Hi, sorry to hear you're having skin problems!
You could go to a salon and explain your concerns, and request a facial which includes steaming and extractions. The steam will soften your skin and extractions will remove the plug of sebum from the pore.
If you can find a salon which does electrical facials, ask for a facial which includes desincrustation. This is a form of facial which uses a very mild electrical current (you probably won't even feel anything) which works to emulsify the sebum in your skin and deep clean your pores. Feels lovely and leaves your skin deep down clean.
If you can find a facial which uses steaming, desincrustation AND extractions, you're onto a real winner! Very difficult to recommend products without seeing your skin, so go for a facial first and see what your therapist says about home care.
Good luck!