kirsty
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Just wondered if any geeks have children with ADHD? Or know any? I suspect my youngest may have it.
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Tonimaxwill
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My brother was one of the first in Scotland to diagnoised with it (he was about 15 at the time). What makes you think your child has it?
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kirsty
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She can't sit still, has trouble concentrating on things, does 'naughty' things even though she knows it's wrong and she will get in trouble for it, talks constantly and doesn't listen, has trouble following even simple instructions, gets very angry and violent over the smallest things.......and breathe lol!!!
cheznails
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How old is she. When my little boy turned two and a half he started acting like you have described and always seemed no be bouncing off the walls I spoke to my health visitor and she said he is fine. He is nearly four now and has settled down a lot now. X
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My son was diagnosed when he was about 2-1/2 years old. He was a challenge, to say the least.
How old is your daughter? The symptoms you describe sure sound like ADHD. Best of luck to you and your daughter!
How old is your daughter? The symptoms you describe sure sound like ADHD. Best of luck to you and your daughter!
kirsty
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Just to add, I've had various health visitors, a community nursey nurse and parent support workers involved over the years who have all helped but not enough to keep me sane lol! My youngest (the suspect) has also had councelling.
kirsty
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She will be 7 on the 24th of this month. Her behaviour has been like this since the age of 18 months, it's been a long 7 years lol.
cheznails
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Have you asked for her to be tested she might only have a mild case and they just haven't recognised it. I'd go to the doc and insist that she be tested x
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kirsty
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I've spoken to a doctor but she basically dismissed it within seconds, I'm thinking of making an appointment with another doctor. I've got 2 clients who have children with ADHD (diagnosed) and they're both under the impression that doctors don't want to give a diagnosis.
I don't want her on drugs or anything, I just want to know what's causing all this stress for me and my eldest daughter (she suffers as much as I do, bless her) I treat both girls the same and my eldest is like an angel compared to my youngest.
I don't want her on drugs or anything, I just want to know what's causing all this stress for me and my eldest daughter (she suffers as much as I do, bless her) I treat both girls the same and my eldest is like an angel compared to my youngest.
Tonimaxwill
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Bless, its very very tiring, I remember my mum being run ragged. Sounds very like ADHD especially if she hasn't grown out of it by now.
Have you looked at www.ADHDandyou.co.uk it looks like a good website.
Just so you know my brother is now in his mid 30s and has a job that gets him out and about every day walking, he is married and lives a very normal life.
Keep pushing dotors etc to give you an answer, then you can take the next step.
Lots of love and hugs
Annie
Have you looked at www.ADHDandyou.co.uk it looks like a good website.
Just so you know my brother is now in his mid 30s and has a job that gets him out and about every day walking, he is married and lives a very normal life.
Keep pushing dotors etc to give you an answer, then you can take the next step.
Lots of love and hugs
Annie
kirsty
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Thanks Annie! Yes I've seen that website (and lots of others).
I've spent years making excuses for her behaviour such as, she's only 2, her dad had a drink problem and treated us like ****, she's had a tough life etc etc! I'm running out of excuses now lol, she's almost 7 and still behaves like a 3 year old.
I've spent years making excuses for her behaviour such as, she's only 2, her dad had a drink problem and treated us like ****, she's had a tough life etc etc! I'm running out of excuses now lol, she's almost 7 and still behaves like a 3 year old.
I don't understand the 'I dont' want her on drugs or anything'. If it IS truly ADHD, why not have her on a prescription drug and closely monitored by her Dr? If your child was diabetic, would you withhold insulin? Of course not, no parent would. It's basically the same thing.
Edited to add: I think there is (still) a stigma with having an ADHD child on 'drugs' that there needn't be. Alot of people feel the parent can't 'handle' the child, so just put him/her on drugs and everything will be easier FOR THE PARENT. Nothing could be further from the truth. A child with ADHD truly suffers from the disorder. As parents, our job is to do the very best we can for them.
Again, I have been in your shoes. The drug my son took made a HUGE improvement in him. He was able to sit and concentrate on the task(s) at hand. He was able to focus and he was no longer a danger to himself.
Just my two cents worth... I sincerely wish you all the best!
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eskimonailtech
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I myself have ADHD.
If anyone would like to speak about it, I'd rather do so privately in PM.
If anyone would like to speak about it, I'd rather do so privately in PM.
kirsty
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I don't understand that 'I dont' want her on drugs or anything'. If it IS truly ADHD, why not have her on a prescription drug and being closely followed by her dr? If your child was diabetic, would you not give her insulin? It's basically the same thing.
Again, I have been in your shoes. The drug my son took made a HUGE improvement in him. He was able to sit and concentrate on the task(s) at hand.
Just my two cents worth... I sincerely wish you all the best!
I totally get where you're coming from but I'm worried about possible side effects. I've been on anti-depressants in the past and ended up feeling like I wasn't really myelf anymore, I just didn't give a s**t about anything, I came off them and felt a million times better and haven't looked back. I just don't want her to experience anything similar, she's too young to undrstand or explain things like that. I just worry about her :sad:
Having said that, I've never known a child that's been on these kind of drugs so I don't know what to expect. If she would be exactly the same person just chilled out, then yes I would consider it.I just can't stand the tought of her behaving as though she's doped up all the time or anything like that! As I said I've never known a child on these drugs so I wouldn't know what to expect.
Tonimaxwill
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I myself have ADHD.
If anyone would like to speak about it, I'd rather do so privately in PM.
Speak to eskimonailteck as she will know first hand and from a girls point of view. My brother was on the drug and it made a huge difference, but I understand your concerns. I hope you get the support you need.
Annie
You are absolutely right to be concerned. That's what good parents do. That's why it's important to have her evaluated by a professional. IF meds are prescribed, then have her closely monitored to make sure all is well. ADHD drugs have come a long way than even 20 years ago.
At 7, I'm sure she is capable of explaining any ill side effects (IF any). Like I said, it made a HUGE difference in my son. Never was he 'doped up' acting...just a normal little boy.
You are absolutely right to be concerned. That's what good parents do. That's why it's important to have her evaluated by a professional. IF meds are prescribed, then have her closely monitored to make sure all is well. ADHD drugs have come a long way than even 20 years ago.
At 7, I'm sure she is capable of explaining any ill side effects (IF any). Like I said, it made a HUGE difference in my son. Never was he 'doped up' acting...just a normal little boy.
Completely agree, my son was diagnosed last year, his meds are a god send, I simply couldn't cope if he wasn't taking them.
I was worried about him taking them to begin with and initially he took methylphenidate (Ritalin) just to get him through the school day. Great for his teachers, bad for me! The come down was his whole days usual naughtiness fitted into a couple of hours in the evening but had to be done as he was disturbing the other children's learning in his class with his behaviour.
Diagnosis is the key, you need your gp to refer you to the community paediatrician, then off to specialist once you have a preliminary diagnosis. You need to have the school on board. They won't listen to you alone. It took me yrs to get someone to back me up!
My thoughts are with you
StephR
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I'm surprised it took until the post above this to mention school. Is she the same at school as she is at home? If so could you not ask the school for help, get their special education team on board, they might be able to help and then get you an appointment with the school nurse which will then get your daughter referred to a Paediatrician at the hospital (sorry if I've spelt that wrong). GP's are reluctant to send kids to see a specialist without the back up from school etc
kirsty
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I'll have to see how she gets on in year 3 when they go back in September. Year 1 was pretty bad for her, her teacher labelled her 'the naughty girl' and the 2 of them didn't get on at all. I actually had the teacher reported to the authorities at one point, for pulling her off a ledge by her arm.
Anyway, to cut a long story short year 1 was pretty bad for her at school but at home she was slightly better. Year 2 she had a wonderful teacher who she adores (even named her kitten after her lol) and she was a bit better at school, but worse at home. It seems that if she holds it all together at school, the whole day's bottled up emotions come out at home. So I'm not sure how much support the school will give me. I'm dreading year 3 to be honest, I know from my eldest that it's a big jump from year 2 to to year 3 and I'm not sure how well she will cope.
Anyway, to cut a long story short year 1 was pretty bad for her at school but at home she was slightly better. Year 2 she had a wonderful teacher who she adores (even named her kitten after her lol) and she was a bit better at school, but worse at home. It seems that if she holds it all together at school, the whole day's bottled up emotions come out at home. So I'm not sure how much support the school will give me. I'm dreading year 3 to be honest, I know from my eldest that it's a big jump from year 2 to to year 3 and I'm not sure how well she will cope.
dandelionpoppy
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At the moment we are best-guessing the problem and trying to hang a label on it. I would advise you to use the professional avenues for help.
Here's my advice re the school:
Go in at the beginning of term (not first few days when it's manic) and request a time for a meeting with her class teacher. At this meeting explain that you want what is best for your daughter AND for the rest of the class. This will get her teacher on-side. (I'm going to be brutally honest here; whether you were in the right or not there may be some unfinished business over reporting the previous teacher.)
Open your heart and say that you want the school's help in working with you to help your daughter.
At this point the school will probably involve their SENCO. He/she will probably put in place an individual plan for your daughter, and may decide to involve an Ed Psych........different schools will have different approaches.
Above all remember that everyone involved is actually singing from the same sheet. You all want what is best for her.
HTH. X
ps The school should be willing to work with the Health Service if appropriate.
Here's my advice re the school:
Go in at the beginning of term (not first few days when it's manic) and request a time for a meeting with her class teacher. At this meeting explain that you want what is best for your daughter AND for the rest of the class. This will get her teacher on-side. (I'm going to be brutally honest here; whether you were in the right or not there may be some unfinished business over reporting the previous teacher.)
Open your heart and say that you want the school's help in working with you to help your daughter.
At this point the school will probably involve their SENCO. He/she will probably put in place an individual plan for your daughter, and may decide to involve an Ed Psych........different schools will have different approaches.
Above all remember that everyone involved is actually singing from the same sheet. You all want what is best for her.
HTH. X
ps The school should be willing to work with the Health Service if appropriate.
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