Cut to the chase, I was adopted at 1 year, I've found my natrual mother 4 years ago who want me in her life and accepts that it can't be mother and daughter and is a very understanding person, I told my daughter just before secondary school, she wants to no that side of the family ( mainly as she's 17 and knows I was Born in the area and is worried about future boyfriends !!! ) I have just told my boys, very casually and of course they are curious.
Now, my mum who bought me up is 76 and really is not in the best of health bless her, bad heart and strokes, she has always understood that I might be curious about my nat family and been cool about that BUT I don't think needs the pressure of knowing that I am in touch with my nat mother.
Right, now what do I do.... My daughter wants to meet her nat family as they do her, I've explained that this is her choice but she can't tell her gran, The boys have said the same and I said the same and they have admitted that they don't know if they couldn't tell their gran.
Catch 22, they want to meet their nat family but I don't think my ole mum can deal with it or indeed needs to know but can I ask a 17 12 and 13 not to tell their gran ???
I know people might think I should tell my mum but believe my, she wouldn't deal with it.
Now, my mum who bought me up is 76 and really is not in the best of health bless her, bad heart and strokes, she has always understood that I might be curious about my nat family and been cool about that BUT I don't think needs the pressure of knowing that I am in touch with my nat mother.
Right, now what do I do.... My daughter wants to meet her nat family as they do her, I've explained that this is her choice but she can't tell her gran, The boys have said the same and I said the same and they have admitted that they don't know if they couldn't tell their gran.
Catch 22, they want to meet their nat family but I don't think my ole mum can deal with it or indeed needs to know but can I ask a 17 12 and 13 not to tell their gran ???
I know people might think I should tell my mum but believe my, she wouldn't deal with it.