What makes a good therapist

[JayJay]

The title says it all really.

I'm at crossroads and very disillusioned with some fellow therapists at the minute. I made a complaint about a course I attended, other people complained verbally to one another but wouldn't put pen to paper. Now the poo has hit the fan no one will come forward and are denying they had a problem. I also found there was constant competition as to who had done what...

Maybe I'm not the therapist I thought I was; maybe I'm not calm or caring enough. I mainly do holistics, including holistic beauty - well as natural as I can. To be a good therapist do you have to be all floaty and mother nature like? I only wish I was like that, I'm not and never will be. Although, I am away with the fairies most of the time

Someone said to me this weekend, massage is a vocation and I agree. I love my therapies, but my energy is so low at the minute I wouldn't even consider working on anyone. God my confidence has been kicked, I feel like giving it all up.

 

[Lavander Rose]

Hello there

NOOOO dont give up.

i am an holistic and beauty therapist of 6 yrs.#

I attended college for one of my courses and i tell you there were so many b****s on it it was unbelievable, it comes down to jealousy, lack of confidence to admit something. they obviously new would do something about it so left it down to you to sort it out

Your abit like myself then, tell it how it is lol.. though when i am with clients i am very proffessonal, attentive, and love to listen to what they have to say.

I did Rieki 1 2 yrs ago and i am doing Reiki 2 next month and it has changed my life soo much, i am alot calmer now, alot calmer with myself even, if i ever feel the need to i just go into my meditation and its helps alot,-

why dont you go on a Reiki course that way it will help not just yourself in situations, but it will be another treatment that you can offer

but dont give up please,,, beauty therapists can be so b****y as we are competing against each other, dont let it get you down, i think you did the right thing

 

[JayJay]

Thanks Hun - it was CPD course for massage so you would think it wouldn't have been as competitive. :irked:

 

[hippy-chick]

I attended a course once, 3 of us on it. Everyone complained bitterly about it all day, and in the end the tutor (who had to read from a piece of paper throughout) also joined in and stated that it was product knowledge only but called a course.

We decided to complain, so I put in my course evaluation what I thought (assuming that the other 2 did too).

I got a call from the tutor a few weeks later screaming down the phone at me, calling me alsorts, saying that I had caused so much trouble, the boss was doing her nut. I calmed her down, reminded her of the day and said that everyone had complained on the day, she decided to have selective memory and said that I was the only one that complained.

I suggested that she talked to her boss and offer us a small discount on another course (my reasoning was that we would do another course with the organisation, ie give them another chance), she said that this had been discussed on the owner would be ringing me to discuss this.

I came off the phone quite shaken up by it. I spoke to the other students and they just said that they didn't want to rock the boat, but thank you very much would take a discount if offered on another course.

to cut a very long story short, I never did get a call from the owner/boss, an apology, a chance to discuss things, any correspondence whatsoever and no offer of a discount. therefore, I have never attended another course with this organisation and have never recommended them to others. I get asked A LOT to recommend courses, so her loss. If they ask my opinion on the organisation I give them a shortened version of above.

I am an holistic therapist, I am quietly spoken, slighty ditzy, a tiny bit hippyish, but, I wear normal clothes.

I grew up around proper hippies and believe me, I'm not a proper hippy perish the thought. I'm just a bit laid back.

 

[essentia]

Hi I read this and think you have just had a raw deal here but do not let it put you off as there are plenty of professional people out there.

I was on a very expensive course once and the tutor did not like me at all. Even one of the other students dropped a hint to her. I think it was because I was more experienced that she was. She tried to tell me that 40mins was the right amount of time for a body massage and that I was too slow if I went over!! I complained but I got nowhere with it. We are all here to learn from each other.

As for being floaty etc to be a therapist I would not say you have to be at all - there is no whale music to be heard in my treatment room!!!

 

[beautyathome]

I was attending hairdressing at college and i left due to the bit......s, can't be bothered, i can't stand it, some people have just got their heads stuck up their .... unfortunatelly this profession and hairdressing is where you can find a lot of it. don't give up keep your chin high, beacause you are different clients will love this about you. My clients do with me. :green:

 

[JayJay]

Thanks for your replies girls. I'm just going to lick my wounds go on hols next week and take it from there.

I thought I'd feel better after a nights sleep but I'm still very upset - you know that horrible queasy, butterfly feeling in your belly, that's how I feel.

 

[hippy-chick]

Thanks for your replies girls. I'm just going to lick my wounds go on hols next week and take it from there.

I thought I'd feel better after a nights sleep but I'm still very upset - you know that horrible queasy, butterfly feeling in your belly, that's how I feel.

thats your solar plexus at work! I get that all the time, and its because we are sensitive, nice people, and things like this really knock us for 6.

But you know what JayJay, if you are anything like me, situations like this make me strive harder! Yes, I need a recovery time, I don't bounce straight back. I retreat into my shell (I'm a cancerian), lick my wounds, feel sorry for myself, then go through the 'martyr' stage, then I get angry.

I then go back out there determined to do better and be better and get on with it.

I think situations like this make us the people we are, and I have toughened up as the years and (****) happens, but I still maintain my integrity and my professional standards.

take some time off, come back renewed, revigoured, and get even by being better than any of them.

 

[soriminah]

Unfortunately any industry with a high proportion of women - beauty, hair, nails etc can be very bitchy. Also, some feel very threatened if they think you are better or if they are in competition to you.

My opinion is that there is enough to go around for all. Some look at it as a dog eat dog business - that's where you get the bitchy backstabbing happening or when others try to sabotage your business.

There will always be people like this who you will have to deal with. Just keep on keeping on and ignore them. You know you're good at what you do, clients know you're good at what you do, ignore the rest.

 

[JayJay]

I'm meeting with a commitee rep tomorrow to discuss the complaint. I'll let you know how it goes.