Telling my daughter about the birds and the bees

[Mobile Manicure]

When is the right time? She started high school this September at an all girls school and I know she hasn't got a clue. I gave her a book a year ago about how your body changes as you get older and we discussed it together. She was mortified about mensturation! Luckily, we haven't had to deal with that yet.

However, I think it's time we had the other "talk" but I just don't know how to go about it. Should I buy another book that we can chat about?

I remember when I was her age my sister in law bought me a book about it all and it was never discussed with my mother. I don't want it to be like that, I would like to be the one to tell her. Any advice?

 

[Beautyandme]

The sooner you act, the easier it will be. Get a book, grab a drink and just talk it through with her. It will be fine

 

[ukfaye]

I bought a book for my son when he was about 10. As they had already started doing sex ed at school.
I just read him a chapter every evening and he asked questions.
It was far more indepth than I thought it would be.
But helped me so I didn't have to find the right words etc.
hth.

 

[Mobile Manicure]

Thank you both. I have just been on Amazon and bought "let's talk about sex". It got great reviews. When it arrives I will put the little one in bed and me and my eldest can have some girly time reading it together.

It apparently covers Internet safety, sexual diseases, everything. Should do the trick I hope!

 

[effie]

Thank you both. I have just been on Amazon and bought "let's talk about sex". It got great reviews. When it arrives I will put the little one in bed and me and my eldest can have some girly time reading it together.

It apparently covers Internet safety, sexual diseases, everything. Should do the trick I hope!

When it comes why not telling her that your plan on going though the book with her but for her to have a flick through herself before hand so she's not so surprised or embarrassed when you go through it.

I've always been very open with my daughter sometime too open my mum thinks but I remember my parents didn't give me the talk and I was left to find my own way. I managed and was fine but I've made the choice as an adult/parent to always be open with my daughter and its worked she will come to me about pretty much anything.

 

[posh.beauty]

I bought a book for my son when he was about 10. As they had already started doing sex ed at school.
I just read him a chapter every evening and he asked questions.
It was far more indepth than I thought it would be.
But helped me so I didn't have to find the right words etc.
hth.

Hi what book was it?..as my son is turning 10 very soon and asking questions

posh.beauty

 

[Nad1a]

Aw I would have loved someone to of at least bought Me a book. I went throught it all alone and clueless with no one to talk to as my mother didn't give a hoot and no other females in the family
Glad you are giving your daughter proper parenting, exactly what I will give my daughter when she's older, she's only 2 so a few years yet! Lol

 

[lucyboo]

My 9 yr old is asking questions already & I've tried to explain the best I can. I know towards the end of yr 5 at her school they start sex education.

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[Mobile Manicure]

The book is called Lets Talk About Sex: Robie Harris, Michael Emberley - From Amazon.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1406324205/ref=oh_details_o00_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1

As soon as I gave it to her she pulled a face and said "Is this about the thing Lucy almost vomited over when her mum told her?". Ummmm yes.
(Lucy is her best friend).

Anyway book was put in bookshelf. She doesn't want to know. Didn't even flick through it. I'll give it a week and bring it up again.

I remember when I got "the book" I couldn't put it down!

 

[Crystal colleen]

I haven't had to have this chat yet my gal is 8 9 in march and she's very behind.

But I have had the chat of where babies come from she thought they came out of your tummywhich in a sence is right for c-section but I knew I had to tell her the truth and when I did she was mortified lol she said oh my mummy I'm never having kids I don't want a child plopping out of my mo lol.End of convosation lol.

I'm glad I've seen this thread I'm going to order this book for when the time comes great idea.I wouldn't have thought to buy a book I would have just battled it alone lol xxx

 

[dandelionpoppy]

I think that children will dictate the agenda, and right time, if they feel able to ask questions whenever they crop up.

Easy to say, but just talk about it as and when they ask.

 

[80's Girl]

Me, hubs and 10 yr old son were sitting in the lounge. Just as I was saying "well you know you can ask us anything" the phone rang and off I disappeared for 40 minutes. Well the look on their faces when I returned! Both pale, shaken and couldn't look each other in the eye. Turns out my son took this opportunity to ask his dad about everything. In a way I'm glad they had a chat when my son felt ready for it rather than me or dad deciding. I was also very relieved that my son felt able to talk about it with us. I would not in a million years have brought up the subject with my parents!

It's different for kids these days and I think that the children in this thread are lucky to have parents who are willing to look at ways of discussing this subject with their children.

 

[Rachul123]

My mum got me and my sister that book over 10 years ago!
I wanted to know all about it early even though I learnt most from friends at school in the end.

I wish my mum had been abit more open and maybe shared her experiences with me, to help me understand what was right and wrong, and the reasons you should wait until you are with someone who loves you/mature etc..
I think at school we just got told do not have sex. And told about diseases, but we didn't really understand it. It was all a joke.
And we were WAY too grown up to be told what to do.. WE knew best.
Most* Teenagers don't think about the consequences of what they do.
Girls especially are too keen to grow up quickly, me and my friends definitely were and if I could go back in time I would x

 

[Crystal colleen]

Little off topic I have had the convosation on love and women falling in love with a woman and man falling in love with a man girlfriends and boyfriends.It went well.I don't ever want my child to ever feel like she couldn't tell me anything or be worried to tell me.She said when you love someone it dosnt matter does it mummy so sweet.x

 

[Glitter_fairy]

We have been talking to them since t hey were about 2, only in an age appropriate level, it started when a close friend was having a baby. We told them how a baby is made, as in a bit of the daddy and a bit of the mummy meet and make a baby that grows in mummy's tummy. We have just gone from there really, they know most things now, in fact I had a long chat about drugs and addictions with them last night.

 

[Nearlyme]

I have never felt the need to sit down and have a talk with mine. I have just been incredibly open with them in an age appropriate way.
I think when we make it secretive or a big deal we risk making it a dirty little secret. We risk them learning from their classmates and instead of learning the facts of life they learn the facts of life according to other 9 or 10 year olds.

My 4 year old knows daddy lays a seed in mummy and the baby comes out of mummys front bottom.
My 7 year old knows that daddy and mummy have a special cuddle and a seed comes out of daddy and makes a baby in mummy.
My 11 year old knows that the seed comes from the man's penis and into the womans vagina. She also knows about the changes her body is going to go through and the basics of ovulation and menstruation. I would rather I told her then getting to high school and learning from the screwed up pornography which is getting passed around on peoples phones at the moment
They all know that only people who love each other and are grown ups make babies but if my eldest asks me about foreplay I will tell her.
Dont dumb things down. Give them the facts as soon as they ask.

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