VHunter
Well-Known Member
I have a new client.
Yesterday was only her second time coming.
Lovely woman, from down south. We get on famously.
She had sounded odd on the phone when she called to say she'd be late.
When she got here, she was clearly distraught and me being me, said "you look like you need a hug".
I hugged her and she promptly started sobbing. I told her to let it out, that it was ok. I mean, what else could I do? At first she was apologetic and slightly embarassed. I told her not to worry. That this is a safe place, there's no judgement here. It's neutral ground. I'm a vault and what is said here, STAYS here. That as much as I can yammer, I can listen too. I showed her a plaque my friend needlepointed for me that reads
"Manicurists make good therapists. They hold your hands while listening to your problems".
She giggled and said "just like a bartender". I answered "naaahh, I'm prettier and smell nicer". She giggled.
She had a good vent afterwards, and it seems her family is taking her for granted and really running her around the bend. There's more to it, and she had PLENTY to cry about. She earned those tears.
Afterwards, after I had finished fixing her nails up, and got her laughing and smiling again... she was so thankful. She seemed in a much better place. I see her again in a bit over a week.
Anyway... my question is this:
Has it ever happened to you? It threw me for a loop. I do barely know the woman. At first I was startled, and then just did what I do for my long time friends. What else could I do? She was hurting. People have vented to me on many occasion, but this was a tad different. I don't really know her. We hadn't had a chance to build a 'relationship', know what I mean?
I was wiped out afterwards, using every bit of energy I had to 'bring her up' from her dark place. Know what I mean?
I felt lost, and so afraid to say the wrong thing. I didn't want to overstep my bounds, but she was lost and only recently moved here from the states. So she doesn't really have a 'network' of friends here yet.
How often have you seen/done this sort of thing in your work?
Do you often feel like you're a client's shrink?
If it happened to you, did you feel a tad lost?
Yesterday was only her second time coming.
Lovely woman, from down south. We get on famously.
She had sounded odd on the phone when she called to say she'd be late.
When she got here, she was clearly distraught and me being me, said "you look like you need a hug".
I hugged her and she promptly started sobbing. I told her to let it out, that it was ok. I mean, what else could I do? At first she was apologetic and slightly embarassed. I told her not to worry. That this is a safe place, there's no judgement here. It's neutral ground. I'm a vault and what is said here, STAYS here. That as much as I can yammer, I can listen too. I showed her a plaque my friend needlepointed for me that reads
"Manicurists make good therapists. They hold your hands while listening to your problems".
She giggled and said "just like a bartender". I answered "naaahh, I'm prettier and smell nicer". She giggled.
She had a good vent afterwards, and it seems her family is taking her for granted and really running her around the bend. There's more to it, and she had PLENTY to cry about. She earned those tears.
Afterwards, after I had finished fixing her nails up, and got her laughing and smiling again... she was so thankful. She seemed in a much better place. I see her again in a bit over a week.
Anyway... my question is this:
Has it ever happened to you? It threw me for a loop. I do barely know the woman. At first I was startled, and then just did what I do for my long time friends. What else could I do? She was hurting. People have vented to me on many occasion, but this was a tad different. I don't really know her. We hadn't had a chance to build a 'relationship', know what I mean?
I was wiped out afterwards, using every bit of energy I had to 'bring her up' from her dark place. Know what I mean?
I felt lost, and so afraid to say the wrong thing. I didn't want to overstep my bounds, but she was lost and only recently moved here from the states. So she doesn't really have a 'network' of friends here yet.
How often have you seen/done this sort of thing in your work?
Do you often feel like you're a client's shrink?
If it happened to you, did you feel a tad lost?