Miss Sparkle
Well-Known Member
aarhgh I'm quite angry right now .. all because I think I did the right thing.
My sister is a teacher and (on paper at least, ha) very intelligent. Shes currently doing VSO work in Rwanda as a teacher trainer.
Me and my mum went to visit her in August and it was clear all was not well with her Rwandan boyfriend. Very manipulative and controlling and for a strong person she was completely compliant to everything he wanted. We found out he owes her a lot of money too but just gets drunk all the time.
Anyway as shes there we only really talk on Facebook, we had a Facebook chat conversation on Sunday when she said hed started being physically abusive! I was very concerned so sent her some pages from the Refuge website which has excellent advice in these situations. She was saying she was scared to leave him and was scared for her safety.
I later found out shed been having unprotected sex with him because condoms are a little boy thing!! This girl has two degrees and a teaching qualification! So I called her f**ing irresponsible.
So anyway I spoke to my dad about it and we agreed that VSO in Rwanda should know the situation. So I called them today, they agreed it was serious and called the Rwandan office. They spoke to my sister and will meet her on Thursday.
But then she comes back to me all guns blazing saying our conversation was confidential, I had no right to go the VSO office, it was none of my business, it was not on to call her f**ing irresponsible and that calling the VSO office was a really stupid idea.
Anyway, I now feel like Im being punished for doing the right thing! What do other people think? I'd be interested to know your thoughts ...
My sister is a teacher and (on paper at least, ha) very intelligent. Shes currently doing VSO work in Rwanda as a teacher trainer.
Me and my mum went to visit her in August and it was clear all was not well with her Rwandan boyfriend. Very manipulative and controlling and for a strong person she was completely compliant to everything he wanted. We found out he owes her a lot of money too but just gets drunk all the time.
Anyway as shes there we only really talk on Facebook, we had a Facebook chat conversation on Sunday when she said hed started being physically abusive! I was very concerned so sent her some pages from the Refuge website which has excellent advice in these situations. She was saying she was scared to leave him and was scared for her safety.
I later found out shed been having unprotected sex with him because condoms are a little boy thing!! This girl has two degrees and a teaching qualification! So I called her f**ing irresponsible.
So anyway I spoke to my dad about it and we agreed that VSO in Rwanda should know the situation. So I called them today, they agreed it was serious and called the Rwandan office. They spoke to my sister and will meet her on Thursday.
But then she comes back to me all guns blazing saying our conversation was confidential, I had no right to go the VSO office, it was none of my business, it was not on to call her f**ing irresponsible and that calling the VSO office was a really stupid idea.
Anyway, I now feel like Im being punished for doing the right thing! What do other people think? I'd be interested to know your thoughts ...