Rudest thing a client has ever said to you?

[Jade Partridge]

Genuine question now, why does it bother you when people ask if your planning on getting married or planning children in your future?

The reason I ask is because I do that to clients all the time! They mention their bf and my next questions are those, I never thought of it being an upsetting question? I'll stop if it really is

I understand some people can't have children so I can understand they wouldn't want to discuss that but most of the time they'd just say how it is, they don't appear offended?

People ask me about getting married too n it never bothers me?

When People ask me about getting married I am ok with that, my other half never wants to marry, I do - but its okay, their reactions are funny when I tell them my bar bill would be damn high if i wanted him to propose.
However as someone with Issues on the baby making it depends when people ask me.... It has brought me to tears, sometimes I feel strong enough to explain that its not on the cards for me (without going into detail) other times it makes me want to punch them in the face as it really hurts like a knife in the heart.

 

[Jordon]

When People ask me about getting married I am ok with that, my other half never wants to marry, I do - but its okay, their reactions are funny when I tell them my bar bill would be damn high if i wanted him to propose.
However as someone with Issues on the baby making it depends when people ask me.... It has brought me to tears, sometimes I feel strong enough to explain that its not on the cards for me (without going into detail) other times it makes me want to punch them in the face as it really hurts like a knife in the heart.

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[gemsie1983]

When People ask me about getting married I am ok with that, my other half never wants to marry, I do - but its okay, their reactions are funny when I tell them my bar bill would be damn high if i wanted him to propose.
However as someone with Issues on the baby making it depends when people ask me.... It has brought me to tears, sometimes I feel strong enough to explain that its not on the cards for me (without going into detail) other times it makes me want to punch them in the face as it really hurts like a knife in the heart.

Know that feeling all too well. Especially when your ability to not have a child is the first thing you think of in the morning, the last thing you think of at night and takes up most of your thoughts throughout the day.

Luckily the % of people that have problems is small so the chances you would offend someone with that question are slim. But for those of use that do, it's just another stab in the heart.

 

[willowrose]

Luckily the % of people that have problems is small so the chances you would offend someone with that question are slim. But for those of use that do, it's just another stab in the heart.

Unfortunately fertility issues are very common. 1 in 7 pregnancies end in miscarriage and there is often some pain or anguish relating to conceiving even if people ultimately become parents. Ivf referrals increase yearly, biological clock issues have always been a concern for many women & generally the whole mating process is a very sensitive subject for a lot of people male or female.

I think not being able to work out why the question is so inapproprIate shows a real lack of awareness & empathy towards others. It's a prying personal question that is none of their business.

There's a big difference between friendliness and being someone's friend. A service provider should know their boundaries.

 

[squidgernetball]

Totally agree with @willowrose. The only reason I've even mentioned pregnancy is in relation to treatments. I would never ask if people are thinking about having a baby or when they're going to start a family. Been asked that question and find it traumatic for me and the asker to reply "I've just lost a baby" but that's what I always replied as otherwise I was covering up my truth x

 

[redlottie13]

You should say "oh no.... You look ever so pale, are you feeling ok? ..... Well they do say your skin changes as you get older, you will be transparent soon!"

 

[K~Anne]

Unfortunately fertility issues are very common. 1 in 7 pregnancies end in miscarriage and there is often some pain or anguish relating to conceiving even if people ultimately become parents. Ivf referrals increase yearly, biological clock issues have always been a concern for many women & generally the whole mating process is a very sensitive subject for a lot of people male or female.

I think not being able to work out why the question is so inapproprIate shows a real lack of awareness & empathy towards others. It's a prying personal question that is none of their business.

There's a big difference between friendliness and being someone's friend. A service provider should know their boundaries.

This is so true. Me and my Husband are struggling to conceive have been since 2013. We both have medical issues and it will be a long hard battle before we get a little one. It's hard to be asked. Especially when you get responses like 'oh you just aren't doing it right then are you!?', 'oh getting pregnant is easy!', 'oh you are lucky, enjoy your freedom, nothing worse than having a baby waking you up every couple of hours..' Oh shut up!

 

[redlottie13]

I would just rather not ask the question!

I have been through this and hated seeing other mums to be ... Especially, dare I say it-Young chavvy looking mum's smoking while pregnant ect ect!

 

[blossom]

Whether someone is going to start a family is one of those issues you just don't touch unless they bring it up

 

[Emm87]

No I would never ask this question. It took my husband and I a long time to conceive, and for a while I thought it would never happen and it started to be the only thing on my mind which could really get me down. People (never my parents or in laws to be fair) would ask all the time, 'when are you two having kids?' 'Ohhh no sign of being pregnant yet?' etc. Constant comments like that just make you feel worse. We eventually just started saying we didn't want children any time soon which shut them up and stopped them asking again! We are very fortunate now to be due our first little one beginning of June, but I NEVER ask anyone 'when are they having a baby'. It can be such an upsetting question for so many reasons X

 

[Sequins4]

I get asked by one client every 5 weeks when she comes in if I'm feeling broody yet and when am I going to have kids....it's such a personal question and it angers me every time she asks and I feel so embarrassed! We're not trying yet or anything but I always think you don't know what people go through to have children, I would never ask someone I didn't know properly those types of questions, so I'm not sure why she feels she can ask!

 

[Paige@TheClinik]

I have a client who is "not happy" with 50% of her treatments she calls herself "straight to the point" I am usually quite firm and the other girls tend to put difficult clients with me but this woman is just a nob!
She tells me to "get a life" or "get a grip" at least once in every treatment, once was when in general conversation I said that I find it hard disciplining my child as a lone parent another time because I said I don't really travel much I like being home. she is just unbearable!
The last time she said it to me I gave her the look, she hasn't said it since but if she does again I'm going to tell her to find another therapist to abuse.
This is a woman who came for her nails doing with one of my girls, came in and stripped my therapist down about these aaaawwwwwwful nails she hated they were horribly done (I checked and they were fine!) and a week later my therapist tells me the lady approached her out of work to ask if she worked on the side hahahaha!

 

[AcidPerm]

Wow, rudeness then trying to poach staff into doing homers? What a charmer!

Next time she starts with the critical comments, stop what you're doing, stare her straight in the eyes and say ' Did you really mean to be so rude?'

 

[Henrietta]

I get this one almost weekly "I don't like my brows thin, I like them thicker .... BUT not like yours" insert disgusted look here [emoji23] I do have very thick eyebrows naturally but often think "b*tch you couldn't have brows like mine if you wanted, sit down" ha ha

or when doing someone's make up I was once told " I like full coverage but not that iced cake effect you've got going on" ( I'm super pale too and like matt skin) ha ha

High five sister! Lol loved the bit ' you couldn't have them like mine anyway'xx

 

[Katie Pretty Pampers]

I work from my home salon (spare room basically) its nice and homely and I am proud of it. Well I recently added a few more home furnishings to the room and one of my regular clients stood up mid treatment and started moving them around saying she didnt like where I had previously put them! the cheek it is my home! really annoyed me

 

[blossom]

!!! Incredibly rude!!

 

[Harry Stiles]

I work from my home salon (spare room basically) its nice and homely and I am proud of it. Well I recently added a few more home furnishings to the room and one of my regular clients stood up mid treatment and started moving them around saying she didnt like where I had previously put them! the cheek it is my home! really annoyed me

Wow! I cannot believe how rude people can be!

 

[funtimefranko]

I had a lad come in the other day, he wasnt from my area and he kept shouting "oh my god its rough round here" and going on about how sh*t the area i live in is... i know that probably doesnt sound that rude lol but he was really annoying me!.... acting like in Doncaster where he was from the streets are paved with gold (i have no idea of Doncaster is rough or not).... but yeah... lol

 

[blossom]

So disrespectful fff

 

[JayM]

I have had so many rude clients over the years!

When I was 19 I worked as a make-up artist for leading brand. I had a lady booked in for a lesson and she came in and I did her make up. I addressed her concerns and did my best to make her feel amazing. she was admiring my finished work in the mirror and turned to me and said "I don't know how you got your job with such bad skin! Has anyone else coming out? I bet it puts people off!"

I had cystic acne and was getting treatment. I also took the most on the counter and was good at what I did. My manager at the time took my for a hot chocolate! Ha!

Then a few years later...

Another time I got asked if it made me feel rubbish "working with loads of beautiful girls?! Not that your ugly just that they are stunning!"

Another time I had a lady turn up late for an appointment. She arrived and I started her cleanse. She seemed really tense so was trying to make conversation. I noticed she had a hoody on for the business school at the university I went to and mentioned it. She asked what I'd done and she said "you have 2 degrees and you just work in a shop! Are you not very ambitious?!" I was like "I'm one of the managers, we take over £3m a year and I manage a team of over 20. So what are you doing?" Turns out she couldn't get a job. I said "well if you need a hand with your CV I am more than happy to help!"

Kill them with kindness huh!

Another time a customer was talking about having a boob job. I explained i had had one and had complications so to do her research and gave her some advice on what qualifications to look for in surgeon. She turned to me and said "I'd never have guessed yours are fake! a) they don't look real but really natural! b) you don't look like your the type of girl who would put them to good use!" I just laughed cos it was funny and she said "you should have started with your teeth...you have a crooked tooth! Or maybe have gotten liposuction !"

And the final one...
I have a scar on my neck and was asked what it was from. I explained did had thyroid surgery and she said "aw right! Thought you'd tried to hang yourself and failed! That does explain the weight gain tho. Your getting massive so make sure your not getting lazy as well!"

I did cry after that one! X