Hi geeks.
What a rubbish day I've had. I don't know where to start. Ok here goes... I share my boyfriends flat with him. I was looking for some plain paper today and amongst everything was a bank statement.
A bank statement, stating he has £24000 in savings. And last month alone he paid in £6000 cash and spend £3000 from the account. It's a business account. This is all news to me.
I'm pissed off because a couple of weeks ago, when we were discussing saving for a joint mortgage I asked him how much he had saved and he told me "£2g that's all"... So this £24000 is unexpected.
I'm extremely annoyed that he lied to me. To make things worse, last month was my brothers wedding in Croatia which my other half said he couldn't go to because he couldn't afford it! I pleaded with him, we have been together 4 years and it would have been nice for him to come but he kept saying he couldn't afford it. And all along he had £24000 in his account.
So I questioned why he lied to me and I've had complete rage back from his behalf. Message after message. Telling me is money his dad left him when he passed away and he can't "touch it" because its for family stuff. Well according to the bank statements, he "touched it" several times on nandos, work stuff, clothes etc in that one month alone, he touched over 3g of it, so basically, he could have "touched it" to pay the £350 flight for my bros wedding.
I'm annoyed he kept this from me when I asked him about his savings. I'm annoyed he lied and didn't come to my brothers wedding. I'm annoyed that I'm now thinking "what else has he lied about". I have no idea how much money he makes, but its quite a lot according to this statement, a lot more than me. He never tells me how much he makes or how much his mortgage is, yet I pay him money each month for it. Anyway, sorry I'm procrastinating.
I just feel like there is a big side of him I don't know. I don't care how much he has, but I'm disgusted at how he has lied to me repeatedly. And refuses to apologise. He is only thinking of himself. And there's me being honest with him and planning our future.
So now I'm staying with my mum to decide what to do. He has his own shop and works at night too so he literally never spends time with me, he's working all weekend and its always been like that. He's not romantic, never surprises me and never makes an effort with me. He tells me he loves me but to be honest, he doesn't show it. I love him that's why I'm with him. But sometimes I think is this really how it is?
Had my 2 wisdom teeth out on Monday, he told me he would pick me up and take me home. So I called him when I came out asking where he is and he was at his shop and said he couldn't come away, despite the fact that 2 of them work there and he had a few days notice and told me he bloody would! Then didn't come home till 7pm, didn't say sorry, didn't even ask how I am. I told him I was annoyed and he took that as his cue to go to sleep and ignore the whole thing. And now this has happened.
I'm fed up. Upset. And don't know what to do.
Any advice from my fellow geeks?
What a rubbish day I've had. I don't know where to start. Ok here goes... I share my boyfriends flat with him. I was looking for some plain paper today and amongst everything was a bank statement.
A bank statement, stating he has £24000 in savings. And last month alone he paid in £6000 cash and spend £3000 from the account. It's a business account. This is all news to me.
I'm pissed off because a couple of weeks ago, when we were discussing saving for a joint mortgage I asked him how much he had saved and he told me "£2g that's all"... So this £24000 is unexpected.
I'm extremely annoyed that he lied to me. To make things worse, last month was my brothers wedding in Croatia which my other half said he couldn't go to because he couldn't afford it! I pleaded with him, we have been together 4 years and it would have been nice for him to come but he kept saying he couldn't afford it. And all along he had £24000 in his account.
So I questioned why he lied to me and I've had complete rage back from his behalf. Message after message. Telling me is money his dad left him when he passed away and he can't "touch it" because its for family stuff. Well according to the bank statements, he "touched it" several times on nandos, work stuff, clothes etc in that one month alone, he touched over 3g of it, so basically, he could have "touched it" to pay the £350 flight for my bros wedding.
I'm annoyed he kept this from me when I asked him about his savings. I'm annoyed he lied and didn't come to my brothers wedding. I'm annoyed that I'm now thinking "what else has he lied about". I have no idea how much money he makes, but its quite a lot according to this statement, a lot more than me. He never tells me how much he makes or how much his mortgage is, yet I pay him money each month for it. Anyway, sorry I'm procrastinating.
I just feel like there is a big side of him I don't know. I don't care how much he has, but I'm disgusted at how he has lied to me repeatedly. And refuses to apologise. He is only thinking of himself. And there's me being honest with him and planning our future.
So now I'm staying with my mum to decide what to do. He has his own shop and works at night too so he literally never spends time with me, he's working all weekend and its always been like that. He's not romantic, never surprises me and never makes an effort with me. He tells me he loves me but to be honest, he doesn't show it. I love him that's why I'm with him. But sometimes I think is this really how it is?
Had my 2 wisdom teeth out on Monday, he told me he would pick me up and take me home. So I called him when I came out asking where he is and he was at his shop and said he couldn't come away, despite the fact that 2 of them work there and he had a few days notice and told me he bloody would! Then didn't come home till 7pm, didn't say sorry, didn't even ask how I am. I told him I was annoyed and he took that as his cue to go to sleep and ignore the whole thing. And now this has happened.
I'm fed up. Upset. And don't know what to do.
Any advice from my fellow geeks?