Well you look beautiful but as they are you then they may give the wrong impression, the tantrick ones are sexy but the woman has clearly got a bikini on and the guy is wearing jeans and it is not a business owner. It's more like look how sexy you can be with a tan rather than look how sexy I am with a tan

I find if someone doesn't want the lines you can just move the thong up and down to spray in the white bits, I don't think his thingy would take the tan anyway and why would you need it to!!!!!

I've read everyones replies and can see everyones point so thanks so much for all your opinions and advise.

Only thing I would like to say though is to Weezie on your last reply there you said as the pictures are me it could give the client the wrong impression! Which upto a certain extent I do actually agree with you as I don't want that!

BUT when a client rings for an appointment they can't see me at the other end of the phone. They don't know its my picture on the front of my website! So how does me booking them in and offering spray tan advise etc give them the wrong impression if they dont know what I do or don't look like!

Kim x

Lots of clients tend to think that texting is ok regardless of the time and like to send irrelevant little messages. Its just something you've gotta get used to. Either ignore outside hours or get a seperate work phone.

I did read your other post and understand about guys seeming weird. You've tanned men before, so this doesn't seem to be a case of nerves. I would go with your gut instinct and dump this client. Obviously he's bugging you and its playing on your mind so i think you would feel better if he just went away.

Good luck babes xx

How does your partner feel about it, have to talked it over with him to see if he would be happy to go along again?

I suppose I mean they see the sexy pics and think ohh having a tan could be sexy then you turn up and they think ooh she was the sexy girl and she's obviously not shy about showing her body. I'm not saying that that's your fault it's just how it could be.

I would not feel happy with my clients seeing me like that but it's all down to how you feel. I'm not saying I'm right or you're wrong it's just my thoughts. Maybe it's not so much the top picture but the bottom one where you're leaning forward, but I can still see a lot of boob in the top one!

I'm sure you're nothing but professional and I can see you have put a lot of thought into your website which is great by the way.

Yeah as said at the start of the post we spoke about it and he was cool if I was...Since this text has come through tonight I'm yet to tell my fiance as he is at work! Thats why I came on here to ask you guys....Will defo be getting his opinion tomorrow morning though!

Kim x

No problem Weezie I get what your saying and thanks for your thoughts I appreciate it - thats what this site is for

Kim x

The pictures of you are artistic and beautiful, but we don't know what another persons thinking. Maybe they don't see your website as they are texting, but that doesn't mean that they didn't see your website say "yesterday" took down your details, etc. Lets face it your website is a beautiful design and professional and not one I would imagine to be easily forgotton, regardless of the pictures.

I don't really agree with some of the comments about late night texts in this situation, because 1 - its Friday night and most people class it as a social night and 2 - you have history of nervousness about this client finally 3 - there is a bit of a difference with someone texting my nails are fab to looking forward to my spray tan when you know its been requested as a naked spray tan.

But I don't think it should put you off male clients altogether, just imho ditch this one as he obviously weirds you out!

I think you are right to talk to your Fiance, keep us posted

anne xx

Will do thanks again

Kim x

If you saw a woman in the street and she told you she was looking forward to her spray tan tomorrow naked or not or she sent a text to say the same you wouldnt think anything about it - friday night or not (you may be annoyed at the time of day but nothing more), he may be a lonely person hoping for a reply on a friday night when he should be in the pub with his mates - if you you felt uncomfortable with the last couple of tans then it really isn't worth going back.

Men are probably more nervous of treatmetns on the whole and it's such a shame that they have to be scrutinized in this way because of the way the minority abuse things

I was actually comfortable when I spray tanned him last time (that was the first time) its just these weird texts!!

Your right if it was a woman I would have thought nothing more about it except thinking why is she texting me now!

Its not that hes a man its how ''the client'' is being with me male or female...If a female made me feel uncomfortable I'd be straight on here airing my concerns too...

I have nothing against tanning men they are actually easier I tan my fiance all the time and more then happy to tan his gym mates as I feel they have more respect and will not be texting me at 10pm at night with a ridiculous text!

...and if he is lonely then sorry to be harsh but its not my problem. I'm here to offer a professional spray tan service within my opening hours!

Kim x

You know your fiance and his mates so wouldn't feel intimidated by them in the slightest and thats the same with me. I read the post where you listed the texts and actually said WTF when he asked if you were 'mad' at him!! Perhaps this is just nerves on his part and I think that is wat set the alarm bells ringing with you but I think I'd say enough with him cos he has obviously set the alarm bells off - i'd still do men without any predujice but as someone else said be quite short and to the point in any texts.

Another thought - send me on the next one - he'd get a shock when the beauty from the website didn't turn up and that would tell you how serious he was lol

To be honest I'm not in the slightest intimidated by men at all!! Just he came across as weird to me!

Your right the whole 'are you mad at me thing' did set alarm bells off!
I have been keeping texts short and to the point and will continue to do this especially with him.

Send you next time...that made me laugh pmsl

Kim x

Well said!!

I'm not saying all blokes far from it, but mates of blokes can be notorious for hitting on their mates girlfriends. Obviously this hasn't happend in this case, they have respected her professionalism and her boundaries!

This thread isnt about how kim feels about doing men's spay tans in general, it's about one particular client that happens to be male that kim has a history of feeling uncomfortable about. I remember reading the previous thread.

anne xx

Personally, I think he has overstepped the mark and TBH, I would find it odd even if it was a woman. I always try to keep a definate client/therapist relationship, even though friendly, so there is no room for doubt, and I cannot imagine any of my female clients texting me just to say they were looking forward to their next appointment, regardless of what time of day.

I think you have to go with what you feel comfortable with. If you are ok, then as suggested, keep all texts business like and don't reply to these texts. I would take your boyfriend along too. If at any stage you feel uncomfortable about it, then it is not worth it. There are other clients that do not behave like this. Good luck