Faylizzie
Well-Known Member
Hi geeks I'm ever so sorry for the moany rant but 'm struggling with distancing myself from some clients who think they are friends. Don't get me wrong I like them but they want social interactions with me an I'm just not into that.
In particular I have one lady that is going through a rough time at the moment (went through a divorce its been going on for about a year now) her family live about 30/40 minutes away and I'm not sure if she has friends. She texts me with all her problems and phones me crying an now she keeps asking me to pop round as she needs a shoulder to cry on.
Now I'm going to sound really cold hearted but I just haven't got the time or patience for it. It's Sunday- my only day off from working every hour under the sun during the week and she's just phoned me crying begging me to come round before she does something stupid, so now I have to drag myself out of my PJs into the rain to go round to make sure she doesn't do something stupid (she used to self harm and had told me she's tried commuting suicide before (she told me this after my cousin did which she knew about an knew I felt really guilty about her dying so knows it's my weak spot))
I just don't know what to do, I only see her for treatments every now an then but she seems to see me as her counsellor or something an I can't cope with it any more!
How do I nip this in the bud to stop it happening in future without feeling guilty? I've tried not answering her calls or messages but then she'll send me a guilt tripping message or phone me off a blocked or different number! Please help me I'm at my wits end and I know I'm guna lose it with her soon, she's stressing me out an my usual happy go lucky personality is being drained away from me in to a stressed out, snappy negative bi*ch!
Please help me! Xxxxx
In particular I have one lady that is going through a rough time at the moment (went through a divorce its been going on for about a year now) her family live about 30/40 minutes away and I'm not sure if she has friends. She texts me with all her problems and phones me crying an now she keeps asking me to pop round as she needs a shoulder to cry on.
Now I'm going to sound really cold hearted but I just haven't got the time or patience for it. It's Sunday- my only day off from working every hour under the sun during the week and she's just phoned me crying begging me to come round before she does something stupid, so now I have to drag myself out of my PJs into the rain to go round to make sure she doesn't do something stupid (she used to self harm and had told me she's tried commuting suicide before (she told me this after my cousin did which she knew about an knew I felt really guilty about her dying so knows it's my weak spot))
I just don't know what to do, I only see her for treatments every now an then but she seems to see me as her counsellor or something an I can't cope with it any more!
How do I nip this in the bud to stop it happening in future without feeling guilty? I've tried not answering her calls or messages but then she'll send me a guilt tripping message or phone me off a blocked or different number! Please help me I'm at my wits end and I know I'm guna lose it with her soon, she's stressing me out an my usual happy go lucky personality is being drained away from me in to a stressed out, snappy negative bi*ch!
Please help me! Xxxxx