Wonda
Well-Known Member
Since there are so many members from all over the world on here & mostly are women, i was wondering if there are any women here who've chosen to be single mothers ??
I don't mean not being with the child's father due to one reason or another, i'm talking about having a baby by donation.
I'm at the age where i really want children (am 33 this year & have wanted them for 6 years now), however i've not been in a relationship for 3 years & do not see this changing any time soon, mainly because i no longer have an interest in dating.
I've found over the last 3 years i've dated a few guys all of which i've looked at as how are they for possible potential husbands/fathers rather than are they the right person for me. Also, i can not physically remember the last time i was chatted up by a bloke other than to ask me if i was the butch one (on a night out with my best friend), they think short hair = she's a lesbian.
I'm not after dating advice, or for people to tell me that Mr Right will turn up when i'm least expecting it etc etc as i'm coming to the fact that yes Mr Right may turn up, but i now want a child rather than a partner.
Purely because Mr Right may turn up .... but there is no guarantee he'll turn up in time.
Therefore i'm seriously considering donor insemination.
I'm doing a lot of research & it seems that there less disruption to children brought up by 1 parent alone than 2 separate parents. Yes ideally children should have 2 parents who are together, but from all the studies i've read, a child growing up knowing they do not have a daddy are less affected than those who know they do have a dad but the dad doesn't live with mum/doesn't want to be involved/does want to be involved but is a crap dad.
I really hope i've not offended anyone by this post & if i have, i'd be more than willing to remove it or ask a Mod to take it down.
All the info i'm reading is mainly American based, all i would like to know is are there people here that may want to send me a message to chat about this subject or even better if there's anyone close, if they want to meet up for a cuppa & a chat.
There is a dedicated forum on the internet on this subject, however it's American based & you have to have a subscription to the forum to find information out, i don't mind paying it, but only if there are UK/local people i can turn to for information/support.
I don't mean not being with the child's father due to one reason or another, i'm talking about having a baby by donation.
I'm at the age where i really want children (am 33 this year & have wanted them for 6 years now), however i've not been in a relationship for 3 years & do not see this changing any time soon, mainly because i no longer have an interest in dating.
I've found over the last 3 years i've dated a few guys all of which i've looked at as how are they for possible potential husbands/fathers rather than are they the right person for me. Also, i can not physically remember the last time i was chatted up by a bloke other than to ask me if i was the butch one (on a night out with my best friend), they think short hair = she's a lesbian.
I'm not after dating advice, or for people to tell me that Mr Right will turn up when i'm least expecting it etc etc as i'm coming to the fact that yes Mr Right may turn up, but i now want a child rather than a partner.
Purely because Mr Right may turn up .... but there is no guarantee he'll turn up in time.
Therefore i'm seriously considering donor insemination.
I'm doing a lot of research & it seems that there less disruption to children brought up by 1 parent alone than 2 separate parents. Yes ideally children should have 2 parents who are together, but from all the studies i've read, a child growing up knowing they do not have a daddy are less affected than those who know they do have a dad but the dad doesn't live with mum/doesn't want to be involved/does want to be involved but is a crap dad.
I really hope i've not offended anyone by this post & if i have, i'd be more than willing to remove it or ask a Mod to take it down.
All the info i'm reading is mainly American based, all i would like to know is are there people here that may want to send me a message to chat about this subject or even better if there's anyone close, if they want to meet up for a cuppa & a chat.
There is a dedicated forum on the internet on this subject, however it's American based & you have to have a subscription to the forum to find information out, i don't mind paying it, but only if there are UK/local people i can turn to for information/support.