MissBBox
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Hello geeks,
I just wanted a bit of a rant and please excuse the long thread I just wanted a bit of advice with regards to my ex fiancé..
I was with him for 4 years, engaged and have a 2 and half year old little boy with him, he left me in October 2011, I moved from my family 20
Minutes away to be with him in which I'm still living in the house we shared, he moved back in with his parents.. I'm still really close with his mum and dad and siblings, he met someone else 2 days after we split up and was with this girl for 7 months (heartbroken wasn't the word) which he then decided he wanted to be single and finished with her , and then I started getting harassed by this girl, she seemed to think it was my fault, abusive messages, text messages, phone calls, my house had eggs thrown at windows, threatened by male members of her family and then I got the police involved as I was concerned for me and my sons safety, I then find out he had been cheating on the abusive girlfriend with another girl -_- and he had left the abusive girl to be with her, and also a week after hed got with the abusive girl he had taken my son to her house behind my back when i told him not too (as she has a reputation around my area of being into drugs) in the mean time id moved on passed my driving test, qualified in all my beauty courses and started building my business up,
Now this other girl (who looks VERY similar to me, she even has basically the same name as me,) has started getting abusive about me, horrible awful things have been said about me on Facebook and twitter, she has also said things about me to my friends, stopped him doing things with me and my son, like taking him to swimming lessons, coming to the house and contacting me although he goes behind her back and still does so and hes also started playing really bad mind games with me, I broke down infront of my health visitor and she told me that he's mentally abusing me, he still try's to control everything I do, He shouts at me everytime I won't tell him where I'm going and I also get accused of everything under the sun.. He's never been like this only since he's been going out with this other girlfriend.. Now she's started putting pressure on my ex to meet my son, when he asked I straight away said no!!! Now he's started saying I'm not well in the head and I'm not putting my sons feelings 1st when I am he doesn't need to meet yet another girl, and being abusive with me, how would I know she wouldn't be with my son!! I also found out he has been caught arraigning to meet other girls whilst she's in work.. How is that stability for my son?? his mum and dad refuse to let her in there house.. As he has come home with a cracking black eye and no explanation.. He's drinking a lot and he's lost a lot of weight since he has been with this other girl.. Im a Really caring person despite what hes put through, I've been brought up to respect people and there feelings but my son is the most important thing in my life..
Am I right not letting my son go near her or am I putting my own feelings before his??..
Thankyou for any advice you can give me, I am at a bit of a loss with all this, all I want is to be left alone and live happily and peacefully with my son
Missbox xxxxxxx
I just wanted a bit of a rant and please excuse the long thread I just wanted a bit of advice with regards to my ex fiancé..
I was with him for 4 years, engaged and have a 2 and half year old little boy with him, he left me in October 2011, I moved from my family 20
Minutes away to be with him in which I'm still living in the house we shared, he moved back in with his parents.. I'm still really close with his mum and dad and siblings, he met someone else 2 days after we split up and was with this girl for 7 months (heartbroken wasn't the word) which he then decided he wanted to be single and finished with her , and then I started getting harassed by this girl, she seemed to think it was my fault, abusive messages, text messages, phone calls, my house had eggs thrown at windows, threatened by male members of her family and then I got the police involved as I was concerned for me and my sons safety, I then find out he had been cheating on the abusive girlfriend with another girl -_- and he had left the abusive girl to be with her, and also a week after hed got with the abusive girl he had taken my son to her house behind my back when i told him not too (as she has a reputation around my area of being into drugs) in the mean time id moved on passed my driving test, qualified in all my beauty courses and started building my business up,
Now this other girl (who looks VERY similar to me, she even has basically the same name as me,) has started getting abusive about me, horrible awful things have been said about me on Facebook and twitter, she has also said things about me to my friends, stopped him doing things with me and my son, like taking him to swimming lessons, coming to the house and contacting me although he goes behind her back and still does so and hes also started playing really bad mind games with me, I broke down infront of my health visitor and she told me that he's mentally abusing me, he still try's to control everything I do, He shouts at me everytime I won't tell him where I'm going and I also get accused of everything under the sun.. He's never been like this only since he's been going out with this other girlfriend.. Now she's started putting pressure on my ex to meet my son, when he asked I straight away said no!!! Now he's started saying I'm not well in the head and I'm not putting my sons feelings 1st when I am he doesn't need to meet yet another girl, and being abusive with me, how would I know she wouldn't be with my son!! I also found out he has been caught arraigning to meet other girls whilst she's in work.. How is that stability for my son?? his mum and dad refuse to let her in there house.. As he has come home with a cracking black eye and no explanation.. He's drinking a lot and he's lost a lot of weight since he has been with this other girl.. Im a Really caring person despite what hes put through, I've been brought up to respect people and there feelings but my son is the most important thing in my life..
Am I right not letting my son go near her or am I putting my own feelings before his??..
Thankyou for any advice you can give me, I am at a bit of a loss with all this, all I want is to be left alone and live happily and peacefully with my son
Missbox xxxxxxx