Hayleyc1983
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Ok, so my best friend is getting married next Easter and I'm a bridesmaid. There are three of us in total. Since the year countdown has passed, things have started hotting up. The first was on a Monday in April she insisted that we had to have a bridesmaids meeting at her house that week. I'm a mobile makeup artist and beautician working 9-9 tues-sat and explained to her that I have clients, so can't just drop them, but given notice I'm happy to take a night off to be there. The meeting went ahead without me as apparently Im being difficult?! First black mark.
Second issue is the dress. She wants a dress which doesn't suit my shape at all (I'm curvy). I have not said anything at all about the dress not suiting me, as it's her day and I will just get over wearing it just for that one day. She asked me to go and try it on which i did and I put my size aside, she subsequently bought it. I am bottom heavy so bought the dress which fits me on the bottom and is slightly too big for me on top. The bottom lining skims my hips, but the top of it will need to be altered, and I told her this from the outset and that I am happy to pay the cost of that. She had no issues.
2 weeks ago we all went round for bridesmaids meeting number 2 where we all tried our dresses on. Clearly mine is too big for me on top, but fits on the bottom. She was insisting that I go back to the shop and try on a smaller size, even though it won't fit me as the bottom of this dress is fitted as it is. I left, but once home decided that there is no need to try this dress on in the smaller size. I know what fits me and what I feel comfortable in.
Well yesterday she called me screaming at my like a lunatic, stating that I'm useless, selfish and that I clearly aren't good enough to be her bridesmaid, that's it's her day and I'm ruining it. I argued back stating I know what fits me, I'm not a child and that I shouldn't feel pressured into wearing a dress that is too small for me, but one that I am comfortable in. She told em that her and the other bridesmaids had been having a conversation about my dress and they decided I needed to try the other size on?! She then started on me saying that I think I'm the only one who works and that maybe I should just have my dinner later one evening so I can drop everything for her?! I work 12 hour days as it is, never see my partner and eat most nights at 9.30!
I just don't know what she wants me to do, I have been very vocal in organising the hen do etc, things which she clearly doesn't know about. The only thing I have done is missed one meeting and stood my ground over something which I know I'm right over. She has been making comments about my size and what I eat for a while now which is also getting on my nerves. I am so angry at the way she spoke to me that I can't face calling her.
Sorry for the long rant, but not sure what to do as I don't know where I stand as to whether or not I am in her wedding party anymore, and even if I am, I'm really hurt that she has said these things to me, and made me feel this way, we have been friends for 20 years.
Second issue is the dress. She wants a dress which doesn't suit my shape at all (I'm curvy). I have not said anything at all about the dress not suiting me, as it's her day and I will just get over wearing it just for that one day. She asked me to go and try it on which i did and I put my size aside, she subsequently bought it. I am bottom heavy so bought the dress which fits me on the bottom and is slightly too big for me on top. The bottom lining skims my hips, but the top of it will need to be altered, and I told her this from the outset and that I am happy to pay the cost of that. She had no issues.
2 weeks ago we all went round for bridesmaids meeting number 2 where we all tried our dresses on. Clearly mine is too big for me on top, but fits on the bottom. She was insisting that I go back to the shop and try on a smaller size, even though it won't fit me as the bottom of this dress is fitted as it is. I left, but once home decided that there is no need to try this dress on in the smaller size. I know what fits me and what I feel comfortable in.
Well yesterday she called me screaming at my like a lunatic, stating that I'm useless, selfish and that I clearly aren't good enough to be her bridesmaid, that's it's her day and I'm ruining it. I argued back stating I know what fits me, I'm not a child and that I shouldn't feel pressured into wearing a dress that is too small for me, but one that I am comfortable in. She told em that her and the other bridesmaids had been having a conversation about my dress and they decided I needed to try the other size on?! She then started on me saying that I think I'm the only one who works and that maybe I should just have my dinner later one evening so I can drop everything for her?! I work 12 hour days as it is, never see my partner and eat most nights at 9.30!
I just don't know what she wants me to do, I have been very vocal in organising the hen do etc, things which she clearly doesn't know about. The only thing I have done is missed one meeting and stood my ground over something which I know I'm right over. She has been making comments about my size and what I eat for a while now which is also getting on my nerves. I am so angry at the way she spoke to me that I can't face calling her.
Sorry for the long rant, but not sure what to do as I don't know where I stand as to whether or not I am in her wedding party anymore, and even if I am, I'm really hurt that she has said these things to me, and made me feel this way, we have been friends for 20 years.
I really feel for you! 
