What should I do?

[kylieb]

I was walking my boy to school this morning and I go past his friends house. The mum is too lazy to take him to school so she usually palms him off on my friend who walks past her house in the morning. This ladies son is off sick so couldnt take him thismorning.
So off I set, walking past her house and she is stood at her gate waving goodbye to her son. I might just add that her son is only 7 years old and has to cross 2 busy roads by himself

So I call him over and ask him why is he walking by himself. He says because his mum cant take him. So I took him to school. Now I could have been anyone! Good job i'm not like that!!!

I was in complete shock! I'm not shocked easily but omg this boy is just 7 for goodness sake what is she thinking.
If she cant take him on herself...then don't send him in!

I'm just wondering what to do now. What would happen if one day I wasn't there and he got run over? I'm seriously thinking about telling his teacher but dont really know if it's my place to. I don't want to cause trouble but am seriously worried for this poor boy.
What do you guys think i should do?
xxx

 

[Dinkydot]

OMG...What sort of mother is she! IMHO I would speak to the boy's teacher, and ask that your not be named..!! At least that way its piece of mind for you and the school are aware of this situation...!! XX

 

[kylieb]

OMG...What sort of mother is she! IMHO I would speak to the boy's teacher, and ask that your not be named..!! At least that way its piece of mind for you and the school are aware of this situation...!! XX

Thanks for your reply. Do you know when you are in that much shock you just start to wonder if your over reacting? But then I thought no he is only 7!!!
I will do that Monday morning!
xxx

 

[~Emmsybabes~]

Personally I would go into the school...

I almost did a few years ago for the same thing but with a little girl ( 6 at the time)

But someone else beat me to it, as letters were sent home that day asking all parents to please make arrangements for their children to be accompanied to school..

Once when I was having some health problems, I kept my children off school more than they should have been, because I couldn't take them in, and one of the school mentors ( who I already knew as she had worked with both my kids before)
told me she would be more than happy to pick my girls up and take them to school for me of a morning if I didn't feel that I could.

They do it for a few kids... they are complete stars x

It is bad this lady lets her 7 year old walk to school alone across those roads, if it is just because she is too lazy, even more so, but I am sure the school will only be concerned about the child's safety, education and well being and hopefully will offer some help (or have a word with mum).

I know what you mean about over reacting, as we only really know how we feel about our OWN kids, and our own parenting skills... you can never be sure if you are doing the right thing re: someone else...
But also you (not you just people in general) would never live with yourself if something happened, and you had ignored what you felt inside was the right thing to do...

 

[Violet Star]

Omg i think you should tell the teacher. How can she go along with her day not knowing if her boy got to school alight or not?

My sisters boy is 10 years old and she doesnt even let him play out on his own or with friends let alone go to school by himself!
Unfortunately this world is dangerous now days with dangerous people around, when i was younger i.e 10 i was allowed to play out with friends and go places but things are not so safe anymore.

 

[kylieb]

Omg i think you should tell the teacher. How can she go along with her day not knowing if her boy got to school alight or not?

My sisters boy is 10 years old and she doesnt even let him play out on his own or with friends let alone go to school by himself!
Unfortunately this world is dangerous now days with dangerous people around, when i was younger i.e 10 i was allowed to play out with friends and go places but things are not so safe anymore.

Totally! I cant even leave my boy at the school doors, let alone let him go on his own.It would be on my mind all day!!
It's a crazy crazy world out there and unfortunately people learn the hard way
xxx

 

[kylieb]

Personally I would go into the school...

I almost did a few years ago for the same thing but with a little girl ( 6 at the time)

But someone else beat me to it, as letters were sent home that day asking all parents to please make arrangements for their children to be accompanied to school..

Once when I was having some health problems, I kept my children off school more than they should have been, because I couldn't take them in, and one of the school mentors ( who I already knew as she had worked with both my kids before)
told me she would be more than happy to pick my girls up and take them to school for me of a morning if I didn't feel that I could.

They do it for a few kids... they are complete stars x

It is bad this lady lets her 7 year old walk to school alone across those roads, if it is just because she is too lazy, even more so, but I am sure the school will only be concerned about the child's safety, education and well being and hopefully will offer some help (or have a word with mum).

I know what you mean about over reacting, as we only really know how we feel about our OWN kids, and our own parenting skills... you can never be sure if you are doing the right thing re: someone else...
But also you (not you just people in general) would never live with yourself if something happened, and you had ignored what you felt inside was the right thing to do...

This is what I am thinking. If something did happen to him then I WOULDN'T be able to live with myself!
I am really protective of my boy. I never let him out of my site. I wont send him to childminders or anything like that and I know some people think i'm crazy and my thoughts can be a little over the top where that's concerned so just wanted some other peoples opinions to see if it was just me being over protective again lol
Thank you for your reply huni xxx

 

[~Emmsybabes~]

hun I know exactly where you are coming from....
I am the same with my girls...

I have never let anyone have my kids really.... my youngest daughter has never slept out,
I don't even let my own mum have them how bad is that !!!

And for a little while I went through a phase where I wouldn't even let there dad look after them, I just made excuses to always stay in...

Thankfully I have slackened now I have to I start a new job soon...
The main reason I wanted to run my own business from home was because I didn't want to leave my kids with anyone,

I know I am probably a really extreme clingy mum, infact my ways seem a bit 'unhealthy' but I couldn't help it.
if I did let them go to a friends for tea I would panic the whole time untill they were home.

The only people I really trust with my kids now are my sister, my best friend, and their dad..

I have even started letting them play out (as long as they are in a group with their mates)
I just don't understand people (one of my old neighbours was a prime example) who send their young children (3-6) out to play from like 7am, and don't come out to check on them, or anything for hours and hours its like some people don't care as long as they are not bothering them...

I made a rod for my own back really as it got to the point they then wouldn't stay with anyone it didn't help when I really needed to do something or go somewhere.

and I have gone totally off topic now sorry :o

I am sure you will decide to do whatever feels right inside hun xxx

 

[Poshfloss]

Hi Hun,
I agree with others, report this to the school, either to the teacher or go ro the head.
They will not give your name out.
But you will be surprised ow quickly all kids will get a letter to take home.
Lucky for that child you were there.
Good luck.
Lotsa luv x x x :hug: x x x

 

[Carole.B]

OMG...What sort of mother is she! IMHO I would speak to the boy's teacher, and ask that your not be named..!! At least that way its piece of mind for you and the school are aware of this situation...!! XX

I totally agree..xx

 

[tonilee]

I agree that definitely need to speak with one of the teachers. I am more concerened with the busy roads that him walking to school alone to be honest. Chloe used to walk to school on her own when she was 8 BUT we lived in a small village just along from the school, I used to come out of the house and get her across the road then she would walk to school (took about 5mins straight walk) she met up with friends along the way. But there as there are busy roads and this little lad is only 7 it sounds alarming.

 

[kellyhacker]

OMG my boy is only 7 i could not imagine letting him walk anywhere on his own all the stories you hear nowadays there was one in our local paper only last week about a 10yr old girl who was nearly bundled into the side of a white van luckily she escaped! my boy will prob be 30 before i let him out to play on his own lol!!

what a silly silly woman