Sorry This maybe a long one. Im a geek regular but dont want to use my geek name. Been with my Partner 8 yrs trying to conceive for 6 yrs. 2 cycles of IVF later we are still childless. On paper it is my partner with sperm problems. even with ivf we dont have great results poor embryo development. guess we are possibly incompatable. The easy option would be to adopt but my partner isnt entertaining that idea. This is my main problem. He also wont contimplate using an egg or sperm donor or both. I would do any. I am desperate.
This part is difficult to admit so please be kind. I was with my childhood sweetheart on & off we always went back to each other from being 14 to 21. I got pregnant at 18, I was at college working a saturday job only. We didnt have a pot to p in. So we made the tough decision to have an early medical abortion. This guilt lives with me everyday. I feel i am being punished for my actions. This guy always has loved me and according to him still now 8.5 yrs on he still does. i will always love him to. Think we all still love our 1st love I think thats normal. We bumped in to each other 2 wks ago in a club he made a bee line for me n spent the whole night declaring his love for me. He has a girlfriend. Been with her for 5 yrs. he kissed me. I was drunk n kissed him back.
Felt horrific the next day with worry n guilt. If I could turn back the clock i would. Its not an excuse but i was very drunk. Never done anything like it before. If all that isnt tricky enough my ex has got my number off mutual friends when he texts it makes me smile just general chatting not anything seedy. My partner doesnt plan our future n is abit self centred as long as he is ok. For every bad point he has a good point n i love him. But i feel so torn I want a baby so bad n i want more from my relationship my partner works long hours so i can sometimes feel a bit lonely n empty. I think maybe im forgetting we all want the perfect relationship to. Easy to focus on what we havent got isnt it.
I cant help but think i could have a baby with my ex n he is the oppasite of my partner he is open comminucates n always use to talk about our future unfortunetly i broke his heart when we split up as he wasnt maturing as quick as I was. Im so confused. You just assume you will have children until you cant.
I need some third party views Im 29 my biological clock is ticking. Do i stick out hoping my partner n i will get pregnant? Do i give up wanting to have children for love? these 8 yrs have gone in the blink of an eye in another 8 yrs I wont still b fertile. Do i try to change his mind in adoption? He goes in a mood n says ive already told u how i feel, lets try n have our own! we bloody have tried. it has to b me who brings up babies fertility treatment n so on. He has in the past kicked up a fuss saying he doesnt want any more ivf when we r sat waiting in the clinic as its running late n he has to go back to work. I have cried n cried over this for the last week.
Please be kind to me im struggling. N I dont know anyone who has been in a similar situation.
Hope x
This part is difficult to admit so please be kind. I was with my childhood sweetheart on & off we always went back to each other from being 14 to 21. I got pregnant at 18, I was at college working a saturday job only. We didnt have a pot to p in. So we made the tough decision to have an early medical abortion. This guilt lives with me everyday. I feel i am being punished for my actions. This guy always has loved me and according to him still now 8.5 yrs on he still does. i will always love him to. Think we all still love our 1st love I think thats normal. We bumped in to each other 2 wks ago in a club he made a bee line for me n spent the whole night declaring his love for me. He has a girlfriend. Been with her for 5 yrs. he kissed me. I was drunk n kissed him back.
Felt horrific the next day with worry n guilt. If I could turn back the clock i would. Its not an excuse but i was very drunk. Never done anything like it before. If all that isnt tricky enough my ex has got my number off mutual friends when he texts it makes me smile just general chatting not anything seedy. My partner doesnt plan our future n is abit self centred as long as he is ok. For every bad point he has a good point n i love him. But i feel so torn I want a baby so bad n i want more from my relationship my partner works long hours so i can sometimes feel a bit lonely n empty. I think maybe im forgetting we all want the perfect relationship to. Easy to focus on what we havent got isnt it.
I cant help but think i could have a baby with my ex n he is the oppasite of my partner he is open comminucates n always use to talk about our future unfortunetly i broke his heart when we split up as he wasnt maturing as quick as I was. Im so confused. You just assume you will have children until you cant.
I need some third party views Im 29 my biological clock is ticking. Do i stick out hoping my partner n i will get pregnant? Do i give up wanting to have children for love? these 8 yrs have gone in the blink of an eye in another 8 yrs I wont still b fertile. Do i try to change his mind in adoption? He goes in a mood n says ive already told u how i feel, lets try n have our own! we bloody have tried. it has to b me who brings up babies fertility treatment n so on. He has in the past kicked up a fuss saying he doesnt want any more ivf when we r sat waiting in the clinic as its running late n he has to go back to work. I have cried n cried over this for the last week.
Please be kind to me im struggling. N I dont know anyone who has been in a similar situation.
Hope x
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