Hi,
I employed a girl recently in the capacity of a manager despite the fact that she has never 'officially' managed. She has a good 10 years of experience in admin etc within the beauty field in one of those roles where she needed to do a bit of everything (admin, reception, some managing). She came as a recommendation.
The fact is she is struggling to manage. I was well aware that she may struggle initially but I felt that she had potential. She's looking to get trained in her own time in management.
Problem is that my therapist will not listen to her. I'm around often enough that I know she isn't making it up. She doesn't respect the fact that this girl is quite young (she has life experience, not school- only 30yo). An example is when therapist was asked to create a bespoke facial with the products she prefers (something my therapist has been wanting to do), she just ignored the request and a week later, at the weekly meeting, when questioned on it; made a fuss, cried a bit and came looking for me. On another day, she then sat with me to discuss how the facial should be- in front of and completely ignoring the manager. I was mostly unaware of this at the time and thought that she just wanted my input. Many more similar examples. I'm trying my best to be neutral but I'm getting a bit fed up with both.
The idea was for my workload to decrease which it has in many ways, but this is getting a bit much. I accept that you can't demand respect but can only command it- ok for me.... how do you get this across to both of them?
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I employed a girl recently in the capacity of a manager despite the fact that she has never 'officially' managed. She has a good 10 years of experience in admin etc within the beauty field in one of those roles where she needed to do a bit of everything (admin, reception, some managing). She came as a recommendation.
The fact is she is struggling to manage. I was well aware that she may struggle initially but I felt that she had potential. She's looking to get trained in her own time in management.
Problem is that my therapist will not listen to her. I'm around often enough that I know she isn't making it up. She doesn't respect the fact that this girl is quite young (she has life experience, not school- only 30yo). An example is when therapist was asked to create a bespoke facial with the products she prefers (something my therapist has been wanting to do), she just ignored the request and a week later, at the weekly meeting, when questioned on it; made a fuss, cried a bit and came looking for me. On another day, she then sat with me to discuss how the facial should be- in front of and completely ignoring the manager. I was mostly unaware of this at the time and thought that she just wanted my input. Many more similar examples. I'm trying my best to be neutral but I'm getting a bit fed up with both.
The idea was for my workload to decrease which it has in many ways, but this is getting a bit much. I accept that you can't demand respect but can only command it- ok for me.... how do you get this across to both of them?
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