I too have a fear of the dentist..I cant even stand them cleaning my teeth, my dentist knows this.
I didnt used to have a fear of the dentist, and I cant say Ive even had a bad experience thats brought it on, just gradually as the years have gone by Ive become dentist phobic.
Speaking of which I have to go tomorrow for a filling...gulp.
I have had one wisdom tooth removed as it was broken (general injection etc) that took about a day to heal that it didnt hurt, and about a week for the gum to close properly.
I had trouble with two more of my wisdom teeth last year...I was in agony, I couldnt eat or sleep or anything. I went to the dentist and I was advised one had a filling in and it was leaking into the tooth and the other was decaying so they needed to be removed but they did have a curled root, and I would have to go private if I wanted to be knocked out. Now with my dentist phobia I went private because I didnt want to know anything about them coming out.
I got an appointment within a week, went and all I can remember is I sat in the chair, spoke to the dentist, looked at his tv, and next minute I was waking up.
They gave me great after care advice and I followed it because you can get I think its called dry root and apparently that worst than the tooth ache. But all in all it took maybe a week for the gum to heal up on them too.
All I can say is, the fear of having the teeth out is far worst than the doing it and healing etc.
Plus another thing I forgot to mention is, Im a slow healer, but as Im sure you know, things in your mouth heal pretty quickly.
So lets hope you can get an appointment soon, the pain and the anticipation will all be over then.