Hi geeks
Grab a cuppa this could be a long one
Im after geeks advice, what would you do in my situation? Have any of you been in my situation?
So, mum and dad been together 18years, last 2 its been on a downward spiral :-( when i spoke to my mum the first time about it a while back,apparantly, they had decided they were going to get a divorce but hold iff till my brother had his op (he has cerebal paulsy in his legs, was due for october but got persponed till january this year, doing fantasticaly well )
Anyway, at first i was like why wait? At the end of the day theres 3kids under 12 that will suffer, why not get it sorted and the ball rolling and seperated and settled be4 the operatiom right? I know its not as black and white and would b difficult, but, at least one thing was out the way and they could concentrate on my little brothers op.
So (told you it would be long haha) they didnt but there has been so much tension in there house its ridiculous the kids knew somethin was going on (solicitors been involved for about 4 months and the kids only got told a few days ago, i wouldnt have left it that long, but each to there own right?)
Anyway, my dad LOVED my mum no end, anybody could see that. My mum has a nasty streak when she wants to have one, i mean plain an utter BITCH! My dad can be horrible to, but i suppose everyone can be when in an argument. Back in february on my mums birthday night out she was on the phone aaaaallllllll night to someone and wouldnt tell me,well, we had not long got to the restaurant and my mum had her head down a toilet she was that drunk (she only had 2 malibu and cokes so i put it down to drink and stress mixing :-s) mr detective kicks in, goes to phone the playboy bus that was picking us up to pick us up early and thought ill see who it was she was speaking to.........well........to my disgust......another man.........texts saying, i want you, i need you, come pick me up i want to b with you.......you get my drift! Next day she phones me (had an argument with her stuck up best friend cause i phoned this bloke and she told me i was wrong and didnt have the right too, cheeky mere) usually she would phone me having a go at me......to my shock......she was nice as pie saying its not what it seemed blah blah. Left it at that, well, being mr detective myself, i knew he was always in the shop next to my mums shop for lunch, found his van, got the reg number and found were he lived the past few months i e got my boyfriend to drive past casualy to see if my mum was there.........and on a few occasions she has been with her car strategicaly hidden so no one can see, ive phoned her, and shes at her friends having a coffee......TOTALLY lying to my face.
Ill try and wrap this up now :-s
Anyway, my mum is trying to go for everything and leaving my dad with nothing.......sick i know! She has ALL of my family HATING my dad, everytime i see one of them they always slag him off, i dont been, oh hes being horrible, i mean nasty, malicious comments and to b fair it makes my blood boil, im not one to keeo comments to myself but in this instance i need to. Oh forgot to mention NOONE in my family knows about this bloke my mums meeting. My dad "biologically" isnt my dad. But to me he has beenthere since i was 4/5, he is my dad no matter wat and were very close.
LAST point i promise hehe comes out about 2months ago that. What looks like, he has been meeting another woman. Which again is wrong an i think hes a dumb ass for not leaving it till they arent living together at least. But again my mum will quite happily tell my family that making them hate him even more! There both not making this divorce easy, there trying to fight it, which is what mist divorces are like right? I dont think ive met somebody whos had an amicable divorce
I will apologise for the disgustingly long post, and give whoever manages to read the whole lot a bloody big pat on the back haha
Xoxoxo
Grab a cuppa this could be a long one
Im after geeks advice, what would you do in my situation? Have any of you been in my situation?
So, mum and dad been together 18years, last 2 its been on a downward spiral :-( when i spoke to my mum the first time about it a while back,apparantly, they had decided they were going to get a divorce but hold iff till my brother had his op (he has cerebal paulsy in his legs, was due for october but got persponed till january this year, doing fantasticaly well )
Anyway, at first i was like why wait? At the end of the day theres 3kids under 12 that will suffer, why not get it sorted and the ball rolling and seperated and settled be4 the operatiom right? I know its not as black and white and would b difficult, but, at least one thing was out the way and they could concentrate on my little brothers op.
So (told you it would be long haha) they didnt but there has been so much tension in there house its ridiculous the kids knew somethin was going on (solicitors been involved for about 4 months and the kids only got told a few days ago, i wouldnt have left it that long, but each to there own right?)
Anyway, my dad LOVED my mum no end, anybody could see that. My mum has a nasty streak when she wants to have one, i mean plain an utter BITCH! My dad can be horrible to, but i suppose everyone can be when in an argument. Back in february on my mums birthday night out she was on the phone aaaaallllllll night to someone and wouldnt tell me,well, we had not long got to the restaurant and my mum had her head down a toilet she was that drunk (she only had 2 malibu and cokes so i put it down to drink and stress mixing :-s) mr detective kicks in, goes to phone the playboy bus that was picking us up to pick us up early and thought ill see who it was she was speaking to.........well........to my disgust......another man.........texts saying, i want you, i need you, come pick me up i want to b with you.......you get my drift! Next day she phones me (had an argument with her stuck up best friend cause i phoned this bloke and she told me i was wrong and didnt have the right too, cheeky mere) usually she would phone me having a go at me......to my shock......she was nice as pie saying its not what it seemed blah blah. Left it at that, well, being mr detective myself, i knew he was always in the shop next to my mums shop for lunch, found his van, got the reg number and found were he lived the past few months i e got my boyfriend to drive past casualy to see if my mum was there.........and on a few occasions she has been with her car strategicaly hidden so no one can see, ive phoned her, and shes at her friends having a coffee......TOTALLY lying to my face.
Ill try and wrap this up now :-s
Anyway, my mum is trying to go for everything and leaving my dad with nothing.......sick i know! She has ALL of my family HATING my dad, everytime i see one of them they always slag him off, i dont been, oh hes being horrible, i mean nasty, malicious comments and to b fair it makes my blood boil, im not one to keeo comments to myself but in this instance i need to. Oh forgot to mention NOONE in my family knows about this bloke my mums meeting. My dad "biologically" isnt my dad. But to me he has beenthere since i was 4/5, he is my dad no matter wat and were very close.
LAST point i promise hehe comes out about 2months ago that. What looks like, he has been meeting another woman. Which again is wrong an i think hes a dumb ass for not leaving it till they arent living together at least. But again my mum will quite happily tell my family that making them hate him even more! There both not making this divorce easy, there trying to fight it, which is what mist divorces are like right? I dont think ive met somebody whos had an amicable divorce
I will apologise for the disgustingly long post, and give whoever manages to read the whole lot a bloody big pat on the back haha
Xoxoxo