I was just reading through this read and I have an extremely naive question.
You know how one of you said they have to be beautiful on the inside and out - I completely agree %100 and when someone loves you of course they are going to be generous, loving, caring and in your eyes will be beautiful inside and out.
Maybe I don't understand this whole love thing well enough but I've only been with one guy and was with him for a reallllllly long time in high school and he seemed beautiful on the inside and outside but to everyone else he wasn't .
He was only "beautiful on the inside" because I was in love with him, he was only good to me because he knew that was how you're meant to treat your lover, he wasn't good to other people, infact, he was the completely opposite.
I'm sure everyone wants a partner with a very good heart and a kind soul, but how many truly good people out there are there?
Not many.
Some people talk. Anyone can talk, but what's on the inside is what's important.
My point is, I've seen soo many guys that are not very nice people in relationships with the sweetest women, in the women's eyes they're beautiful..
So, my question is, how can people look for a partner "with a good heart" when there aren't many of them out there that are genuine.
Does love blind you? Can you eventually see their true colours? Because I sure did, because the "honeymoon" stage doesn't last for long and then you start seeing the way they really are.
It confuses me, I don't even know if I'm making sense.
I always wonder about things like this.
For me it can be measured in the way that they talk to (and about) sales staff, waiters, their own family, friends and you.
When I met my OH, we lived in different countries, so it was difficult for me to see these kind of things. I recognised that he was a caring person by the things that he used to do for others, for example his mother. As in, taking her shopping, giving her a lift to the podiatrist, stopping by every Saturday morning then buying her fish and chips (her treat) and sitting with her so she wasn't eating alone (she was 83 at the time)
Unkind people don't do this kind of stuff.
Also, I used to work in a top class restaurant, and the people with "old" money were very appreciative to us staff, where as the "nouveau riche" as they were called there treated you like servants.
So if you pay attention to how people treat waiting staff, sales people etc. I think that gives you quite a good measure of how kind they really are and if they show and possess any empathy.
I heard somewhere that if you throw a glass of milk over someone, their reaction will tell you exactly what kind of person they are.