My friend is making me poor!

[Grace_Hair]

I know it's my fault because I can't say no.
But I swear I'm poor because of my friend!

I do her hair and she says she'll pay me in cocktails when we're on holiday.
We went to see a band and her boyfriend was gonna pay for the ticket. Then they broke up so I've not been paid back for it.
I don't think she's intentionally taking the mick. I just need to know how to say no to her

 

[Reidebot]

Harden up. Best advice I can give you.

 

[Martin Duffy]

I agree with the above poster - you just need to be honest and firm and say that you simply can't afford to carry on with the current arrangement anymore.

 

[Beckybee]

It's amassing on how the person you feel is your Best friend- stops coming around or asking you out when the freebies stop.

I had to point out to my mother that a so called friend who was always asking if my mother wanted to visit here and there, was only using her for a taxi

 

[RED STAR]

I know it's my fault because I can't say no.
But I swear I'm poor because of my friend!

I do her hair and she says she'll pay me in cocktails when we're on holiday.
We went to see a band and her boyfriend was gonna pay for the ticket. Then they broke up so I've not been paid back for it.
I don't think she's intentionally taking the mick. I just need to know how to say no to her

You don't want empty promises.....You want hard cash.
She's not your friend, and your no longer her hairdresser

 

[jacquelineanna]

YOU are making yourself poor ...I wish I was rich enough to be able to work for cocktails.

You are right about one thing Tori - it IS your fault.

But you can put it right easily ... you know what you have to do

xx

 

[Miss Sparkle]

You need to stand your ground and be firm. The first time it's hard. But it gets easier and easier every time. Good luck!

 

[Nailed-it]

I used to have a huge problem with saying no I actually ended up going to see someone about it once it was really good advice, she brought up how bad I feel when I say no to someone and then she asked how upset I get when someone says no to me. This made a good point, I felt way worse saying no then being told no. Once I could accept that people are not nearly as heartbroken to me saying no as I was, it became a lot easier to say it! Some people just want to see how far they can push their limit with you, if they are a true friend they will accept and understand being cut off and hopefully start paying it off as well.