Ashleigh_21x
Well-Known Member
Employers - I'm sure everyone that's read my previous topics knows the situation I'm in at the moment.
If you haven't here's a quick update, this is a bit of a rant, and also I need help as to how to word this email I'm sending today.
I have been working in a spa for 9 months now and about 4 months ago was asked to be head therapist/salon manager with the idea that if things went well i would get a review meeting and a wage increase. My days off are a Saturday and Sunday (if I actually ever get them) I work 50+ hours a week and I bend over backwards for them. There are no systems in place, and when you try to put systems in place they get edgy and agree, within a few weeks they are forgotten about. I've done 3 stock takes this month as they didn't follow the spreadsheets I made up. My post previously was about me going away for the weekend and my employer telling me she needed me. I stood my ground and had a nice weekend. We agreed I would only work weekends if I had been asked well in advance and was able to do them and get a break off during the week.
So similar situation again geeks, I popped in the diary I couldn't work this weekend (my employer asked on Friday last week if I could work the 31st, we have a pamper party in - I said I would check and get back to her) so when I put that in the diary (online - she checks from home) I couldn't work I get a phone call about 10 mins later from her saying she was concerned as to why I couldn't work. I said me and my partner had plans, and she then said no you said you could work Saturday and Sunday, This is our biggest weekend yet and we didn't have a great month so I need you. I said I doubt I would have agreed to work both my days off with nothing blocked out all of next week, her reply "we can work something out" so I got off the phone and I actually was embarrassed. Does she think I forgot our conversation 3 days ago? I am being used and abused, completely taken advantage of, and to make it worse I went to the doctors last week (was meant to have a meeting with employer regarding this as its now taken a turn for the worse) I have RSI in my left wrist and its carpal tunnel, if things don't improve I will need steroid injections and if this doesn't work eventually surgery. I do quite a large amount of massage and literally have to stop within 15 mins as I am in so much pain. Employer told me she would be in to speak to me either Tuesday or Wednesday and she's been a no show both days, I know she's avoiding me as I will have to tell her I can no longer do massage while I try to get the wrist sorted. As she's never in I am having to write an email today, and I want to tell her I am stepping down from my position as head therapist because of the pressure I am put under and the work I am expected to do. And also to bring up the issue of my wrists.
I am so angry and upset, especially with myself. I feel like a child, not a grown up woman. I've been crying all morning, my mum wanted to call my boss to tell her I'm not in for the next couple of days because of exhaustion. I am at a total loss, I am looking for a new job, but I need to do this now for my own sanity.
So sorry it's such a long post. I need to rant and I know you geeks are so awesome and understanding. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Ash xxxx
If you haven't here's a quick update, this is a bit of a rant, and also I need help as to how to word this email I'm sending today.
I have been working in a spa for 9 months now and about 4 months ago was asked to be head therapist/salon manager with the idea that if things went well i would get a review meeting and a wage increase. My days off are a Saturday and Sunday (if I actually ever get them) I work 50+ hours a week and I bend over backwards for them. There are no systems in place, and when you try to put systems in place they get edgy and agree, within a few weeks they are forgotten about. I've done 3 stock takes this month as they didn't follow the spreadsheets I made up. My post previously was about me going away for the weekend and my employer telling me she needed me. I stood my ground and had a nice weekend. We agreed I would only work weekends if I had been asked well in advance and was able to do them and get a break off during the week.
So similar situation again geeks, I popped in the diary I couldn't work this weekend (my employer asked on Friday last week if I could work the 31st, we have a pamper party in - I said I would check and get back to her) so when I put that in the diary (online - she checks from home) I couldn't work I get a phone call about 10 mins later from her saying she was concerned as to why I couldn't work. I said me and my partner had plans, and she then said no you said you could work Saturday and Sunday, This is our biggest weekend yet and we didn't have a great month so I need you. I said I doubt I would have agreed to work both my days off with nothing blocked out all of next week, her reply "we can work something out" so I got off the phone and I actually was embarrassed. Does she think I forgot our conversation 3 days ago? I am being used and abused, completely taken advantage of, and to make it worse I went to the doctors last week (was meant to have a meeting with employer regarding this as its now taken a turn for the worse) I have RSI in my left wrist and its carpal tunnel, if things don't improve I will need steroid injections and if this doesn't work eventually surgery. I do quite a large amount of massage and literally have to stop within 15 mins as I am in so much pain. Employer told me she would be in to speak to me either Tuesday or Wednesday and she's been a no show both days, I know she's avoiding me as I will have to tell her I can no longer do massage while I try to get the wrist sorted. As she's never in I am having to write an email today, and I want to tell her I am stepping down from my position as head therapist because of the pressure I am put under and the work I am expected to do. And also to bring up the issue of my wrists.
I am so angry and upset, especially with myself. I feel like a child, not a grown up woman. I've been crying all morning, my mum wanted to call my boss to tell her I'm not in for the next couple of days because of exhaustion. I am at a total loss, I am looking for a new job, but I need to do this now for my own sanity.
So sorry it's such a long post. I need to rant and I know you geeks are so awesome and understanding. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
Ash xxxx