Oh my lovely, I'm a mental health nurse and I fear your own fears re BPD are correct. The way you describe him each time you post just feels like a another tick for the criteria.
This is the hard bit. He needs correct assessment and diagnosis in order to receive the support and skills to change his thinking. But it doesn't sound like he wants to. His thinking will be very different to yours and his behaviour is driven by his emotions and his inability to cope with them effectively.
I'm going to be blunt now. You need to make your own decisions about your future, but don't be fooled into thinking this will pass. Yes, he will probably burn out when he's older, but at his current age, he is in his diagnosis prime!
I feel for you, I really do.
with BPD u mean boarderline? the only reason I think he has it is cos I have read about it as I was looking for something as I thought there must be a reason he is this way. He was apparently way worse when younger and he has become better with age. However I find it very hard and I cant imagine how it wouldve bn when he was younger.
What treatments are there then>? is it councelling and medication or?x