Male body massage

[Layla-Louise]

I have a full body massage 2moro booked in for a male client 1 hour just wanted to see on which side and area you think is acceptable when adapting massage treatments for male clients. Is it not approriate to massage both the abdomen and chest area?
So should i therefore begin with the legs,arms and then turn client over to do back and the back of legs how does everyone else do it please?
The last experience i had wasnt a good one when going through my consultation i explained that the upper and bottom clothing to be removed when getting changed but speciefied that underwear is to be kept on yet he delieberately took it out how else can you word it so that its kind but straight to the point?
thankyou look forward 2 reading your replies

 

[Exquisite Touch]

When i have men for a massage I always sit them down and have a friendly chat, tell them the ground rules before i start Im firm with them but say it in a nice way if you know what i mean. I let them know underwear is to be worn at all times, dont ask for extras as the only extra i will give them is pain ......
I also do the face chest, arms and abdomen (I ask first some dont like there abs being done) I keep them covered and only uncover the part im massaging, I dont go anywhere near the private area and dont go under the towels at any time.
If your unsure is there not another therapist you can have with you. if im unsure i always make sure there is another therapist on hand just in case
good luck with it im sure you will be fine

 

[Whitewave]

If I were you I would give the abdominal area a miss unless of course you are seeing a client that has specific ailments in that area. Massage of that area invariably stimulates "down below" which could cause embarrassment to you and/or your client.

I would work up the body - feet, legs, arms, shoulders, neck (face and head if you include it), turn the client over and carry on with backs of the legs, back and shoulders.

Say to your client that you ask all gentlemen to keep their underwear on - if they say that want to take it off you have to decide whether or not to continue. You could compromise and say they may remove their briefs but a towel will be draped across their abdominal region at all times.

Let us know how you get on!

 

[fozzyo]

If I were you I would give the abdominal area a miss unless of course you are seeing a client that has specific ailments in that area. Massage of that area invariably stimulates "down below" which could cause embarrassment to you and/or your client.

I'm afraid I have to disagree with you there! I include an abdominal massage in all of my full body / relaxation treatments. For me it is one of the most important areas to massage as so many of us carry our stress and tension in this area.

Massaging the abdomen doesn't cause erections if done appropriately! I've massaged more stomachs, thighs, bums and legs then I care to count without undue embarrassment.

Be firm with your draping, be firm with your strokes - nothing too light, have good positive intent with each movement and you won't have a problem.

You could compromise and say they may remove their briefs but a towel will be draped across their abdominal region at all times.

You don't need to drape the abdomen!! When the client is laying prone uncover one leg at a time, this should also include the same buttock with the towel going between their legs to cover the penis and scrotum area. It may follow the the bum crack line - don't worry if you expose the crack a little! When doing lower back the drape should just come to the top of the buttocks and be just tucked in under each side - only a cm. When supine the drape should be at the base of the abdomen covering the top of the pubic line again just tucked under. When doing the legs supine uncover each leg with the towel going from the nips over the leg to cover the penis and scrotum.

I will actually now walkout of a treatment if the therapist requires I keep my underwear on!!

When I have a massage I expect to be naked under the drape as I find it much more comfortable, allows for a better massage of the larger muscles in my body. I am yet to have a therapist justify the requirement for underwear, and the place that required I wear disposable underwear I refuse to go to for any treatments now.

Mat

 

[Whitewave]

It "can" sometimes be awkward when a lady massages a gent. I do agree abdominal massage is important - it's an integral part of baby massage, for example.

At the end of the day it is best to do what you are most comfortable with. There is no point in being worried or hesitant - it may show in your work.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do.

Edit: Just to clarify I don't drape the abdomen - it is just a suggestion for the OP. Swift, strategic towel movement works very well.

 

[LADY STARDUST]

I personally think if you are uncomfortable with the situation dont do it as you wont be able to give a full proper treatment. I had a really incomfortable experience once with a gent and unfortunately it put me off doing male massage ever since (thats not to say i think all male clients freak me out - it was just this one man that put me off ever doing them again) Fortunately i explained my situation to my boss and therefore i never have to do any male massage now.
When i was at college my massage tutor beleived that you should massage all areas of the body as you would if you were treating a female client (she was a sports therapist though), yet other tutors advised us to avoid abdomen, buttocks and chest.
As mentioned before be firm with your movements and above all be confident and comfortable with your treatment...xXx

 

[jcpark]

I do plenty of men and many are naked, although some prefer to keep briefs on too. A massage is a massage whether for a man or a woman.
Have confidence in yourself and the treatments you give. You are the professional - this will come across to your client too.

I ALWAYS start with the back. I've never heard of anyone starting with anything else until I came on this form, and I've been on many massage and bodywork courses, so am not sure why you would start with the legs and arms. And as far as draping goes, the only part of the body that needs to be revealed is the part you are working on at that time, the rest is covered. How many towels do you use?

 

[Whitewave]

I ALWAYS start with the back. I've never heard of anyone starting with anything else until I came on this form, and I've been on many massage and bodywork courses, so am not sure why you would start with the legs and arms. And as far as draping goes, the only part of the body that needs to be revealed is the part you are working on at that time, the rest is covered. How many towels do you use?

I guess people are taught in different ways. The goal of course is to ensure the massage is a positive experience for the giver and receiver.

Regarding the number of towels - depends on the person you are massaging. I have great big towels so normally two suffice, sometimes three. I generally keep clients covered except for the part of the body I am working on.

 

[jcpark]

I guess people are taught in different ways.

It would seem to be so, although I've only heard it done in different ways no here and wondered if it was the way beauty courses taught massage.
And also there are obvious benefits with starting with the torso, so wondered what benefits starting with the limbs.

Sorry, the towel question wasn't aimed at you, more at the OP as she would need sufficient to cover all parts not being massaged. I too work with 2/3 large bath sheet size towels and they are sufficient to keep all areas of the body covered except that which is being worked on at any one time.

 

[soriminah]

When I have a massage I expect to be naked under the drape as I find it much more comfortable, allows for a better massage of the larger muscles in my body. I am yet to have a therapist justify the requirement for underwear, and the place that required I wear disposable underwear I refuse to go to for any treatments now.

Mat

I agree Mat. It is much easier to massage someone without navigating underwear. In the hundreds of massages I've done, I can count on 1 hand the number of men who have been 'problem' clients. If I refused to massage men I'd lose 3/4 of my business.

My phone message states it's a therapeutic service not an adult service and my business cards state I do remedial and sports massage. I never have to tell a client what is or isn't appropriate behaviour. If they are a new client, I ask them when making an appointment what they are booking in for so I have an idea what they want and tell them they will need to fill in a medical form at the beginning of the session. That's it. I have only ever had 2 clients try it on after that.

Sometimes erections happen - who cares. Why make a big deal out of it when it isn't.

Massaging a man is no different to massaging a woman. I find that beauty and massage are 2 services that men are blatantly discriminated against because of 'what ifs' and 'just in case'.