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hi all,#

I was wondering if any mums out there could give me some advice ,,,,,

my daughter who is 5 is wetting the bed at least twice a night and i have been looking at bed wetting alarms and was wondering if any geeks had any expereance with one of these things.


she says she doesnt know she is doing it as she is in such a deep sleep,

I have tried no drinks after 6pm and star charts and dr says she will grow out of it which she proberbly will but it is really stressing her out when she realises she has done it again

hope some one can help me before i start climbing the wall due to no sleep and the smell of wet sheets

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bless ya flower - i had this crap with my son - until he was 7 - i used to use pure orange juice, and put it in the medicine bottle that the doc gave me, placebo if ya like - it worked for me (or should i say him) - i told him it was majic and that it would stop him from wetting the bed. other factors have to be taken into consideration tho lisa, with what you had to put up with in the past months , this will also pass on to your daughter, and that with out a doubt will contribute hunny

has she been dry before now?
has she had stress in her life - YES
 

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the ironic thing glynis is that when i was in hospital for 11 says she didnt week the bed once????but i know what you mean xxxxx
 

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have you tried getting her up and putting her on the toilet ....in a semi sleep state...i know my friend tried this and it worked along side no drinks and hour before bed and going before bed as well. if it is getting you down though and upsetting her then you may want to think about bedtime pants....they go up to 8 yrs old and are on offer at the mo in the supermarkets....changing bedding and all that isnt much fun especially if its every night.
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My youngest (girl) wasn't dry at night until she was about 6. She was just such a deep sleeper, she didn't know she was wetting. I just kept her in nappies. We didn't have such things as night pants back in those days - disposable nappies were just invented, and before that we used to have a huge pad that looked like a giant's ST and a pair of hard crinkly plastic pants with slots at the top and bottom that the pad slotted into. (Little history lesson for you all! LOL) I didn't want all the stress of changing beds!

Eventually she started becoming dry and I did what Sian suggested. This worked and I only had a few wet nights after that.

As for your daughter not wetting when you were in hospital, she probably wasn't sleeping as deeply as she normally does when everything is ok and mummy is at home in her own bed.

Good luck with what you try!
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Have you got a protective sheet? i found that when I used this the accidents were few and far between because it made the wee stay on top of the bed and she was uncomfortable. Mind you mine is only 3.5yrs old and only started having no nappy at night last sept.

i also found that a night dress with no knickers on worked better than pj's as she had nothing on her bottom that felt like a nappy.

She has only just started to go through the night in the past 3 weeks, without me getting her up for a wee.

I really do feel for you, it's not nice having to get up once inthe night with a wet bed let alone twice


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Mind you mine is only 3.5yrs old and only started having no nappy at night last sept.

i also found that a night dress with no knickers on worked better than pj's as she had nothing on her bottom that felt like a nappy.
This is good to know as mine was 3 in october, she has has a few dry nights but i think they were a fluke really....she is still in pampers nappies at night as the pull ups leak where she wees so much at night.....even then they are absolutly hanging off her by the morning. i'm going not going to rush it i will let her do it when she is ready.xxxxxx
 

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first of all let me say i dont have kids i'm just going by things i've heard/read from people that do.

as a few people have mentioned i've heard getting your child up for a wee while they're alseep just before u go to bed can make a huge difference.

as far as a bed-wetting alarm goes, i'd say don't do it. first i heard of these was in an autobiography about a girl who had one and it made the problem worse (she was abused by her mother as well so obv that didnt help the situation) but she said the alarm made her terrified to go to sleep and everything.

hope u get things sorted xxx
 

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IMHO being dry at night will only happen when the individual child is ready. My boy was dry at night when he was 3 but my daughter will be 6 in May and is nowhere near..... If it's any comfort the medical profession wont get involved til the child is over 7 - so not being dry at night under that age is perfectly normal.

In fact, a friend of mine took her kids to the doc 'cos neither was dry at night when they were 7 and although they did some investigation they basically told her it would happen when they were ready and it did.....

It's not worth pushing it and stressing everybody out over it IMO. If the child isn't ready go back to pull-ups for a bit.....

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gosh this must be awful for you both, how tiring.
i havent had to go through this with any of my kids but i do feel for you.

i was thinking about what you said about her sleeping really deeply, do you think that maybe she is so tired that she cant wake up?
perhaps you could try getting her to have a nap in the day or going to bed earlier. you've probably already thought of it i guess.
i suppose the more it happens the tireder [is that a word] she becomes and the more likely she is to not wake up for a wee.

would it help to change the type of drinks she has, maybe just water or milk, no tea or coke or fizzy that stimulate the bladder more?

i hope it changes soon:hug:
 

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One of my sons didn't stop bedwetting untill 12 or so, he was under the care of a specialist in Norway as we were needing to rule out kidney issues which run through his Dad's family. Here's what he told us

My son started with a nasal spray at 11, they wouldn't give it to him before that. He said we could try alarms but he said they often end up making a child not sleep properly as they are worried about wetting the bed and being woken up.

Getting them up might empty their bladder but ultimately has the same effect as the alarm. I agree as we did this for a few years after our UK Gp told us too. It got to the point where we didn't need to wake him, he heard the door open and got up. The specialist in Oslo said that in its self suggests he wasn't close to properly alseep. I can say my sons behaviour improved immediately when we stopped that, he wasn't stroppy and argumentative anymore. Possibly because he was getting the undisturbed nights sleep he should have had.

What we learned was that no remedy will work until the impulse they are supposed to have to needing to pee developes and tells their brain to wake them up. Getting them up emties the bladder but doesn't change the problem. We tried 'the magic medicine' approach but it didn't work for us. The specialist said that was probably indicative of the fact he wasn't even close to developing the reaction he needed where as for others it will work because they are almost there weather they are 3 or 11. Once my son started the nasal spray he was immediately better although there were still accidents but it didn't take many periods using the spray to solve the issue.

My youngest is now 5 and not dry, some nights he is, most nights he isn't but we are just letting nature run its course for a while yet. He uses pull ups and loves the cars design ones with the trophies which dissapear if wet but stay if dry. He can tell himself by looking if he is very wet, just a little or not at all. The highlight of his week is when he finds them all there and insists on folding them up and leaving them on his bed because he can use them again :lol: No amount of persuading will get him to part with dry pull ups until he's worn them again.

:hug::hug::hug: to you, I can really sympathise.
 

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Again, I also sympathise, my daughter wt the bed until she was about 6, not every night admittedly but on and off, the odd thing is when she was a toddler and I potty trained she was incredibly quick to stay dry all day and night!! The intermitant bed wetting started after 4 1/2, there was alot of change in her life a hous move etc but also she started reception school, I personally think that school was physiclly and mentally exhausting for her that she simply was knackered and in a deep sleep.....its so hard to do this but, the golden rule with kids is they will do it when thy are ready! Its hard and its exhausting but it will come to an end.
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hi girls

heres some answers to what you have suggested

i am getting her up in the night before i go to bed some times she comes willing but sometimes she is upset i have woken her.

we have protective sheets and duvet covers on her bed which she hates as they crinkle up.

as she is in school all day she can not have a nap during the day and hasnt napped since she was 4 any way.

She goes to bed at 730 every night

she says she is sleeping so hard that she doesnt know she is doing it bless her xxxx
 

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Hugs Lisa :hug:

One of my biguns had an alarm and it didn't work - it only goes off when the alarm actually senses that the bed is wet (that's how it worked 15 - 20 years ago - they may have changed).

It upset him a lot when it went off and it wasn't just once a night - everybody ended up grumpy.

Getting him up didn't work either!

He was quite old (over 10) when he finally stopped - I thought it would never end but it did!

I hope it sorts itself soon - girls do tend to grow out of it sooner than boys from what I understand :hug:

Sorry not much help xxx
 

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My youngest was bed wetting till she was 6.....the only thing that worked for her was waking her for a pee in the night....my friend's son was the same...but she had a downstairs bathroom so she used a potty in his room...and half the time he didn't even wake up cos he didn't have to walk anywhere....she would just sit him on it.

They do grow out of it...but i think a helping hand is always a good idea.
 

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I think you can tell by all the answers on here it is perfectly normal. Don't get yourself (and your wee daughter) stressed. It will happen when she is ready and not before. Just do "damage limitation" until then so you all get a good night's sleep.
:hug::hug: to you
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right ladies i have bought some night pants from asda and told olivia they are magic knickers that should stop her from being wet . she was abit like THEY ARE NAPPIES but then saw they where pink and had fairys on so she was happy lol

so fingers crossed we can now try and keep her from weeing in them

ill keep you informed

thanks for you help geeklings
 

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:lol::lol: Noah's reaction exactly but the Cars theme soon pulled him round :lol::lol:
 

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first night in the night pants and no nasty niffs coming from her room this morning as she sat up right and said LOOK MUMMY I HAVENT WET MY BED,,,,,,she was more over joyed then i was .

She has had a accident in the pants so she said tonight i will try and not wet my pants either.

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