Neighbours affecting my home beauty business

[LieLash]

Come on here for a bit of a rant having still not calmed down from an incident with a neighbour last night.

I currently live with my parents in an ex council council house that they have owned for 31 years. Most properties are now owned by landlords and let out to students but we still have 3 housing association families in our culdersac

Approx 4 years ago a family were moved in. In a nut shell and without expressing my true feelings towards this family i will give you an overview / the father is a short fat aggressive drug dealer, the mother is his DV victim that can't live with him and can't live without and the kids noisy and have no hope but to grow up to be the same failings as their parents are. Their house looks like a tip, people constantly popping in to collect drugs, their dogs running loose, fouling in the street, barking etc.
Over the past 4 years my family have been the constant witness to his aggressive behaviour, abuse of her, his fights in the street at all hours. We have tried to keep our head down and not get involved but a few weeks ago he threatened my mother because she looked out the window to see him getting beaten up and funnily she didn't run out to help!
And that's where I lost the plot!!!!!

I called the police and as a result I have seen the council and now taking records of any antisocial behaviour over the next 4 weeks.

However it gets better.
Last night approx 7pm I was aware of an incident going on down the street. I then had a client arrive who was obviously shaken up. Turned out that she had seen one of this families terrified kids outside my address and asked if he was ok / to which the bloke has come out and started shouting at her telling her its none of her business. Obviously my client has then come in extremely upset for this traumatised child and that fact that she has just been verbally abused by this neighbour.
I immediately called the police and spend 15 mins calming her down before we could start. I then had to escort her to her car on her leaving as she was terrified.

As you can imagine I'm fuming. Not only has this family affected the personal life of myself and my family but now he is directly affecting my business.

- a few weeks back I had a new client, I had my window open as it was warm and we both heard him shout at his kids who are 9 and. 4 years " why don't you F off you fing c,,nts!!!"
I was so embarrassed and funnily I haven't seen her again.

I am trying to run a professional business but this family is ruining it.
If I was a new client arriving at my address to witness the constant goings on of this family I sure would never return.

My family have even thought of moving but don't have the money.

I am prepared to fight this family however have been told that the it's very unlikely for a court to move a family as they are just moving the problem.

As you can imagine I am extremely annoyed and upset that the council feel they can place families like this in our once lovely street, my tax goes towards supporting them and now they personally affect my business that I have worked hard to build.

Sorry rant over

 

[sarah7898]

Oh Hun, that sounds awful!! I really sympathise with you..
Surely the council should move them?! I have a neighbour across the road who is in a housing association house, and the music is really loud sometimes, anyway, nothing makes my blood boil like having to listen to loud music so I was constantly calling environmental health. They weren't that helpful at first so then I called the housing association and complained to then directly, now they were very helpful and warned him a few times and the music has stopped. That's when the environmental health wanted to get involved and get me to make a diary lol.. Typical when it stopped.
So could you and your neighbours complain constantly? Surely they will have to do something!
So sorry it's affecting your business too, it's out if order, some people are scumbags aren't they xx

 

[Emma H]

Hi there your situation is very frustrating and also frightening.

The council have to do something eventually especially if the police are involved but something will only be done if you and your family persist with the council and keep on at them! I would suggest when any incidents occur record them on a notepad and also call the council/the police. Even if the police say they wont come out you can ask them to record it so they have a record of it.

Also go to your local MP honestly we had problems with our council not taking us seriously and i was recommended to contact our local MP if we weren't getting anywhere - and suddenly it was sorted! Write a letter or call your MP's office and explain you are terrified and being threatened and your callings to the police and council are falling on deaf ears and its also affecting your business from home as clients are too scared to return - that says a lot!

Hope this gets sorted for you xx

 

[TPB]

My neighbours are the same, down and outs going next door they shout and row but are never directly abusive or anything towards us, chop wood at 2am inside too! Sadly we've had those monitors for noise levels and wrote out times in a book of anything disturbing like noises Etc to some council or another, they just send them letter and gets ignored! We just put up with it all now. Sorry to hear thou, moving yourself would be a option but then that's hassle and money. Go to the police directly and council and just keep on and on! X

 

[jojo@tranquil]

That all sounds horrible, I sympathise with you.
However I think you should be careful, about making statements about housing association tenants, I personally own my house but I am sure there are plenty of people on here who don't and either rent or live in council housing.

Why don't you think about moving your business to a rented room?

Poor children being treated like that 😢
I hope you manage to sort the situation out.

 

[Leely]

When I was younger my mum got a petition set up and everyone in our street signed it. A neighbour across the rd from my mums, was having young lads visit her daughter all hours of the night. They were drinking, shouting and swearing till 4/5 in the morning at the time I was sitting my GCSE's. the council listened and banned all these lads from the street. This young girl then settled down , but just my luck she now lives across the rd from me and my family. She has 3 young children, has kicked her husband out (very publicly on Christmas Day) and has started with the men coming at all hours again. She spends most of her day sat in the front garden drinking. x


Leely

 

[Min]

It's a tough life, we once had really important visitors at my dad house (a lord) who park in front of the neighbours house. My dad had just lost his younger brother and they came to say a prayer.

Anyways next door doesn't have a drive way or drop down path, anything to suggest the visitors could not park there.

When the neighbours came home to find the car outside, they started shouting and knocked our door to have it moved. I explained we had important visitors and they with be gone soon. They still went nuts saying they had a family member died a week ago & they could deal with taking the shopping in.

We had to get the Lord, to move his car, they neighbours had a go at him too. It was so embarrassing.

I really hate them now.

 

[LieLash]

I have no problem with renters or council homes and the well behaved families but to move to a rented room Is not an option. I want to work from home and will not be pushed out by a family like this:

Thanks for the advice guys. I have a sheet that I have to document all on so it all got written down. I emailed the housing association chap that I had a meeting with last week and he's apparently having a meeting with them on Friday.

My poor client was so concerned re the children the despite her living 10 miles away she contacted me this morning to let me know she had phone social services.

Now that surely says it all

Still fuming! !!

 

[Dexy]

I feel for you , I lived with the neighbours from hell before and its awful when you ring the police or council and there is not much to be done, you feel like your banging your head against a wall.
When we were in this situation we were told to document everything, dates times what the incidents were, it is a long tedious path but reporting and logging everything is your best option and eventually the path of an ASBO can be taken and if breached they can then be evicted if property not there's.
I eventually moved just to get away from the drug dealers I was next too, but I do feel for you all. Your mum and dad have lived there so long don't let the scumbags push you out! XX

 

[Steph86]

Councils do have to do something, agreements are set out in the tenancy.

Call the council & the police after each incident. They are behaving anti socially. It should breech there tenancy.

Xx

 

[Mobile Manicure]

It will probably be a long slog getting rid of them, if you even can.

I would suggest going mobile for the time being until they're gone. Neighbours like that aren't going to make you look good and you will end up losing clients.

Good luck. i hope you succeed in getting rid of them.

 

[NailsXpress]

If you look on the Internet for that particular housing association, there will be a section to report anti social behaviour. They are then meant to get in touch with the tenant and speak to them outlining rules and tell them to behave or risk being evicted. Sometimes you have to chase them up to deal with it.

 

[mm29]

Whatever you do be careful these people will make your life a living nightmare until they get evicted.
Doesn't sound like the sort of people you'd want to get on the wrong side of so I'd keep ssshhh about your efforts of trying to get then removed then they can't pinpoint you!

Please be careful

 

[NailsXpress]

Yes don't make it obvious it's you. I would think other people in the street will also be reporting them too.

 

[sallyyummymummy]

I totally sympathise. Before I moved in with my boyfriend I lived with a friend & our neighbours were a nightmare. Drug dealing, people turning up all hours, playing extremely loud music all hours. The police did nothing as it was in the home not the street. We reported them to the council. Nothing happened. It was a nightmare then we discovered the house was owned by a company that rehabilitates offenders back into the community. The main trouble maker eventually got evicted and it all quietened down but was a nightmare for months.

Like others have suggestef can you go mobile?

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[kimldyh]

What about getting a camera they are small enough to not be seen and as long as it only faces your home I.e driveway you will be able to prove it better with sound and social services will have evidence too

 

[CONNECT-2-HAIR]

this is a very stressful situation, so sorry

 

[Dizzy nails]

There are things that can be done all of which you are doing or people on here have mentioned. But they take a long time. I'm afraid the only advice I can give is to rent a room. Have a look round, maybe a room in a hair salon. When I needed to rent a room for 6 months I asked around and was surprised at the options avail. I ended up getting a room in a hair salon for £50 p/w. Its your business the only person that will care is you.

 

[LolliDolli]

From your post I think you have rang the police twice? Ring again. They need 3 separate records on the same situation. My mum works in our local police station and told me what to do when our next door neighbour (joint onto our semi-detatched) started dealing drugs.
Like you say, it was awful. We had all sorts of people turning up at all sorts of times. Pipping their horns at 4am.
I rang in twice and my mum rang in for me. They broke into his house an he went down for it. He's out now but not living there anymore.
Keep on at the police and make them know how serious you are.
Don't ring 999. Ring your local non emergency number. You can find it on google if you don't already know it.
You can remain anonymous.
Tell them about the drugs, abusive behaviour, offensive language, poor kids.

Hope this helps and hope it all gets sorted for you!!


Laura💋

 

[LieLash]

Thanks everyone. I will be calling the police everyone something happens now as we'll as documenting everything to present to the housing officer on 4 weeks time so will see what will happen.