carlytaylor1986
Well-Known Member
Long of the short is, I am seeing a guy. been on a few dates with him over the long weekend. I knew him previously, have probably been on about 6 first dates with him over the period of 10 or so years. It's never got past the first few dates and it's always me who drops him. So we started seeing each other again recently, I was the one who initiated it by saying I felt I ended things prematurely. He made me promise I wasn't going to drop him again but I have this huge urge to get out. As we have known each other for a while, it's like he is way more into me and way more comfortable with me than I am with him. We ended up doing the deed Thursday night and he has since come around and made gestures to take it to the bedroom which I have declined. I said to him I wanted to take things slowly. whenever he comes to mine, it's like he wants me constantly draped over him, kissing him and cuddling him, but it takes time for me to get to that stage in a relationship to be that open with someone, I can't deal with being all over each other all the time, which makes me think I don't like him that much.
So I know I have to end things as he is going to start driving me nuts. But I feel horrible in doing so especially as I promised him that I wouldn't drop him again, he said if I did then he would never speak to me again, which I totally understand. I don't want to blame it on me this time, i want to tell him that he's moving too fast and wants more affection than I can probably give him. How on earth do I bring it up that I don't want to see him again? I feel god awful! Sorry for the long message xxxx
So I know I have to end things as he is going to start driving me nuts. But I feel horrible in doing so especially as I promised him that I wouldn't drop him again, he said if I did then he would never speak to me again, which I totally understand. I don't want to blame it on me this time, i want to tell him that he's moving too fast and wants more affection than I can probably give him. How on earth do I bring it up that I don't want to see him again? I feel god awful! Sorry for the long message xxxx