Rockinthe80s
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As the title says really.. I'm just fed up of my life!
I got married 3 years ago and I am so unhappy in my marital family. None of the peers (particularly the girls) have ever made an effort to get to know me or become friends with me (including my husbands sister). She knows nothing about me as she's never bothered to have a conversation with me that's lasted more than 30 seconds!
However, I am still expected by my husbands family to turn up to family events etc or pop down to in-laws whenever husbands sister is visiting and tbh I don't want to.. Because there is no interest there for me as no one has befriended me. They are such a cold family. I have tried so hard in the years to build some kind of relationship, but my efforts are never reciprocated.
My husbands sister often ignores me (pretends not to hear), has NEVER called me by my name, doesn't wish me a happy birthday (doesn't even know when it is).
I've offered free nails to husbands friends, family members to get some practice in on new effects I would like to try and no-one even takes me up on my offer! I don't know anyone else where I am and had really hoped my husbands family would help support my business, if even only for a bit of free publicity!
I have social anxiety and quite often situations where I don't know too many people make me very uncomfortable. So when people don't talk to me, I talk to them to make life easier for me. I'm ok one to one, so I'll spark up conversations, but come the next time it's back to square one!
In my husbands friends circle, there are only 2 other females, both of which were fully established within the circle before I came along. I have had them both over for dinner, and still the effort doesn't get made back. Which is fine... But then, my husband feels like he is missing out on his family and friends time, with me. I never stop him going alone, I'm happy to stay at home, but he is a loving husband and wants me there.. He's embarrassed going alone!
I have spoken out to my in-laws about the way his sister is with me. I explained to my MIL that if sister can't be bothered to make an effort, then I in turn am not obligated to visit when she's coming over to in laws.
The whole situation caused a lot of unhappiness within the family. But I had to speak out.
I have only one male friend left. He is my best friend and my shoulder of support. My female friends have never been there for me, so I have let them go. Not one of them could spare some time for me to just talk. Just the once.. One watched me blubber as she lay (yes, lay) on my sofa and all she did was put me down further and didn't even offer to get me a tissue, let alone console me! And trust me.. I needed a tissue!!! I have so many stories, but I think this post is already long enough!
Even within my own family, I only have my mum, but even my mum will sometimes get annoyed with me, for eg, New Year's Day was at mums. I felt really unwell, but she still wanted her nails doing which I did, but she could see I wasn't well. Then she asked me to do her brows etc and at this point it was already 9.30pm on New Year's Day, so I suggested she go into town and get them done following day (as we live about 45 mins from my mum) and she didn't like it. I have never in all my years of working as a therapist, asked her to go anywhere else or charged her a penny. The first time I do, I get the cold Shoulder for 3 weeks, wont take my calls. Any communication she needed to make with me was via cold emails and texts.
So, basically I have 1 friend (but he is the best), my lovely husband and my loopy mum. I've been so sad for so long, the dr has now put me on citalopram for my depressive episodes!
I had counselling... The councellor asked if I had a problem with women, to which i replied "no, they have a problem with me". I believe this! I am friendly and I try (despite my anxiety and depression) but my efforts fall on deaf ears!
I would love my own family, but we are finding it difficult to conceive. Plus I have health problems too and I'm 34 so time is not on my side!
I know many of you will think this is such a negative thread (which it is), BUT I have been holding myself strong and getting on with my life normally, until a year ago. I have had to be strong for so much of my life, dealt with s**t, put on a brave face and carried on with life, but now I can't cope. I'm wasting my life away!
Sorry for long post...x
I got married 3 years ago and I am so unhappy in my marital family. None of the peers (particularly the girls) have ever made an effort to get to know me or become friends with me (including my husbands sister). She knows nothing about me as she's never bothered to have a conversation with me that's lasted more than 30 seconds!
However, I am still expected by my husbands family to turn up to family events etc or pop down to in-laws whenever husbands sister is visiting and tbh I don't want to.. Because there is no interest there for me as no one has befriended me. They are such a cold family. I have tried so hard in the years to build some kind of relationship, but my efforts are never reciprocated.
My husbands sister often ignores me (pretends not to hear), has NEVER called me by my name, doesn't wish me a happy birthday (doesn't even know when it is).
I've offered free nails to husbands friends, family members to get some practice in on new effects I would like to try and no-one even takes me up on my offer! I don't know anyone else where I am and had really hoped my husbands family would help support my business, if even only for a bit of free publicity!
I have social anxiety and quite often situations where I don't know too many people make me very uncomfortable. So when people don't talk to me, I talk to them to make life easier for me. I'm ok one to one, so I'll spark up conversations, but come the next time it's back to square one!
In my husbands friends circle, there are only 2 other females, both of which were fully established within the circle before I came along. I have had them both over for dinner, and still the effort doesn't get made back. Which is fine... But then, my husband feels like he is missing out on his family and friends time, with me. I never stop him going alone, I'm happy to stay at home, but he is a loving husband and wants me there.. He's embarrassed going alone!
I have spoken out to my in-laws about the way his sister is with me. I explained to my MIL that if sister can't be bothered to make an effort, then I in turn am not obligated to visit when she's coming over to in laws.
The whole situation caused a lot of unhappiness within the family. But I had to speak out.
I have only one male friend left. He is my best friend and my shoulder of support. My female friends have never been there for me, so I have let them go. Not one of them could spare some time for me to just talk. Just the once.. One watched me blubber as she lay (yes, lay) on my sofa and all she did was put me down further and didn't even offer to get me a tissue, let alone console me! And trust me.. I needed a tissue!!! I have so many stories, but I think this post is already long enough!
Even within my own family, I only have my mum, but even my mum will sometimes get annoyed with me, for eg, New Year's Day was at mums. I felt really unwell, but she still wanted her nails doing which I did, but she could see I wasn't well. Then she asked me to do her brows etc and at this point it was already 9.30pm on New Year's Day, so I suggested she go into town and get them done following day (as we live about 45 mins from my mum) and she didn't like it. I have never in all my years of working as a therapist, asked her to go anywhere else or charged her a penny. The first time I do, I get the cold Shoulder for 3 weeks, wont take my calls. Any communication she needed to make with me was via cold emails and texts.
So, basically I have 1 friend (but he is the best), my lovely husband and my loopy mum. I've been so sad for so long, the dr has now put me on citalopram for my depressive episodes!
I had counselling... The councellor asked if I had a problem with women, to which i replied "no, they have a problem with me". I believe this! I am friendly and I try (despite my anxiety and depression) but my efforts fall on deaf ears!
I would love my own family, but we are finding it difficult to conceive. Plus I have health problems too and I'm 34 so time is not on my side!
I know many of you will think this is such a negative thread (which it is), BUT I have been holding myself strong and getting on with my life normally, until a year ago. I have had to be strong for so much of my life, dealt with s**t, put on a brave face and carried on with life, but now I can't cope. I'm wasting my life away!
Sorry for long post...x
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