My boss hates me

[AcidPerm]

Jeez, they can't just make it up as they go along. Talk about grossly unprofessional.
Do they share a brain cell between them?

Let them make idiots of themselves and in the meantime, make an appointment with a specialist employment lawyer today.

Don't respond to them any further other than to say you're thinking it over.

However, as you've only been there 3 months, I'd probably chase them for harassment but see what your adviser recommends.

They obviously want you to leave but instead of discussing the situation like grown ups, they've chosen to revert to the tactics of 6 yr old playground bullies.

One thing's for sure, their business will fail.

 

[Jo's Nails]

I hate conflict. I have to go to work today but I want to curl up and go to sleep. I feel like my profesonalism is in shreds.

 

[AcidPerm]

I hate conflict. I have to go to work today but I want to curl up and go to sleep. I feel like my profesonalism is in shreds.

No, you don't have to go to work. !!!

Tell them you're feeling ill (stress) and then spend the morning sorting out an appointment with a legal expert.

You are not the one acting unprofessionally here, believe me. They know you hate conflict, that's why they're treating you like this. Don't let their appalling behaviour affect your health and happiness.

 

[surf girl]

Do not go to work if you are there leave right now, follow AcidPerm advice you need professional help & they need to be sorted out, that's hideous behaviour!

 

[fluffy26]

If your are employed look into something called constructive dismissal which I fear is what they are trying to do to you! Good luck chin up......I know it's hard but don't make it easy for them!!

 

[Smiley Heather]

This is a terribly upsetting post, it's not a good position to be on. Before I trained as a beauty therapist, I spent my first career in PA work, closely working with HR issues. Firstly your boss should have written you a letter one week before advising that she would be holding a disciplinary meeting with you. In that letter you should have been offered the opportunity to bring a colleague/friend with you where they would only sit and listen, not comment. Your boss would also have this right, but not commenting either. Furthermore, the entire conversation should have been noted, written, for recording purposes. In your position I would advise to phone ACAS the professional body who deal with disputes at work. They are online or you can call them, it's free and confidential but they will give you invaluable support and advice. Im sure your boss cannot just give you a couple of days either, especially a Sunday! Absolutely dreadful management skills, in fact non existent. Contact ACAS Hun and good luck with your new job! You'll be amazing! X

 

[daydreams01]

I'm pretty sure that you should have a verbal warning before a written warning and that you should have been notified in advance of any disciplinary meeting and allowed to have another person with you. They are behaving outrageously, what horrible people to work for.

 

[fluffycloudland]

Do you have legal cover on your home insurance? Sometimes that covers work disputes & provides a free helpline for legal advice.

They sound awful human beings.

 

[Jo's Nails]

I have appealed against her desicion in writing. With advice from acas.

I pointed out that I had never received a verbal warning and that insufficient notice was given, and it is my legal right to take a whiteness along with me and that notes should have been taken for records.
I have asked for evidence of the things names, dates, times. I pointed out the way she made me feel and the affect this has had on my work which has suffered as a consequence. She hasn't given me any guidance or support from the onset of my employment and that another member of staff was allowed to enter the meeting and challenge me. I felt out numbered and this meeting should have been highly confidential, clients in the salon could hear everything. This particular member of staff likes to criticise my work in a loud voice in front of clients. .

I handed her the letter. She read it. And I listened to what she said and took notes on my own copy. She has now agreed to train me.
Yet today she is sending me pictures through messenger of a set of nails I did 4 weeks ago with 4 weeks growth saying they are unacceptable and when the client had these done 4 weeks ago she wanted to cry and they made her feel horrible. ?
I thought it best not to reply.
Thank you all for your help.

 

[surf girl]

I have appealed against her desicion in writing. With advice from acas.

I pointed out that I had never received a verbal warning and that insufficient notice was given, and it is my legal right to take a whiteness along with me and that notes should have been taken for records.
I have asked for evidence of the things names, dates, times. I pointed out the way she made me feel and the affect this has had on my work which has suffered as a consequence. She hasn't given me any guidance or support from the onset of my employment and that another member of staff was allowed to enter the meeting and challenge me. I felt out numbered and this meeting should have been highly confidential, clients in the salon could hear everything. This particular member of staff likes to criticise my work in a loud voice in front of clients. .

I handed her the letter. She read it. And I listened to what she said and took notes on my own copy. She has now agreed to train me.
Yet today she is sending me pictures through messenger of a set of nails I did 4 weeks ago with 4 weeks growth saying they are unacceptable and when the client had these done 4 weeks ago she wanted to cry and they made her feel horrible. ?
I thought it best not to reply.
Thank you all for your help.

4 weeks growth... she's an arsehole love, you'll be so much happier somewhere else, karma will get her

 

[Amanda-43]

I'd inform your employer that your seeking advice from a employment tribunal. She sounds very unprofessional within the informative way she has delivered this disciplinary and to involve other employees directly is a form of bullying in the workplace. I'd defiantly seek advice at this point and inform you boss of this.

They need a reason not just disipline you. What is the reason ask her, ask her why she is unprofessional and ask her why she treats you with such disrepect. Sometimes bosses like to make you feel not good enough so they can keep your confidence and pay low.
As management she has a duty to discuss this with you, if not you are better being appreciated elsewhere with educaded managers.

 

[daydreams01]

Well done for sticking up for yourself, I bet they just thought you would take it. If they had a problem 4 weeks ago then they should have addressed it there and then and at least mentioned it in your meeting. Sending you messages via messenger outside of your working hours is really unprofessional. They are going about it all wrong and if they continue, you will have a case for constructive dismissal. They clearly don't have a clue about how to follow procedures.
It sounds like an awful place to work and I think you should def. try and find a job elsewhere as that environment will make you ill with anxiety. If your employed, I Would just go to your docs and get yourself signed off with stress. I don't do ill and I'm not one at all for taking sickies but they are not being fair to you so they don't deserve your loyalty. While your off, look for another job then Once you find a new job or have had your legal limit on sick pay, resign!

 

[Jo's Nails]

4 weeks growth... she's an arsehole love, you'll be so much happier somewhere else, karma will get her

Yes she is. The nails looked fine to me. Client didn't loose any either. She didn't send any client details because she doesn't keep record cards at all.

 

[Jo's Nails]

It was a very badly written, grammatically incorrect letter.
I was disciplined on things like, poor performance, leaving clients with unshaped and bleeding nails and leaving a clients half way through a treatment. I addressed this in my letter that she states nails and clients in the plural and could she provide me with evidence of this. Not listening after a warning. At no point have I received a warning. Loosing business due to not keeping the right time. Whistling through the salon. Hovering through the salon. Yawning loudly in front of customers. Working unprofessional in front of clients. Training the apprentice without permission.

I have been a complete mess since the onset of my employment with her and it has affected my work and very confused by instructions given by herself and then by another member of staff.
The written warning and the meeting we had made me want to stand for my self as it is all totally untrue.
I have a few interviews next week and I am looking forward to them.

 

[AcidPerm]

Yes she is. The nails looked fine to me. Client didn't loose any either. She didn't send any client details because she doesn't keep record cards at all.

Good grief! Could she be more unprofessional?
Is she even insured?

 

[AcidPerm]

I have a few interviews next week and I am looking forward to them.

Good luck with the interviews next week.

 

[Jo's Nails]

I received this warning the day after explaining to a client what a heat spike is.
After 3 months of clients asking why the gel burns when it goes under the lamp? and hearing " it's supposed to happen" or "I don't know" or "they must have put something in the gel this time" I spoke up and said
" Actually it's called an exothermic reaction or heat spike. It's where the bonds in the gel are crashing into each other and reacting causing heat. This happens when gel is places under the lamp as the uv light is a catalyst for the curing process to happen"
The client asked me "why do some gels burn and some dont?" So I told her why " if gel has been applied to thick then the reaction is going to be bigger, if the nail has been over buffed or if acrylic powder has been added to the gel"
Makes me think this is another reason why I had a written warning?

 

[Jo's Nails]

Good grief! Could she be more unprofessional?
Is she even insured?

Not sure, but I'm sure she wouldn't be insured to preform the medical pedicures with previously used, dirty razor blades?

 

[surf girl]

Omg it just gets worse, tell Acas, trading standards & any other people your meeting everything this business sounds awful. People like her hate it when someone has more knowledge that them, I bet your exothermic explanation made her feel like a right twit and added to the fact she doesn't like you, my old boss used to take the mick out of me because I was very good with theorey, I hope you don't go back Monday morning, just sign on the sick until this is over x

 

[fluffycloudland]

Your knowledge highlighted her lack of knowledge, I suspect this made her feel small & she's trying to get back at you.