tanfastic
Well-Known Member
Hi there Geeks, this seems to be turning into a relationship therapy page and I need some advice here.. Longish thread but here goes
We moved in here 5 years ago , huge bit of land behind the bungalow with a private lane running around the back of the property to other bungalows. The front of our property is on to a busy road. Fields behind us and a woodland too. directly behind us a bit of land belongs to an old boy who uses it for amenity land no one is allowed to live on it permanently. We had a lot of trouble with him when we first came as he was like "Lane Police" everything we did was scrutinized and complained about. Every inch of our land was catalogued and if we put a new fence up a cm more than where it was before he would kick up and make us move it. We tried to keep him happy but I eventually blew up and had a huge row with him. Over the last few years his health has been failing and he doesn't come to his plot much but he has two grown up sons, one is in a rock band and god knows what the other does but every summer they have these 3 day marathon party events. Tents, vans, motorbikes loud music etc. Not every weekend but at least once a month sometimes more.
I have gone there before and seen one of the guys a few times to ask how late or how long etc. Explaining that my animals get spooked by loud noises at night especially when they are used to it sounding like quiet country side ( it is far enough from the road for hardly any sound to travel up to the hen houses) The one son has always been polite and tried to not P*ss me off.
Friday night was hot so I had the back door open and I could hear constant cheers ( like when someone scores a goal at football) shouting, loud music, screaming etc etc. My bigger dog has very strong guarding instincts and he was a pest barking and racing up the garden every 5 minutes. I had to shut the doors to keep him in and swelter. By midnight I had enough and stormed up there, asked for who is in charge, they were all so drunk I did shout at them and told him I was going to talk to his dad in the morning and that enough is enough. It isn't rural country side, there are neighbors to think of. He told me to get off the property so I did.(All weekend my dog has been limping as he twisted his leg racing about like guard dog from hell. I have had to keep him on painkillers.Silly boy)
I got home and the hubby had a go at me for upsetting them !!!! It really upset me.
Anyway the dad came to my front door today, told me I was trespassing on his property and why was I complaining, I told him that I had the decency to speak to them instead of calling the police ( I am sure there were drugs on the premises but don't want to tell the old boy as it would break his heart and he wouldn't believe me anyway.)He told me to call the police then so I said I would and that he was to get off my property as I had nothing I wanted to say to him and didn't want to hear another word from him. Upon leaving he says that there is just one thing he wants to say, apparently we are using an access to our property ( talking a load of rubbish trying to scare me?)without the proper permissions so he will have to do something about it. Threatening me on my property!!! I told him to leave immediately or I would call the police NOW as I will not be threatened on my own land.
Hubby was with the tree surgeons when this happened so I went to find him to tell him and again he has go at me for stirring things up. He says I should have left it and none of this would have happened.
Should I just have ignored the noise and aggravation on Friday?Am I just a grumpy old cow?
I think I was right but then I can be stubborn and can be a bit aggressive when pushed but shouldn't he have stuck up for me?
We moved in here 5 years ago , huge bit of land behind the bungalow with a private lane running around the back of the property to other bungalows. The front of our property is on to a busy road. Fields behind us and a woodland too. directly behind us a bit of land belongs to an old boy who uses it for amenity land no one is allowed to live on it permanently. We had a lot of trouble with him when we first came as he was like "Lane Police" everything we did was scrutinized and complained about. Every inch of our land was catalogued and if we put a new fence up a cm more than where it was before he would kick up and make us move it. We tried to keep him happy but I eventually blew up and had a huge row with him. Over the last few years his health has been failing and he doesn't come to his plot much but he has two grown up sons, one is in a rock band and god knows what the other does but every summer they have these 3 day marathon party events. Tents, vans, motorbikes loud music etc. Not every weekend but at least once a month sometimes more.
I have gone there before and seen one of the guys a few times to ask how late or how long etc. Explaining that my animals get spooked by loud noises at night especially when they are used to it sounding like quiet country side ( it is far enough from the road for hardly any sound to travel up to the hen houses) The one son has always been polite and tried to not P*ss me off.
Friday night was hot so I had the back door open and I could hear constant cheers ( like when someone scores a goal at football) shouting, loud music, screaming etc etc. My bigger dog has very strong guarding instincts and he was a pest barking and racing up the garden every 5 minutes. I had to shut the doors to keep him in and swelter. By midnight I had enough and stormed up there, asked for who is in charge, they were all so drunk I did shout at them and told him I was going to talk to his dad in the morning and that enough is enough. It isn't rural country side, there are neighbors to think of. He told me to get off the property so I did.(All weekend my dog has been limping as he twisted his leg racing about like guard dog from hell. I have had to keep him on painkillers.Silly boy)
I got home and the hubby had a go at me for upsetting them !!!! It really upset me.
Anyway the dad came to my front door today, told me I was trespassing on his property and why was I complaining, I told him that I had the decency to speak to them instead of calling the police ( I am sure there were drugs on the premises but don't want to tell the old boy as it would break his heart and he wouldn't believe me anyway.)He told me to call the police then so I said I would and that he was to get off my property as I had nothing I wanted to say to him and didn't want to hear another word from him. Upon leaving he says that there is just one thing he wants to say, apparently we are using an access to our property ( talking a load of rubbish trying to scare me?)without the proper permissions so he will have to do something about it. Threatening me on my property!!! I told him to leave immediately or I would call the police NOW as I will not be threatened on my own land.
Hubby was with the tree surgeons when this happened so I went to find him to tell him and again he has go at me for stirring things up. He says I should have left it and none of this would have happened.
Should I just have ignored the noise and aggravation on Friday?Am I just a grumpy old cow?
I think I was right but then I can be stubborn and can be a bit aggressive when pushed but shouldn't he have stuck up for me?