Hi geeks,
I just wanted to get an outsider opinion on what I'm going through at the moment.
I very suddenly lost my 32 year old brother 2 weeks ago and today was the day of his funeral. We as a family have been coping well by remembering all the happy memories. I refuse to sit moping as I know full well he would never want that and would go stir crazy himself.
My question I'm putting to you is this...how do you deal with friends who haven't been there for you?
Now I live in Australia but grew up in Enfland. So this is aimed at my oldest friends. My partners friends have even amazing and have messages him everyday asking how we are and sent flowers. My best friend and a few others have also been wonderful.
There are some 4 people who I considered to be my closest friends that have spoken to me once in the 2 weeks. I really feel they have let me down and left me feeling quite lonely. I completely understand that not everyone knows what to say in this situation but even a text to say they are thinking of us is all I would have needed.
I'm not confrontational but I'm really annoyed at them. One messaged me 2 days ago and I did say in a reply that I was waiting to hear from him and was a bit happier now he had messaged. To which he said Noone knows what to say.(in a nice way)
What would you do? I never like to kick up a fuss, I look after everyone but myself and if it hasn't been something so serious I would of brushed it aside.
Any opinions?
Laura xxx
I just wanted to get an outsider opinion on what I'm going through at the moment.
I very suddenly lost my 32 year old brother 2 weeks ago and today was the day of his funeral. We as a family have been coping well by remembering all the happy memories. I refuse to sit moping as I know full well he would never want that and would go stir crazy himself.
My question I'm putting to you is this...how do you deal with friends who haven't been there for you?
Now I live in Australia but grew up in Enfland. So this is aimed at my oldest friends. My partners friends have even amazing and have messages him everyday asking how we are and sent flowers. My best friend and a few others have also been wonderful.
There are some 4 people who I considered to be my closest friends that have spoken to me once in the 2 weeks. I really feel they have let me down and left me feeling quite lonely. I completely understand that not everyone knows what to say in this situation but even a text to say they are thinking of us is all I would have needed.
I'm not confrontational but I'm really annoyed at them. One messaged me 2 days ago and I did say in a reply that I was waiting to hear from him and was a bit happier now he had messaged. To which he said Noone knows what to say.(in a nice way)
What would you do? I never like to kick up a fuss, I look after everyone but myself and if it hasn't been something so serious I would of brushed it aside.
Any opinions?
Laura xxx