As title says really, just thought I'd ask, what do you think is a maximum age difference in a relationship? Do you think it's "weird" if it goes past a certain gap? Do you think age even matters? Intrigued to see what people think. X
As usual in this world if the man is older it seems to present fewer turned heads and is easily accepted.
If one of them is younger in attitude and the other is older in attitude then it balances out nicely.
It can cause problems if the older person finds it difficult to socialise with the younger one's friends. And vice-versa.
Unless the older person is very secure in themselves, the ageing process itself can eventually cause a problem to that individual. Even though it may not be a problem to the younger one at all. And vice-versa
This kind of love match is more often a problem for other people rather than the two involved.
Every relationship/friendship in our lives has an 'end date'.
Some people may be in it for a month some for all of our lives.
If an age-gap relationship doesn't last forever, so what. Lots of same-age relationships don't last either.
We should be with whoever makes us happy and enjoy the time together for as long as it may last.
Age makes no difference to the people involved, it's everybody else.
I think the only real issues in big age differences is the lack of maturity or compatibility that can present itself. Not in all cases of course and this is just something that can happen,I'm not saying will happen.
Sometimes for example older men or women can be attracted to the younger,more youthful model because of their looks and physique and at first things go along wonderfully but then reality can kick in and the realisation that there's little mutual interest in music,likes or understanding in the partners friends and how they may like to entertain themselves. Ie nightclubs etc.
One may love going out every weekend to clubs and pubs,or be heavily into their sports routines at the gym or rock climbing activities whereas the other may like quiet nights in nursing their cup of cocoa whilst watching Parkinson. Also the younger partner may want children whereas the other may not be able to have children or may already have had kids and not be interested in starting over again.
I've never been involved with anyone with a huge age difference but I have a friend who went out with a much older guy,they got married and had a few issues but all in all seem happy.
Generally I think age is just a number but there can be difficulties,it's sadly not always the perfect affair but if the situation presents itself then why not give it a go and see how it pans out.could end up being the love of your life.
As for people frowning at the age difference,well some people are only happy when poking their noses into other peoples business when they should be concentrating on their own issues.
I have a married couple that have been coming to me for 10 years now and theyve been married for 30 years.
Shes 50 and hes nearly 72.
They are the funniest most compatible pair ever!!
She says he doesnt feel 72 and hes very fit for his age so i guess it takes all sorts eh guys :lick:
I was just interested to see and I have agreed with most comments
Me and my FIANCÉ have a 17 year age gap, he is the older one! We absolutely love each other to bits, we'd do anything for each other and have done!!! He lives 300 miles away and we travel 300 miles to see each other most weekends
At first, the age was an issue for my family, obviously my dad! I actually broke it off at the beginning cos it was causing arguments and my family mean the world to me and no guy was worth losing that! However, my dad saw how upset I was over this and decided he needed to meet him, so he went to the hotel he was staying at and he suddenly realised this guy wasn't just some sleezy guy after a young lady on his arm, he was a genuine loving guy (who only looked a couple of years older than me! Lol) who genuinely cared about me! Of course this is what any dad wants for his baby (although he felt the age gap was not ideal), so he called me and told me if it's what I really wanted then he would support me !!! Well I can't tell you how much that meant to me! 6 1/2 years later we're still going and stronger than ever! All the family love him to bits and always ask how he is before they ask How I am Haha!!
However, saying all of this... Had I have known how old he was at the beginning we would not be together now!!! Age wasn't something we discussed at the beginning, as I look older than my age (unfortunately) and he looks much younger than his age (lucky bugger), we thought there was going to be about 5 years between us!! Haha!
Basically all I wanted to say is... Don't let age put you off! If I had, I would never have found the love of my life! Give it a go, if it doesn't work, then hey ho, that's life, but if it does work it could be your one true love (as could it if they are the same age as you)!
I've been with my partner 5 years. I'm 23, he's 41. There's 18 years between us and it has never once caused us an issue. Admittedly he doesn't look his age and looks much younger and people never believe it when they find out his age, but I truly believe age really is just a number. If he makes you happy and treats you right then that's all that should matter xxx
I met a couple last year, she was 59, he was (wait for it) just about to celebrate his 100th birthday! She said that they still lived together and she would never put him in a home because she loved him too much, and he still had a cheeky glint in his eye
I have been with my husband for 12 years - married for 8- i am 43 and he is 32 so 11 years difference. Just wanted to say it's never caused us a problem. As long as the couple are happy together who cares? Let other people think what they like, at the end of the day it really has nothing to do with anyone else!! :0) xx