Male intimate waxing - what is appropriate?

JayM

Active Member
The salon near me has scantily clad women in thongs on their website. It's very clear the sort of massage you'll get.

When someone tries to control a situation like that, I felt he was taking it out of our hands. He said he'd been working out a lot - he clearly hadn't. When I asked where as my husband is a personal trainer, he stammered over the answer.

The first thing I say to clients is that we offer aromatherapy massage but he slipped through the net. I have lots of male clients and some are older and say slightly inappropriate things, usually from embarrassment but they're total gents, but he made me feel so uncomfortable I was itching to either hit him or leg it out of the room. I knew I had to say something to stop him returning.

We have to stay safe and it can often take us half a lifetime to trust our gut instinct. It's there for a reason x
Omg that's shocking! You should never have to feel the uncomfortable at work xxx
 

Lolly22

Active Member
Sorry guys haven't been regular on the board and just checked this. Thank you for your replies, I do think that when I get more experience I will be able to deal with it better. I just don't think I'm happy to carry on a treatment whilst someone has this going on so I think if the client doesn't address it next time I will have to. I understand it does happen but I would really think you would address it as a client and at least apologise or something.

I guess you live and learn eh? I'll be more prepared the next time if nothing else haha!
 

Lolly22

Active Member
I specialise in male waxing and have done for 6 years. This does happen but usually you can tell it's embarrassing for the client, some address it some don't. Usually after removing a few strips of wax it usually subsides on its own! I'm afraid some guys can't control it so he was probably telling the truth about that...but what I would have been more concerned about was that he had is eyes closed throughout the treatment. Only experience will give you more confidence and ability to read these fellas. In 6 years I've only 'banned' one guy and it wasn't because he had an erection it was because he was making stupid comments and he was getting on my nerves!!! One of my regular clients always had an erection throughout most of the treatment until one day, after a good few waxes he decided to text me and say how sorry he was that it kept happening, after I had assured him 'it happens don't worry about it' it never happened again! If you feel uncomfortable then don't book him again. Most men are lovely but always be in charge of the situation and trust your gut instincts.
The whole eyes closed thing was weird aswell. Like what are you doing with your eyes closed??? Thinking about what? It really didn't give off a good impression haha.
 

Male Waxing

Member
Always go with your gut but be careful about accusing someone of something that may just be a misunderstanding.

From experience my first impressions are this guy is a weirdo. However, I am careful to not treat anyone like a weirdo until they have said or done something inappropriate (like repeatedly twitching their willy obviously on purpose). Some people close their eyes and some people get erections, he might just do both and I always give benefit of the doubt. I don’t think it’s his responsibility to draw attention to or talk about his erection.

The real sign that someone is up to no good is if they will not enter into meaningful conversation with you while they have an erection. He may just feel too awkward to talk so it’s important that for a first time client you keep an arsenal of conversational ammo that you can fire at him if he gets erect. Open questions that make him think are good. As are questions about his wife and kids. Seen any good movies lately? What do you think of that idiot Donald Trump? And so on. If he won’t talk to you then he’s probably a creep and you’ll need to pull out the big guns….Do you know of any good natural remedies for my yeast infection? Do you know if those Preparation H wipes are any good? My butt looks like a baboon on heat ect ect. That thing will be going down like the Titanic!
 

What advice would you give if it were exactly the same situation but it happened to your daughter or your best friend?
 

Lolly22

Active Member
Always go with your gut but be careful about accusing someone of something that may just be a misunderstanding.

From experience my first impressions are this guy is a weirdo. However, I am careful to not treat anyone like a weirdo until they have said or done something inappropriate (like repeatedly twitching their willy obviously on purpose). Some people close their eyes and some people get erections, he might just do both and I always give benefit of the doubt. I don’t think it’s his responsibility to draw attention to or talk about his erection.

The real sign that someone is up to no good is if they will not enter into meaningful conversation with you while they have an erection. He may just feel too awkward to talk so it’s important that for a first time client you keep an arsenal of conversational ammo that you can fire at him if he gets erect. Open questions that make him think are good. As are questions about his wife and kids. Seen any good movies lately? What do you think of that idiot Donald Trump? And so on. If he won’t talk to you then he’s probably a creep and you’ll need to pull out the big guns….Do you know of any good natural remedies for my yeast infection? Do you know if those Preparation H wipes are any good? My butt looks like a baboon on heat ect ect. That thing will be going down like the Titanic!
Maybe i was a bit over sensitive to the situation also but I have had some good advice here and I'll be more equipped to deal with it next time. My gut feeling was that something was off with him aswell, had he have spoken throughout it may not have been as bad.

I did ask him if he had any family here he said no, the conversation was like drawing blood from a stone! But thank you for your advice, I'll feel better when it happens the next time. Although I'm not sure I could talk about a yeast infection haha!
 

elliebee

Well-Known Member
Lolly, you know me. And you know not much phases me!

I wouldn't have an issue with with erection itself. But always listen to your gut. If it says something's not right, it's not right.

You are down in that room on your own. Just for future, do you have any way of contacting upstairs, should you need them? When I worked from home, I always made sure someone was at home when I saw a new male client. You get a feeling for people fairly quickly. They were always more nervous than me but you never knew in advance.

I always think you can tell a guys intention by the things he asks when he's booking too.

I wouldn't judge this guy on the erection but the rest of is just doesn't sit right with me. I'd say don't book him in again if you had any doubts at all xx
 
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