Miss_Holly
Well-Known Member
A bit of a "not quite sure what to make of this situation" - a friend of mine has recently become engaged (yay!!!) however lately I've been questioning our friendship basis.
I have known her since we were about 5 (so almost 20 years), I am not her fiancées biggest fan (the main reason being he doesn't think her friends should play any part in their life. Exhibit a; he told her not to tell me or another of her close friends they were engaged, he decide to post their change in relationship on Facebook, and called me and other friend "nosy b*tches" when we called her over the moon excited asking if it was true?)
There have been a number of other situations where he has made me and the other friend feel extremely uncomfortable (to the point I would rather drive the 45 minute trip home at 2.30am than accept her invitation to stay till an acceptable hour of the morning).
She has now asked me to be a bridesmaid, and I have no idea what to say. I know for a fact I am one of her longest friends, we used to spend every weekend together and after school, but I know he has a strong dislike for me and since it's also his day I really don't know what to say (and as much as I love her, she is a bit clueless with reading people and really doesn't see there's any issues) I have tried talking to her before and she says that's just the way he is, but everyone else can quite clearly see that's not the case.
Would you accept? Or decline?
My other dilemma is, she has made it blatantly obvious she is expecting me to do her nails (and I know for a fact she is expecting them free), if it was our other friend I probably wouldn't think twice, however I have tried to help this friend combat her nail biting issues a few times, and she will pick them off (shellac) or bite them until they crack (acrylic) within two days, if she had any respect for my work I wouldn't even hesitate, but I've hit the point I'm so over it that I really don't want to do them,
what would you do? I was half considering the possibility of the nails and maybe toes being her wedding present?
I have known her since we were about 5 (so almost 20 years), I am not her fiancées biggest fan (the main reason being he doesn't think her friends should play any part in their life. Exhibit a; he told her not to tell me or another of her close friends they were engaged, he decide to post their change in relationship on Facebook, and called me and other friend "nosy b*tches" when we called her over the moon excited asking if it was true?)
There have been a number of other situations where he has made me and the other friend feel extremely uncomfortable (to the point I would rather drive the 45 minute trip home at 2.30am than accept her invitation to stay till an acceptable hour of the morning).
She has now asked me to be a bridesmaid, and I have no idea what to say. I know for a fact I am one of her longest friends, we used to spend every weekend together and after school, but I know he has a strong dislike for me and since it's also his day I really don't know what to say (and as much as I love her, she is a bit clueless with reading people and really doesn't see there's any issues) I have tried talking to her before and she says that's just the way he is, but everyone else can quite clearly see that's not the case.
Would you accept? Or decline?
My other dilemma is, she has made it blatantly obvious she is expecting me to do her nails (and I know for a fact she is expecting them free), if it was our other friend I probably wouldn't think twice, however I have tried to help this friend combat her nail biting issues a few times, and she will pick them off (shellac) or bite them until they crack (acrylic) within two days, if she had any respect for my work I wouldn't even hesitate, but I've hit the point I'm so over it that I really don't want to do them,
what would you do? I was half considering the possibility of the nails and maybe toes being her wedding present?