bev34dd
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I have three boys two from a previous marriage nearly 15 and 18 and a 5 year old with my current partner of 8 years ..
September last year my 14 year old has been suffering from depression and anxiety and been self harming ... It's been a constant battle as he won't talk and trying him to talk to us or a councillor is proving difficult. But all come to a head a couple of weeks ago. He was asking about our marriage split .. He was only 7 when this happened ... I was open and honest with him. Told him I left his dad due to me meeting someone else our marriage was full of anger and control from his part.. We moved out of the family home and rented for a year just the three of us then bought the home with live in today with my new partner.. Things then seemed fine. My ex husband met someone. It was a very bitter divorce even up to this day. We had my youngest a few years later and things seemed great. Until last year. My middle lad blames my ex husband for everything calling him all the names under the sun won't see him even though I said if you want to blame someone for the split blame me I met someone else after all but he wouldn't have any of it. The main problem now is my eldest and 14 yr old have fallen out and haven't spoke for over two weeks now. But now my eldest has so much anger and Says he wants to kill him they've always been so close been there for each other over the years and it's breaking my heart. My eldest is struggling with all the upset but is so angry but has no concept of mental illness and is just angry with his brother for bad mouthing his dad. I've tried to talk to him tonight and he's left and gone to his dads and he won't come home. I'm at a loss and don't know where to turn my ex husband is just creating more problems for me and I feel totally lost and alone and feel I've let my children down . I've always put my children first but feel like I'm losing them both and I dint know what to do
September last year my 14 year old has been suffering from depression and anxiety and been self harming ... It's been a constant battle as he won't talk and trying him to talk to us or a councillor is proving difficult. But all come to a head a couple of weeks ago. He was asking about our marriage split .. He was only 7 when this happened ... I was open and honest with him. Told him I left his dad due to me meeting someone else our marriage was full of anger and control from his part.. We moved out of the family home and rented for a year just the three of us then bought the home with live in today with my new partner.. Things then seemed fine. My ex husband met someone. It was a very bitter divorce even up to this day. We had my youngest a few years later and things seemed great. Until last year. My middle lad blames my ex husband for everything calling him all the names under the sun won't see him even though I said if you want to blame someone for the split blame me I met someone else after all but he wouldn't have any of it. The main problem now is my eldest and 14 yr old have fallen out and haven't spoke for over two weeks now. But now my eldest has so much anger and Says he wants to kill him they've always been so close been there for each other over the years and it's breaking my heart. My eldest is struggling with all the upset but is so angry but has no concept of mental illness and is just angry with his brother for bad mouthing his dad. I've tried to talk to him tonight and he's left and gone to his dads and he won't come home. I'm at a loss and don't know where to turn my ex husband is just creating more problems for me and I feel totally lost and alone and feel I've let my children down . I've always put my children first but feel like I'm losing them both and I dint know what to do