I like the shake and spray method- With a medium hold aerosol or a fast drying non aerosol spray shake your head vigorously (like you were saying no) and spray the ends, it will give a soft, separated and touseled appearance on medium length or shorter hair. Works best with layers, but will give some definition and piecing even on blunt cut styles. Define further with wax or paste if desired. Go to a salon for professional products and demonstration. (at least they should help you learn how to use the products anyway...we do)