Does anyone who works mobile suffer with anxiety?

[*aan*]

Hello,

I've always been shy and lack confidence. But last year I was doing so well working mobile in the evenings. but then in January this year I had a really bad month some big things happened and my anxiety has taken a real bashing.

When I get bookings I build myself up I feel great and think yes I can do this my hubby is great he understands and helps me believe I can do it. But when it comes to leaving the house to go I freak out and anything can stop me going and I end up making an excuse and cancelling. Im going to end up getting such a bad name for myself.

I don't really want to go on tablets. So wondered does anyone else suffer and have you got any tips?

 

[kezza*]

I suffered with anxerity when I was going though ivf 3 years ago and I still suffer now. I'm home based and I know how you feel. I wouldn't take tablets, I had recuse remedy, which helped when I was really shaking took the edge of it. They recommended counciling. I wouldn't get out of bed, I was badly shaking, so many times I had panic attacks, always hot and sweating. I never once cancelled a client. And everyday I'd walk to the shop avd a few times I freaked out but I pushed myself. It's good that your husband understands mine didn't and he has since said a number of times sorry I didn't realise how bad u were. I still have moments now but I have a baby girl and she makes have to get up, once I'm up I find I'm ok. You could go back to the doctors avd ask for counciling? '

 

[Emily Case]

I suffer terribly with anxiety - so much so that I've been known to sit outside clients houses having a panic attack. A few have noticed, others say I look nervous... All I can think is how sweaty and tired I must look.

I don't let it hold me back. I can be terrified but I know that everything will be fine after the panic attack and although I will be drained, emotionally, my clients appreciate me turning up and being there despite being scared stiff at walking out of my front door.

It's difficult and it's a constant battle but you CAN fight it. Just don't let yourself make the call to cancel. Glaze over and go on autopilot so you don't get a chance to think about worrying.

St John's Wort and Rescue Remedy are good and helped me. Get a good nights sleep before appointments (I find being tired makes me 100x worse). A trick I learnt in depression management classes was to count 7:11. Breathe in deeply for 7 and breathe out slowly for 11. It takes so much effort and because you're taking in less oxygen, the hyperventilating stops faster.

You'll be fine. You can do it because you're strong, it's just your brain deceiving you!

Xxx

 

[*aan*]

kezza, im sorry to hear you went through ivf but so pleased to hear you have a precious baby girl.

VerdePurdy, im normally ok when im there and parked, its just getting out of the actual house i struggle with. Yesterday i had all my kit in the car i popped back to get something i forgot and because my 2 year old had an adult camera he had found taken off him and was crying I managed to cause a massive fight with Hubby ended up crying myself I felt so unsupported as I hate leaving them at the best of times. Now looking back i was way too harsh on hubby but that what i get like

Its mainly leaving my 3 children and husband. I just get all tearful and really nervous and butterfly's. Then I start thinking I don't owe them anything I don't even know them.


Then afterwards i feel so angry and cross with myself i love nails but at the time i can make myself feel like i don't and that my business means nothing to me.

I hate hate hate going to new clients i worry i wont find it, or be able to park. Even my mum and nan do not have nails on any-more and i only have 1 client left wearing acrylics but she is one of my very good friends.

I sometimes think im not cut out for nails when im on a low. But then on a high im sat here researching, reading,learning buying new bits all for a waste as im not actually going out doing any nails.

Maybe I need to see a Dr but i know they will just offer me pills.

My hubby is depressed and on enough pills as it is, I need to be the strong one. We are due to go to relationship counselling as soon as he rings and books. hopefully it will help when i feel that some issues are begin dealt with.

 

[littlemiss-32]

I know where your coming from and its sooo hard to live with! I did mobile for several years before I had my children and I really struggled with anxiety disorder. My problem was then made worse by post natal depression with both my children!!
Ive found hypnotherapy very helpful in the past, and yoga. I now go to a dance class one evening a week and something like that could really build up your confidence. However ive got to say that i could not have done any of these things without taking medication first, it does carry a stigma, but sometimes a short term course of meds can give you the confidence and help you see clearly enough to make the changes you need to improve your lifestyle.
Things are not perfect, but im on the mend, ive now returned to working Saturdays whilst my hubby has the kids.
Help is out there, try and get an appointment with the most understanding gp at ur surgery and tell them how u feel and ur concerns about medication.
I really hope you start to feel better soon xxx

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[Tjo]

I suffer really badly with anxiety and had to go on medication, don't be ashamed to if its gona help x

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[Pinkbunny28]

Could it help for you to go to a clients house the day before the appointment, find a parking space. Get used to it all. I know it's a waste of fuel but if it can help you overcome some of your fears about the situation it might help x

 

[happyfeet]

Awww hun i suffer with anxiety, i had the onset of a panic attack the other week, and i havent had one in years, lucky enough hubby sorted me out

Get yourself to the docs, theres no shame in it, whether you are given counselling or get given a prescription or just talk over things with your gp, it will be worth it. From time to time i go on tablets normally prozac if im having a particular bad time of it.

Good luck honey love n hugs x x x

 

[Lush-Lash]

your definitely not alone hun.

I hate meeting new clients as I don't know what to say sometimes & makes me feel really awkward & panicky. (before they arrive I get myself into some states lol but I'm slowly getting better) I know I yap on salon geek most days but it's a bit different to in real life when your actually with a client I just can't seem to find much to say which is quite awkward but hey ho.

I suffered with depression for a few years it took me 2 years before I seeked any help (tablets / counselling) it did help & I feel a lot better these days, maybe you could speak to your gp & maybe ask for a little help? It's definitely nothing to be ashamed of.

I've been tanning for a while now & sometimes even though I do know what I'm doing I think oh god I'm crap at it (which I know I'm not lol) I think everyone has these kind of days.


I work from home at the moment but I know when I go mobile I'll start being panicky again due to going into strangers homes & not knowing what to expect (I have a very vivid imagination & always make up scenarios that will never happen but my mind gets a bit carried away with itself sometimes lol) I suppose I'll just have to cross that bridge when it comes to it! x

 

[pinkeedee]

I'm so surprised by how many others feel like this!!! I thought it was just me. I'm fine when clients come to my home salon for treatments, i feel happy and confident but as soon as someone wants mobile i worry for days before and hope that they will cancel. I recently had to do a wedding party at a hotel and i almost made myself ill with worry. I stress about finding places (no sense of direction), parking (not good at parking), meeting new people etc. I suffer from anxiety and take tablets from the docs to help but outside my comfort zone i still panic. I don't allow myself to cancel (unless i genuinely can't go due to illness) and i slap a smile on my face and get the job done even though inside i'm a bit of a wreck. I love my job and won't let nerves get the better of me but sometimes it's soooh hard. Sending you a big hug and hope you can combat your fears x

 

[kezza*]

kezza, im sorry to hear you went through ivf but so pleased to hear you have a precious baby girl.

Thank you. I have been going to the doctors three times in two months complaining about my anxerity recently, but I have had another health problem and that had been trigging the anxerity off. I have been on tablets and I'm beginning to feel normal. I feel normal for the first time in three years. It's worth talking to the doctor, tablets will help with the physical side and counciling will help mentally. Don't put up with it there is help available.

 

[gillian w]

You could definately try someone who specialises in cognitive behavioural therapy.Have a google and it will explain how it helps and what it is and where to get it.I know a few people that it has really helped and in some cases has been life changing.

 

[fluffydreams]

I have suffered with this for years!
I full on panic before s driving lesson, before going mobile, going to the pub etc.
The best thing to do is, "feel the fear and do it anyway."
The more you avoid a situation the worse it gets.

I am seeing a counsellor at the moment and we talk about my anxiety levels in different situations and number them and how to tackle them. For example, a "5 or 6" situation I will tackle and stay in the situation until the anxiety gradually comes down to a 2 or 3 til it's a big fat 0!

At the moment my 5 or 6 situation is now a 3 or 4 and dropping each time I put myself in that situation. I am having cognitive behavioural therapy and it really works hth xx

 

[bombini]

When I first joined this site I suffered with anxiety. I still do in certain situations but when I started doing beauty mobile it was awful.

I was referred by my GP for cognitive therapy CBT and it totally worked it was hard at times, blubbing to a total stranger but it was worth it. I think going mobile triggered it to be honest as Id worked in an office and spas for a few years and had no real problems then once I went mobile that was it. Id be anxious about answering the phone to potential clients, get in a total state going to new clients, worry about forgetting things. It then started to creep into my personal life, I couldn't go shopping on my own as I was worried that people were watching my every move in the shop, at one point I couldn't even drive my car without wearing sunglasses, whatever the weather. I was so paranoid !!!

I was lucky and only had to wait a few weeks as I agreed to see a trainee therapist. I didn't need any medication just the therapy.

 

[Glamourous]

I have anixety problems.....its not something ive had through my business though, ive always had it....i used to be alot worse, thats why i threw myself into this trade to become more sociable and that is exactly what its done lol

i still get very nervous though, i dont get nervous that im not going to do a good job i think for me its more a case of "will they like me" "if they dont like me they might not come back to me" etc etc

Dont get me wrong sometimes the anxiety hasnt gone in my favour and people havent come back....but you have to remember its the same for everyone, everyone gets nervous, its a big deal walking into a strangers house or meeting new people for the first time let alone performing a treatment on them....ive found that it works for me if i focus on the attitude of trying to get into my head that is the only time im going to see them, to some people this may sound negative but it really works, i treat everyone as if its the first time and last im going to meet them....they get shocked at my "laid back" approach, i dont hassle them or wave them goodbye with "so let me know if you want another booking soon" etc....i just wave them off with "it was lovely to meet you, thankyou so much for being a great client" and off i go....you would be surprised how it intreages them.......if they come back to me i get the biggest BUZZ as in my head i didnt expect it......i hope this makes sense???

At the end of the day they arnt judging you or what you are like, if they are getting a bargain and and a good service you have no worries ))) beleive in what you do....and others will follow xxxx

 

[meli_moo]

I have always been a nervous person from being a child, I have got better at dealing with it since I became a mobile beauty therapist although I do have my days where I wanna drive home and dive under my duvet. When meeting a new client I do get very nervous but I now try to put abit of a front on and be brave until I get to know them. Last week I went to a new clients house and when I get nervous my chest and neck goes all red and blotchy and the clients huband noticed and he asked what was wrong with my chest and neck and when I'd done I felt like I didnt want to go back, I felt so uncomfortable. I'm glad i'm not alone.

Good luck with everything xx

 

[blossom]

When I was mobile I'd get the jitters a little. Now I work from home but I still do usually when it's a new client (but as most of my new ones are from recommendations, that does help, because it's like they come in because they've seen your work and they like it so it feels better)

What I hated about mobile was:

* Not knowing where I would park (sometimes it was down the road or across a car park)
* Someone blocking me in (happened lots - what a pain if you don't know whose car it is)
* Feeling comfortable in the person's house
* Being "put" somewhere where it was difficult to work (ie a dark corner or at * a high table with a low chair - it's what made me invest in portable furniture & lamp)
* Other people being a bloody audience while I worked
* Them having a cat (I'm allergic)
* Them keeping on and on and on talking when I'm trying to pack up and go home

Think these were my main issues - I just feel a lot happier working from home. Not to mention much lower stress levels lol

But you are certainly not alone here. Don't know if anyone else relates to the issues I had or maybe it was just me lol

I get the chest thing too, either when I'm het up or after 2/3 glasses of wine - wonder why that is?

 

[*aan*]

Wow lots of replys.

Blossom I am all them things and more.

Well I have another booking for 8pm today I managed at least to book her in rather than lie and say I am busy. I hope I make it to the appointment.

I want too work hard and make a name for myself, i get jealous of local techs who are busier than me. Yet I keep holding myself back all the time so frustrating.

Yet I've just finished some silver rock star on a friend but because i know her and she comes to me I am fine.
The long and short of it is I just have to buy a house so I can have my own salon, Not too much to ask then haha

 

[EMK]

I am a student and every single student gets nervous when clients come in. Plus if your husband is going through depression it could be that you are just more sensitive and empathetic - which is a positive and not a negative! Use the nervousness to provide a good listening ear!

 

[xsasix]

Hi hun I'm exactly the same ....I'm not even nervous sometimes and I get it!!! I make myself so angry....the doctor prescribed me anti depressents but they made me feel worse because I panick about the side effects off tablets lol....I now use kalms tablets quiet regualky I found these help x