I've said to my daughter and son spend the least amount as possible on your wedding and put it towards your house.I can not understand in this day and age spending thousands on one day when it could go on your house deposit.We have been married 25 years got married really cheaply in a registry office,both our parents gave us money towards our house rather than the wedding,most of our friends who had expensive weddings costing thousands with all the trimmings are now divorced and on their second marriages.