon1
I wasn't writing about this forum. Not at all!

It was just an input - some communities actually use bullying methods to fight dissentors! This is ugly!

I just want people to know that it can happen when on the surface everything is shipshape and regulated and the mods are in place.
And my piece of advice: there's no point posting in those forums at all - it's one thing when you have to deal with one bully but it's totally different when you seem to be up against a team of zombies.
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By ris on 15-08-09, 10:47 AM
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if there is a post you are unhappy about then click the red square in the post to report it
Other communities have that to - I used a similar option in my unhappy experience. And, can you think it? NOTHING happened! The posts remained where they had been and no one received a warning. No one even bothered to reply to me.
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