Clients wanting to take me out

[sweetnailcandy]

When and how do u draw the line?

I have a couple nutty clients lol they always hound me and beg to take me out and drink,

1~I try to keep a client style relationship
2~I dont really drink
3~I dont really hang with these kind of people

I make excuses to not go out, but they have caught on. i tried telling thim that just isnt my "scene" but they insist I "need" it

What do you do when clients get overwhelming like this

 

[angelina221]

Tell them that your girlfriend wouldn't like it! Lol
I think you just need to be firm with them. You shouldn't have to explain why, no should be enough! Why do some men persist?
I think that if they think you are going to change your mind, then you're not being firm enough.
Next time they ask just say 'Thanks but no thanks. I don't mix business with pleasure'.
If you're not firm they will keep asking.
Good luck :hug:

 

[rebeccaj]

My opinion is, if you dont want to socialise with these people, then as posted above, be polite but very clear and firm that you dont want to go.

A have a couple of clients (in fact I really only have a couple of clients) LOL, that I have become very friendly with, and against the advice I received on this forum, let the relationship slide from client to friend and although they continue to be clients and insist on paying, I find it very hard to charge them full client rate. So be warned !!

 

[zebra_cake]

sorry no advice but i have a simlar problem , i have a client (male) at work that keeps asking me out on a date , im engaged and he knows this. gets really annoying after a while he wont give up. ive told him thats its never going to happen.

 

[nailzoo]

Why don't you want to go out/share a drink with them?
Breaking bread with people shows another side to them, sometimes good, sometimes bad ..... but you gotta try.
Is it a date, a drink, a meal, a dance, there are so many reasons to go out...

 

[BEAUTY4U]

i think your obviously getting fed up with them hounding you so i think you have been more than polite by the sounds of it so nows the time to be firm and tell them to stop asking you and if you wanted to go you would have went before now. at the end of the day this is harrassment i remember one client i used to do and he constantly asked me out knowing i had a boyfriend and i constantly said no you know i have a partner so why keep asking he then left the salon then called the salon at closing time asking if i needed a lift home i was fuming and i snapped and said "look your not listening to what im saying I HAVE A PARTNER IF I WANTED TO GOUT WITH YOU I WOULD HAVE DONE SO THE FIRST 20 TIMES YOU ASKED SO CAN YOU STOP ASKING ME PLEASE he then apologised an dhe still comes to salon and that was about 5 years ago so time to be firm xx

 

[SJK]

Why don't you want to go out/share a drink with them?
Breaking bread with people shows another side to them, sometimes good, sometimes bad ..... but you gotta try.
Is it a date, a drink, a meal, a dance, there are so many reasons to go out...

Sometimes, and with some people, you just don't want to.

Personally, I think mixing business and pleasure isn't a good thing to do. Keeping it professional is the best way to be. Your clients aren't friends, they are clients. If you forget that, you are on the way to letting standards slip. Sometimes the lines blur, but you have to remember that the people you are treating are paying your wages.

On a selfish note, I don't want to go out with people unless I really want to. I'm so busy and get so little time to spend with friends and family that I really do love, that I'm not going to spend time with anybody or doing anything that I really can't be bothered with. Call me wrong if you like, but at least I know what I want from my life.

 

[BEAUTY4U]

i agree sometimes you get to know clients too well and sometimes i think you need to remember they are clients not friends i think yes you can make the odd friend out of a client but not when its a male asking you out all the time its quite obvious they want to be more than friends and anybody that thinks otherwise is niave(how do you spell that word) is it nieve lol help !!

 

[sweetnailcandy]

I agree with being firm! I think I sometimes get a little worried I may lose a client or two ya know?

I would go out with a couple, but honestly a lot of my clients know each other and they would expect the same and if I go with one I should go with the other KWIM?

I am just trying to build but I guess being honest IS the best, ugh, I just dont go out, dont really like to, dont laugh haha

 

[nailzoo]

Your clients aren't friends, they are clients. If you forget that, you are on the way to letting standards slip.

What an odd statement, my standards never slip.

Sometimes clients really enjoy your company and wish to enjoy it outside of a salon situation, it's quite innocent and people have a variety of reasons for wishing to make new friends.

I would hate to live my life so guarded as to "exclude" people, particularly if I liked the person and enjoyed their company.

I like all my clients and consider many of them friends, so therefore, wouldn't mind having a drink with any of them, my care, service, conversation and concern for all of them is genuine and sincere.

I would never "fake" myself for the sake of the price of an infill etc, I've been doing nails for so long now, I really need to enjoy each hour of everyday I work.

Clients that I don't get along with, I get rid of pretty quickly.

 

[SJK]

What an odd statement, my standards never slip.

Sometimes clients really enjoy your company and wish to enjoy it outside of a salon situation, it's quite innocent and people have a variety of reasons for wishing to make new friends.

I would hate to live my life so guarded as to "exclude" people, particularly if I liked the person and enjoyed their company.

I like all my clients and consider many of them friends, so therefore, wouldn't mind having a drink with any of them, my care, service, conversation and concern for all of them is genuine and sincere.

I would never "fake" myself for the sake of the price of an infill etc, I've been doing nails for so long now, I really need to enjoy each hour of everyday I work.

Clients that I don't get along with, I get rid of pretty quickly.

Then I think we will have to agree to disagree. It seems to be most people's opinions on this thread that business and personal lives should remain separate. I, for one, think this is the most professional way to be.

 

[nailzoo]

Then I think we will have to agree to disagree. It seems to be most people's opinions on this thread that business and personal lives should remain separate. I, for one, think this is the most professional way to be.

So few opinions .........,
wait till this thread catches on

SJK, how long have you been in the business ? I see you are a jack of all trades (which are you a master at). I have also checked out your threads and answers ...makes interesting reading, perhaps you should do the same for me.

I'm a great believer in "personality" and it has served me well for 26 years.

I do understand many are more reserved and restrained than I am.:lol:

 

[SJK]

That's great. I'm glad you are happy, and I hope you get more answers on this thread, or the other that you have started, that will confirm your opinion.

I don't want to make this personal. If you want to know about me, pm me. I don't have any problem getting to know somebody.

However, this thread was originally from someone who was being pressured to socialise with clients, and she didn't want to. If you don't want to, you shouldn't have to.