ellishairbeauty
Well-Known Member
Hiya gals and guys.
Never posted a thread on here but i can see alot of you talk quite openly and all support each other with any thread so here i am.
Ive been with my man 5 years. Weve lived together 12 months.
On our 5th or 6th date when i was 20 years old and he was 25 he told me he never wanted kids. I was absolutly fine with that. I was 20, living at home, earning fantastic money as a stylist and spending every penny of it on me!
Now at the age of 25 (by no means old or to old) ive been there through friends pergnancies, births (witnessed one) and bringing up. Although i am not craving a child right now, the thought of never ever having one or a few is making me feel really sad. Ive brought this up to him and he says u should know the score, i did tell you.
I read in magazines or on threads here that you and your men have sat down and had lovely discussions about when to start trying and feeling the diappointment every time you get a period while your trying, listening to how disappointed your fella is every time you come on.
I sat him down and told him how i felt. We came to a desicion, my contraceptive implant is due out in july this year, i will have one more in which will be due on july 2017 which will make me 28 and him 33 and start trying. So i started to relax and enjoy my last few years before settling, booked some great holidays, going out clubbing ect..... then bam.
I met my boyf at the pub he runs for drinks. One of the regular women who drink in there was there with her 2 lovely children who my boyf gets on really with, well with she came and sat by me and said
"what a shame about u and craig not every having children".... i said
"pardon what makes u think that??"
She said
"oh i said to him today you and ellis should have children, shes 25 and your 30, perfect timing and he said no i dont ever want any"
I aproached him and he told me shes just a drunken bum and is fibbing.
Everything in our life is so perfect atm. I have a great job working as a self employed hairdresser and beautician and he has a great job running the local boozer we have great friends family we have a lovely flat we get on perfectly.... but this i think about daily.
If when my implant is due out when im 28 and he decides after all that he doesnt want children then what??
I would never ever leave him as i love him dearly and he in return.
I suppose i just want to feel that that you all feel. The excitement and planning children him to just say i cant wait untill your the mother of my child or to say to people i cant wait to be a dad instead of screwing up his face up everytime its mentioned.
The plan of waiting 4 years then start trying seemed fantastic to me. Plenty of time to save, do the big holidays festivals and basically tick everything off and then really throw ourselves into parent hood.
Could this really split us up and my life without him is a life not worth living?
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Never posted a thread on here but i can see alot of you talk quite openly and all support each other with any thread so here i am.
Ive been with my man 5 years. Weve lived together 12 months.
On our 5th or 6th date when i was 20 years old and he was 25 he told me he never wanted kids. I was absolutly fine with that. I was 20, living at home, earning fantastic money as a stylist and spending every penny of it on me!
Now at the age of 25 (by no means old or to old) ive been there through friends pergnancies, births (witnessed one) and bringing up. Although i am not craving a child right now, the thought of never ever having one or a few is making me feel really sad. Ive brought this up to him and he says u should know the score, i did tell you.
I read in magazines or on threads here that you and your men have sat down and had lovely discussions about when to start trying and feeling the diappointment every time you get a period while your trying, listening to how disappointed your fella is every time you come on.
I sat him down and told him how i felt. We came to a desicion, my contraceptive implant is due out in july this year, i will have one more in which will be due on july 2017 which will make me 28 and him 33 and start trying. So i started to relax and enjoy my last few years before settling, booked some great holidays, going out clubbing ect..... then bam.
I met my boyf at the pub he runs for drinks. One of the regular women who drink in there was there with her 2 lovely children who my boyf gets on really with, well with she came and sat by me and said
"what a shame about u and craig not every having children".... i said
"pardon what makes u think that??"
She said
"oh i said to him today you and ellis should have children, shes 25 and your 30, perfect timing and he said no i dont ever want any"
I aproached him and he told me shes just a drunken bum and is fibbing.
Everything in our life is so perfect atm. I have a great job working as a self employed hairdresser and beautician and he has a great job running the local boozer we have great friends family we have a lovely flat we get on perfectly.... but this i think about daily.
If when my implant is due out when im 28 and he decides after all that he doesnt want children then what??
I would never ever leave him as i love him dearly and he in return.
I suppose i just want to feel that that you all feel. The excitement and planning children him to just say i cant wait untill your the mother of my child or to say to people i cant wait to be a dad instead of screwing up his face up everytime its mentioned.
The plan of waiting 4 years then start trying seemed fantastic to me. Plenty of time to save, do the big holidays festivals and basically tick everything off and then really throw ourselves into parent hood.
Could this really split us up and my life without him is a life not worth living?
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chin up Hope this helps xx
