LillyGoose
Well-Known Member
Hey girls!
I need some advice I'm heartbroken and don't know what to do!
I have been with nick for 4 years, made the move from Plymouth to Norwich for him. And left all my friends an family! Anyway last month we where house shopping just for odd bits and stuff and he did tell me he loved me that morning and then in the evening all of a sudden he said I love you, but I am just not in love with you . And it just broke my Heart, it was so out of blue an unexpected. And I don't get why he would so that he told me he loved me in the morning And let me buy all that stuff for the house. Keep in mind the month before we where looking at buying a house we rent at the mo. so of course I did the only thing rang my friends and cried,and straight away he was saying I'll be fine I'll move on and this just upset me more! and he was saying what we both could spilt in the house. it was such a shock we where fine had been christmas shopping the day before we didn't argue an we weren't distant
so we both agreed for him to sleep on the sofa. Before he went bed he came in and said do I want a cup of tea or a hug before bed! ! I felt rubbish I was so confused I didn't get if he cared or not. So trying To sleep didn't work. I went downstairs to check on him, and to see he left his pone on the side. Now I trust him 1000 percent ! And I saw a message from a girl called Ashleigh. No idea who she is! I tried to go into it and realised he had a password, now why would he haw a password? I went upstairs on the laptop and I thought the worse and he was explaining to her how he was so upset and she was on about cheering him up and all this crap and all the messages previous to that had been deleted ! So I went downstairs woke him up and said who is she? He said she's just a friend who works in London office who knows the whole situation! I was fuming I thought why does this complete stranger know everything about our relationship!
so after about three days, I agreed to go down back to Plymouth to see how we both felt. After the week he decided that he didn't love me and he was sure as he just wanted to be friends. I was heartbroken I love this boy so much! But I know you can't force someone to make them feel something they don't .So now we are still living together while I'm trying to find somewhere. And he goes out till about 6 in the morning every day. So with this I can't sleep I can't function!
! As I was cleaning when I came across his laptop and I thought well he is obv hiding something and then I found messages to my client who is only 17 he is 25 years old. Her saying how she can move in now I'm gone and if he can buy her lignite and other stuff about naughty pictures and dirty websites. At this point I was on the phone To my friend shaking reading these messages out to her.
Then to see another message to another girl saying how he feels bad because he is so much happier without me. And that he feels a weights been lifted and telling his best mate he doesn't give a f*** about me I am not his problem. So at this point I was in hysterics.
I never thought someone I loved and cared about for so long would talk about me like this. I sent him a text sayings I was leaving. And he came home straight away started pleading saying how he screwed up and he f**** up and ten seconds later changed his mind said it was all a joke and he was just having a laugh with her and that him telling his friends all that was just a way of him coping.
He likes things to seem better than they are.
At this point I was furious and I stayed round my friends for the night.
Now for Christmas I paid the deposit for a week in Amsterdam and him a day shooting amongst counting other presents! I felt like such a fool!
We had an agreement that because I was so busy at Xmas I couldn't go I Plymouth I would spend Christmas with him an his family.Now I love his family his mum is practically my mum! And Christmas was lovely. His family cheered me up. Thou I felt like it was all just a big game of pretending. And he was cuddly and was lovely to me all Over Christmas. And then all of a sudden I got these texts saying we are not getting back together you have to get that Into your head.
So of course this leads to more arguments. And now the awful thing was on New Years because I moved up here for him all our friends are his friends. And it was to the point I wasn't even invite out. And I asked him to stay with me because I didn't want to be alone and all I got told to do was grow up. So I spent my new years on the phone to my sister crying.
So after all the crying I started to get worried as I hadn't heard from him and he finally came home new years day at 5 in the afternoon.
He back smiling laughing and was showing me a game on his phone as he did a girl appeared texting him saying just get out of their if you don't love her. Another girl!!! Different one this time!
So we argued and keep in mind before this we never argued! And we said this is silly and made up. i thought everything was fine The plan wAs for me to stay at ours untill i find a place. anyway he text me out the blue and said he wants me gone before he gets home!
Now I feel like I have done something so wrong for him to act like this. This isn't the boy I fell inlove with. The bou he said its over he changed! And I'm heartbroken!
I cant concentrate I have panics attacks I cry all the time ad it's been over a month now !! I can't eat sleep! This is why I'm writing at 5 in the morning .I never knew I could be affected by someone this much! I really thought he was going to propose we had been talking about it for some time.
So I put everything in storage while I try find a flat, and we had dinner tonight this is the strange bit and we where fine. he gave me a big hug as told me I will be okay and I just realise I don't care about any of this i still love him as much as I ever did!
When I confronted him an said how long have you not loved me for he said he woke up and just realised! I don't get it
He is my world
Xxxxxx
I'm destroyed!!!
I need some advice I'm heartbroken and don't know what to do!
I have been with nick for 4 years, made the move from Plymouth to Norwich for him. And left all my friends an family! Anyway last month we where house shopping just for odd bits and stuff and he did tell me he loved me that morning and then in the evening all of a sudden he said I love you, but I am just not in love with you . And it just broke my Heart, it was so out of blue an unexpected. And I don't get why he would so that he told me he loved me in the morning And let me buy all that stuff for the house. Keep in mind the month before we where looking at buying a house we rent at the mo. so of course I did the only thing rang my friends and cried,and straight away he was saying I'll be fine I'll move on and this just upset me more! and he was saying what we both could spilt in the house. it was such a shock we where fine had been christmas shopping the day before we didn't argue an we weren't distant
so we both agreed for him to sleep on the sofa. Before he went bed he came in and said do I want a cup of tea or a hug before bed! ! I felt rubbish I was so confused I didn't get if he cared or not. So trying To sleep didn't work. I went downstairs to check on him, and to see he left his pone on the side. Now I trust him 1000 percent ! And I saw a message from a girl called Ashleigh. No idea who she is! I tried to go into it and realised he had a password, now why would he haw a password? I went upstairs on the laptop and I thought the worse and he was explaining to her how he was so upset and she was on about cheering him up and all this crap and all the messages previous to that had been deleted ! So I went downstairs woke him up and said who is she? He said she's just a friend who works in London office who knows the whole situation! I was fuming I thought why does this complete stranger know everything about our relationship!
so after about three days, I agreed to go down back to Plymouth to see how we both felt. After the week he decided that he didn't love me and he was sure as he just wanted to be friends. I was heartbroken I love this boy so much! But I know you can't force someone to make them feel something they don't .So now we are still living together while I'm trying to find somewhere. And he goes out till about 6 in the morning every day. So with this I can't sleep I can't function!
! As I was cleaning when I came across his laptop and I thought well he is obv hiding something and then I found messages to my client who is only 17 he is 25 years old. Her saying how she can move in now I'm gone and if he can buy her lignite and other stuff about naughty pictures and dirty websites. At this point I was on the phone To my friend shaking reading these messages out to her.
Then to see another message to another girl saying how he feels bad because he is so much happier without me. And that he feels a weights been lifted and telling his best mate he doesn't give a f*** about me I am not his problem. So at this point I was in hysterics.
I never thought someone I loved and cared about for so long would talk about me like this. I sent him a text sayings I was leaving. And he came home straight away started pleading saying how he screwed up and he f**** up and ten seconds later changed his mind said it was all a joke and he was just having a laugh with her and that him telling his friends all that was just a way of him coping.
He likes things to seem better than they are.
At this point I was furious and I stayed round my friends for the night.
Now for Christmas I paid the deposit for a week in Amsterdam and him a day shooting amongst counting other presents! I felt like such a fool!
We had an agreement that because I was so busy at Xmas I couldn't go I Plymouth I would spend Christmas with him an his family.Now I love his family his mum is practically my mum! And Christmas was lovely. His family cheered me up. Thou I felt like it was all just a big game of pretending. And he was cuddly and was lovely to me all Over Christmas. And then all of a sudden I got these texts saying we are not getting back together you have to get that Into your head.
So of course this leads to more arguments. And now the awful thing was on New Years because I moved up here for him all our friends are his friends. And it was to the point I wasn't even invite out. And I asked him to stay with me because I didn't want to be alone and all I got told to do was grow up. So I spent my new years on the phone to my sister crying.
So after all the crying I started to get worried as I hadn't heard from him and he finally came home new years day at 5 in the afternoon.
He back smiling laughing and was showing me a game on his phone as he did a girl appeared texting him saying just get out of their if you don't love her. Another girl!!! Different one this time!
So we argued and keep in mind before this we never argued! And we said this is silly and made up. i thought everything was fine The plan wAs for me to stay at ours untill i find a place. anyway he text me out the blue and said he wants me gone before he gets home!
Now I feel like I have done something so wrong for him to act like this. This isn't the boy I fell inlove with. The bou he said its over he changed! And I'm heartbroken!
I cant concentrate I have panics attacks I cry all the time ad it's been over a month now !! I can't eat sleep! This is why I'm writing at 5 in the morning .I never knew I could be affected by someone this much! I really thought he was going to propose we had been talking about it for some time.
So I put everything in storage while I try find a flat, and we had dinner tonight this is the strange bit and we where fine. he gave me a big hug as told me I will be okay and I just realise I don't care about any of this i still love him as much as I ever did!
When I confronted him an said how long have you not loved me for he said he woke up and just realised! I don't get it
He is my world
Xxxxxx
I'm destroyed!!!