suzysuz
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This is abit of an odd subject so if it offends anyone then please let me know and i will have it deleted but i dont know where else to go.
My and my OH have been having big probs for over a year now but everytime we argue we get so far, patch over it (thinknig we have sorted it) and then we're ok for abit and then it all goes wrong again.
It has finally got to the point that it is making me feel really down, i feel like i have no self worth, hate how i look etc and this is seriously effecting how i feel in everyday life. Ive started to get very teary on and off and then flip to being VERY short tempered (i do have quite a short fuse normally but not this bad) things that wouldn't normally annoy me set me off into a frenzy. Some simple things that he will say to me really tick me off so i have asked him not to say them or word them better as even he has admitted that certain things really grind on me.
He has now started to really bring up the fact things are like this more often and they have gotten so bad there isnt really any "jiggy" in our relationship anymore, im just not interested. Partly because of things he does but mainly just because i just dont want it
Things are really hard with his business at the mo and there is an ongoing issue with one company that might go to court, if it does go to court he has said that i will be called as a witness and i will be in trouble too as i have spoken to this company on many occassions. I dont think i could get in any trouble over this or that they will be able to come after me for any money as my name is on none of his business stuff etc but he keeps saying they willm, i think, to try and panic me (sometimes it works :cry
I live with him at the mo and my cat is at homw with my mum and dad, i want her with me and he said in the past that i could have her when we get out own place, he is now starting to go back on this and wont even help out with her food. So my mum has said that i need to think about what to do with her cos its not fair on my cat as she is fussy and only really likes attention from me. I dont want her to have to be rehomed or anything but i now have a feeling that he wont let me have her with us if we ever moved out together.
Has anyone been in a similar situation at all? Is this a relationship that can be saved or is it best to cut ties as hard as it will be and just move away from him?
My and my OH have been having big probs for over a year now but everytime we argue we get so far, patch over it (thinknig we have sorted it) and then we're ok for abit and then it all goes wrong again.
It has finally got to the point that it is making me feel really down, i feel like i have no self worth, hate how i look etc and this is seriously effecting how i feel in everyday life. Ive started to get very teary on and off and then flip to being VERY short tempered (i do have quite a short fuse normally but not this bad) things that wouldn't normally annoy me set me off into a frenzy. Some simple things that he will say to me really tick me off so i have asked him not to say them or word them better as even he has admitted that certain things really grind on me.
He has now started to really bring up the fact things are like this more often and they have gotten so bad there isnt really any "jiggy" in our relationship anymore, im just not interested. Partly because of things he does but mainly just because i just dont want it
Things are really hard with his business at the mo and there is an ongoing issue with one company that might go to court, if it does go to court he has said that i will be called as a witness and i will be in trouble too as i have spoken to this company on many occassions. I dont think i could get in any trouble over this or that they will be able to come after me for any money as my name is on none of his business stuff etc but he keeps saying they willm, i think, to try and panic me (sometimes it works :cry
I live with him at the mo and my cat is at homw with my mum and dad, i want her with me and he said in the past that i could have her when we get out own place, he is now starting to go back on this and wont even help out with her food. So my mum has said that i need to think about what to do with her cos its not fair on my cat as she is fussy and only really likes attention from me. I dont want her to have to be rehomed or anything but i now have a feeling that he wont let me have her with us if we ever moved out together.
Has anyone been in a similar situation at all? Is this a relationship that can be saved or is it best to cut ties as hard as it will be and just move away from him?